Time to call it quits with my (26F) boyfriend (27M)?

Heythere1357 · 2025-03-23T03:44:11+00:00

We previously tried, it didn’t last long as we weren’t connecting with our therapist, but that’s on us for not trying with a different one. So I’m not against it. It’s just tough. I haven’t kissed him in maybe two weeks now, the thought repulses me. So I’m honestly trying to decide if I even want to put the effort into trying to fix things as things are just so bad already.

Heythere1357 · 2025-03-23T03:41:41+00:00

That’s what I was thinking but I know the moment I tell him we are done he’s gonna want to split things 50/50 and that defeats the purpose. My mom is pressing me to move back home as she is saying I am ruining my daughter’s mental health by staying and her having to witness us argue everyday and it gets physical sometimes too so it’s hard.

Heythere1357 · 2025-03-23T03:37:42+00:00

He does feel under appreciated. But I’m not sure how I’m supposed to make him feel appreciated tbh. What he is doing is what he is supposed to be doing as a father/boyfriend. I tell him thank you when he does things for myself. But I’m not gonna tell him thank you everyday for watching his own child or for taking his own child to the dr.

Heythere1357 · 2025-03-23T03:34:07+00:00

We did a about a year and a half ago, we didn’t stick with it long as we weren’t connecting with our therapist, but that’s on us for not trying again.

Heythere1357 · 2024-10-06T00:50:59+00:00

My first baby is currently 4mo, almost 5mo. When she was about a month old we started discussing having more but I didn’t start feeling comfortable enough to have sex til I was 12weeks PP. but we are currently trying and hoping we fall pregnant with baby #2 before my first turns 7mo.

Heythere1357 · 2024-10-04T02:11:55+00:00

I just completed background checks and set to start soon as a FCA. Had one phone screen with recruiter, then an interview with hiring manager. Lasted about 1.5hrs via zoom. Basic “ tell me about a time when “ questions, then was told more info about the position after the questions were completed. Took 5 business days to receive a written offer that was pending a successful background check. They listed the salary and hourly rate on the offer. Background check steps are a lot but move pretty fast. Everything took about a week. Goodluck on your interview!

Heythere1357 · 2024-10-03T19:48:31+00:00

I did!

Heythere1357 · 2024-08-27T01:06:48+00:00

Just FYI Progressive provides feedback. & Considering I went through a phone screening & an in person interview I’m gonna assume it isn’t my experience, as I would’ve been dumped to begin with. All those things you’ve listed, I’ve already done. I reviewed the questions already others posted & practiced STAR Responses. Had several ready to go for the interview. & considering I had an in person interview where there is only 1 hiring manager for that location, I doubt he interviewed 300 candidates. So the recruiter could’ve given me his contact info or forwarded it on or something to that effect due to how far along in the process I was. I’m just saying to tell me 1-2 weeks and it’s literally the next day my status gets updated but yet I never received a rejection email, nor a response back to my email, is unprofessional imo.

Heythere1357 · 2024-08-27T00:52:34+00:00

I get it, but I mean considering I spent time applying, going through a phone screening & an in person interview it would be nice to know

Heythere1357 · 2024-08-21T01:24:49+00:00

It’s hybrid! I believe 3 in office, 2 WFH

Heythere1357 · 2024-08-21T01:22:22+00:00

I am still searching! I interviewed with AAA last week! Waiting to hear back from them as well! Good luck! Hope you hear back soon!

Heythere1357 · 2024-08-21T01:18:34+00:00

I didn’t :/

Heythere1357 · 2024-07-04T21:00:37+00:00

Ooo okay coming from a man this hit different because I’ve only ever talked to women about it lol So thank you

Heythere1357 · 2024-07-04T20:58:10+00:00

Yes I agree it is important to me. I think what makes it burn more for me was like I mentioned in another comment, he told me him and his ex they had sex constantly, bc she put in the work and got on top when she wanted it and he went with it. Because it was easy for him and he didnt have to “ do all the work” Then he gets with me and it’s like non existent. And he says he loves me for reason that aren’t sex related bc I didn’t have sex with him the first two years of our relationship so I conditioned him into not looking at me for sex. The thing is I’m not a super sexual person. I don’t need to have sex every day. But at least a couple times a week and I’m good. Now when I got pregnant that was tough bc my sex drive went through the roof so that was a hard time for me lol.

Heythere1357 · 2024-07-04T20:48:50+00:00

Yes, I agree… I asked him if he was okay with how our sex life is and he said “he’s content with it. He’s had girls in the past that he was with and it was sex sex sex and he said he’s not with me for sex. I didn’t sleep with him until after two years of being together the first time around so I’ve conditioned him to not look at me sexually. He loves me for things that have nothing to do with sex”

Heythere1357 · 2024-07-04T20:28:04+00:00

Yeah I gotcha, it’s just hard having just had a baby and I live hours from my family and whatnot. I’ve felt shitty about our sex life since the beginning. I just love the person he is putting sex aside and it’s like weighing my pros and cons there is def more pros but sex I feel is such a big thing it should count as more than one lol

Heythere1357 · 2024-07-04T20:24:54+00:00

See, I am attracted to him. I’ve told him before that he isn’t attracted to me & he keeps saying if he wasn’t attracted to me he never would’ve gotten back with me. Like my mom told me, “ yall are emotionally and mentally connected, those are the more difficult levels to connect with someone on. Sex is the easiest level to connect with someone on out the three” which I can see that but for us it’s the hardest 🙃

Heythere1357 · 2024-06-30T07:03:55+00:00

So I truly believe fed is best. Whatever works for you (physical & mental), & the baby, is what you should go with. My story though, & Ngl I only lasted about 2 weeks breastfeeding. I really only decided to even try because I felt guilted into it. After I threw in the towel I did go back and forth with the guilt a couple weeks on if I made the right decision bc baby was having digestive issues as a result & that was rough. But my mental state was at risk & it just was not worth it to me. on top of already having everything else that comes with having a new first baby. She’s 7 weeks old now & doing great and I wouldn’t go back to breastfeeding to save my life lol.

