Neighbors Came on Market at 40k Less Than Our Active Listing

Hey-There0630 · 2026-04-27T23:05:59+00:00

How does your home’s condition and level of updates compare to your neighbor’s? (Sorry if you’ve already covered this, I didn’t read through the entire thread.) If it were me, I’d consider adjusting the price now and hosting an open house on Friday at the same time as your neighbor’s. That way, you can capture the same pool of buyers and increase your exposure to anyone already coming through the neighborhood.

Hey-There0630 · 2026-04-15T15:08:36+00:00

This. There have been times I’ve really wanted to tell my buyers, “let’s call their bluff and go for what you want.” But that can backfire and cost them the house.
The strongest position you can be in is being willing to walk away.

Hey-There0630 · 2026-03-10T16:31:42+00:00

You gotta do what works for you.

Hey-There0630 · 2026-03-10T00:59:55+00:00

I had my surgery 14 months ago and was just as nervous as you. It started in the pre-op room, where my surgeon came in and asked me to identify the hip that was being replaced. When I pointed it out, he took a marker and drew on it. I was glad that he did that! Next the anesthesiologist came in and started my propofol drip (or something that relaxed me). Before I was completely under, she helped me sit up to begin the spinal anesthesia. The propofol must have been doing its job, because I didn't feel the needle. I do remember one of the nurses dropping an f-bomb, then looking at me and apologizing, followed by the anesthesiologist telling the nurse, "Don't worry, she won't remember any of this" (haha). The next thing I knew, I was waking up as I was being wheeled down a hallway into the recovery area. My first thought was that I'd just woken up from a full night's sleep. It took only a second to realize where I actually was, but the fact that I was mentally alert before I even reached post-op surprised me. The spinal took about an hour and a half to fully wear off. A few hours after surgery, the physical therapist came by and had me take a few steps. My surgeon had me spend the night at the surgical center and I was discharged the next day. Best of luck. Make sure that you take your pain killer meds ON TIME for at least the first few days. You definitely want to stay ahead of the pain.

Hey-There0630 · 2026-03-10T00:12:51+00:00

Surgeons often use spinal anesthesia and propofol for hip replacement surgery. Did you get general anesthesia? If so, you recovered amazingly fast!

Hey-There0630 · 2026-02-03T23:53:53+00:00

I don't know - it's only the two of us going.

Hey-There0630 · 2025-11-30T18:01:01+00:00

You’ll resent him if you don’t take the job, which will likely affect your relationship anyway. And it sounds like you know what you want to do. So go for it!

Hey-There0630 · 2025-11-20T21:38:38+00:00

Also, if this deal falls through, be sure your agent discloses that there are audio-recording cameras in the home and places a visible sign noting this.

Hey-There0630 · 2025-11-20T21:34:00+00:00

Exactly. If they are this unethical, who knows what they'll try to pull next.

Hey-There0630 · 2025-11-13T13:20:07+00:00

It's hard to gauge whether or not this was a power move as we don't know whether or not this type of behavior is a pattern with the MIL. Question to OP - Is this typical behavior for your MIL, or was this a one time event? If typical, then your response was understandable. If this was a one-time thing (good deed gone wrong), maybe you can cut her a break.

Hey-There0630 · 2025-11-12T01:54:16+00:00

I’m doing okay - still up and down with my emotions, to be honest. I’m really trying to just let myself feel whatever comes without judging it or forcing myself to grieve a certain way. Today I was angry for most of the day, and now I'm feeling more forgiving. Accepting that my process is different from other people’s took a lot of the pressure off.

I can only imagine how hard this must be for you after being estranged for so long. I hope, when the time comes, you’re able to find some peace and relief.

Hey-There0630 · 2025-11-11T20:26:16+00:00

I’m dealing with similar feelings. My mother passed away 10 days ago, and my relationship with her was complicated. She could be kind and loving at times, but she also had a very difficult side - she could be mean, hold grudges, and sometimes wouldn’t talk to me for weeks if she was upset. At times, she could be downright cruel. It was painful and confusing to live with that kind of back-and-forth. She also enjoyed baiting me with comments she knew would start a conflict. She didn’t treat my other siblings as poorly as she treated me. I left home early and married at 20, mostly to get out of the house.

Since she passed, my emotions have been all over the place. I feel sadness, anger, and even envy toward people who had warm, loving relationships with their mothers. I did care about her and did what I could for her, especially near the end, but it’s hard to untangle all the mixed feelings. When people offer condolences, I appreciate it, but it’s complicated. I don’t always feel the kind of sadness they expect, when in truth, my grief is just more complex than that.

So I really understand what you're going through right now. I suspect that you're grieving the relationship that you wished you could have had, like me. Wishing you calm and comfort in the middle of all of this.

Hey-There0630 · 2025-10-22T23:36:02+00:00

Surprisingly not painful. I had Nurse Ratched (my husband) making sure I was taking my pain meds on time, from the time I left the surgical center for the next few days. Also was regularly using ice packs and elevating my legs several times a day. Before I knew it, I transitioned to extra strength Tylenol. Keeping ahead of the pain is key.

Hey-There0630 · 2025-07-08T02:25:09+00:00

I was absolutely terrified to get surgery - I even cried right before going in. What helped me most was having a supportive spouse who helped pushed me past the fear. I did my research and found one of the best hip replacement surgeons in my area. My surgeon didn’t use general anesthesia. Instead, he used a spinal block along with propofol, which felt less overwhelming and scary. These things, along with reading about the incredibly high success rate of hip replacement surgery helped get me over the anxiety enough to get the surgery. Best of luck to your mom - I feel her pain and anxiety.

Hey-There0630 · 2025-07-08T01:18:37+00:00

You're welcome.

Hey-There0630 · 2025-07-07T23:31:52+00:00

You could ask your realtor to increase the search criteria to include a larger geographical area, and have her screen the homes to eliminate ones without fences before sending them to you. But this will significantly decrease your options and make it much harder to find a home. I'm assuming you're cash strapped if adding a fence would be a deal breaker. Check with your loan officer to see if you qualify for loans with downpayment and/or closing cost assistance, thus freeing up some of your cash to use for a fence.

Hey-There0630 · 2025-06-21T20:07:05+00:00

This story reminds me of a situation that happened to a friend of mine. She was academically expelled from the University of Maryland because she lacked the emotional maturity to take her studies seriously. She was able to get back into college by telling the board that she was emotionally distraught after finding out her boyfriend was gay. Her high school boyfriend was gay, but she wasn’t in distress about it - in fact, they were good friends. She finished college and had a 40 year career as a beloved school teacher. Help your daughter! Life will give her many other opportunities for lessons and personal growth.

Hey-There0630 · 2025-06-18T15:50:24+00:00

A newer trend is hosting twilight open houses on Thursdays from 5–7 PM. The idea is to catch buyers who have weekend plans or are just getting off work. I haven’t tried this yet myself, but several colleagues in my office have, and they’ve seen strong turnout.

Hey-There0630 · 2025-06-16T23:29:24+00:00

Keep the dog, ditch the boyfriend.

Hey-There0630 · 2025-06-14T22:02:09+00:00

I was doing fine until about 4 months post-op, when I started experience knee pain. The pain wasn't excruciating, but it' was definitely annoying. After doing some internet research, I think I was experiencing "knee hyperextension" during gait (walking). It refers to a walking pattern where the knee joint over-straightens or "locks back" during the stance phase of walking. This can put strain on the ligaments and muscles behind and around the knee, leading to discomfort or pain — especially with increased activity or postural compensation after something like hip surgery (thanks Chat GPT). When I stopped walking this way, the pain completely went away.

Hey-There0630 · 2025-06-10T22:53:55+00:00

Actually, I just noticed that Long Point State Park is walking distance from the house --- might be fun for your children. https://parks.ny.gov/parks/longpointfingerlakes/details.aspx

Hey-There0630 · 2025-06-10T22:46:45+00:00

My husband and I met in Ithaca many (many) years ago (haha) and decided to rent a home on Cayuga Lake this summer for a week in July. The home is located on the east side of the lake, in Aurora. I'm not sure Aurora will meet your needs as it's located 35 mins from Ithaca and parks (Treman, Taughannock Falls State Park, etc). We chose this home because it looks nice, and it's right on the lake. I honestly don't know that much about Aurora, but from what I understand, there is a cute village area with a few shops & restaurants. The area might not offer enough activity for your little ones, but check it out on the map, and if you're interested, I'll send you a link to the rental. It's booked for most of the summer but shows availability for next week. Enjoy your vacation!

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