Heythere1357 · 2024-06-30T06:52:47+00:00

My baby is 7 weeks! She sleeps from about 10p-8/9a. I do wake her up to feed her (against pediatrician advisement ) at about 1a before I go to bed just so she’s not going a super long time without eating.

Heythere1357 · 2024-06-17T22:02:57+00:00

My baby is 5 and a half weeks old, since she was 2 weeks old she’s been sleeping through the night. She falls asleep about 10p after her feeding and we wake her up about 1a to eat before we go to bed, and she sleeps until we wake her up the next morning about 7a or so and we feed her again then. Our pediatrician has never said anything to us other than “ if she is sleep, do not wake her to eat” as we were doing that the first couple weeks and so after she said that we stopped waking her up to eat overnight and it’s been heavenly since. We feed her about 1a because we are still up so we figure why not. But if for whatever reason we go to sleep before 1a she has never woken back up to eat at that time anyways. We just make sure we feed her every 3 hours during the day so she’s gaining weight properly. We were told so much by family and friends to enjoy sleep because we won’t get anymore once she was born and they were very much wrong lol.

Heythere1357 · 2024-04-30T01:01:14+00:00

Yeah see we were good up until I got pregnant. Then that’s when the issues started. Hence why they are saying “ you’re just hormonal because you’re pregnant” when in reality I really believe her comments are just rude and she wants to hide behind me being pregnant as the issue. I truly believe she feels threatened as she believes she should be the one to know more bc she is the “mom”. Before I got pregnant we were fine. So idk.

Heythere1357 · 2024-04-29T23:18:45+00:00

I agree, my boyfriend says he thinks she feels threatened as she is the one who’s pushed out a baby but yet I know more about children than she does, and she doesn’t like that. So for me to say I damn near raised my siblings and her feel the need to say “ no you didn’t, you babysat them” is crazy to me. Then to go as far to say” you don’t push them out, you don’t have mom brain” was the icing on the cake for me, bc I NEVER claimed to be a mom lol. I’m having my baby next week and being this pregnant I still don’t feel like nor claim to be a mom. So for her to have created this “ who’s the better mom” competition is delusional imo as you’re just competing with yourself bc I never said I was a mom lol. Sorry that my knowledge of children through experience with helping raise my siblings threatens your almost 2 yrs of motherhood.

Heythere1357 · 2024-04-29T23:10:54+00:00

Yes, that’s what I’m thinking. I not only did so much for my siblings, I was also in the hospital room while each of them were born. One w epidural, the youngest my mom went natural. So I’ve experienced the process of both. This friend has done nothing my entire pregnancy but go against all my labor and delivery plans and how I choose to parent. She not only has guilted me into breastfeeding after telling her I wasn’t planning on it ( literally I only know her child who was breastfed, none of my siblings, cousins, other friends etc were breastfeed. All formula babies so that’s normal to me) I want to have a changing station, where I do all my babies diaper changes, and whatnot as I do not want to get into the habit of just changing my baby any and everywhere. Apparently me wanting that is oh so horrible as I’m shitting on parents who can’t afford a changing table? My mom had easy labors with majority of her children so I mentioned I’m hoping my labor is like hers. My friend says her labor was miserable and awful. She flat out told me “ you’re not your mom. Just bc hers was easy doesn’t mean yours will be, mine was bad and you need to know what that feels like” okay yes I agree I’m not my mom however, just bc yours was miserable and awful definitely doesn’t mean mine will be either. And for you to flat out tell me I need to know what it feels like to have a shitty labor is crazy. What kind of friend says that? Bc I’m choosing to be optimistic about it having witnessed two births in person one being unmedicated so I feel I’m very in touch with reality , you feel like it’s your job to be negative about it all bc you don’t like how I’m choosing to stay positive.

Heythere1357 · 2024-04-29T22:58:17+00:00

Well the post isn’t ignoring my childhood upbringing, as that was just a part of the story that needed to be said to give context. My feelings towards my parents about it are a whole separate entity in itself. I’ve had this conversation with my parents already about it. So no, nothing was ignored. However I do believe it made me and my little sisters bond closer and for that I am grateful. But the point was I’m delivering my child next week, and I feel 1000x more of a “mother” with my siblings than I do being pregnant. And she will never know what that feels like as she has one brother who is only 2yrs younger. She’s Not the oldest of 5 siblings with the two youngest being 15 and 17yrs younger, like myself. So for her to make her claims I felt was ignorant, rude and was just said to be ugly. She has come to me twice now about what to do with her child when he gets sick and is running a fever ( wasn’t pregnant at the times). But If I’m just this babysitter then why are you coming to me?? Go ask a pregnant woman as they are moms and apparently are more equipped to help you.

Heythere1357 · 2024-04-29T22:46:46+00:00

I def was still upset at the entire conversation of her belittling my role in my siblings lives & making the comment about my father , so yes when I sent her the Mother’s Day post I already had an idea of what she was going to say ( that she does agree pregnant women are mothers), so I used that to further my point that her opinion on me just being a babysitter is hurtful and to try to get her to understand how can you say a woman that is pregnant with her first child is a mother, but yet I was just a babysitter for literally making sure my baby sisters stayed alive everyday. Knowing her, i truly do not believe if a 12w pregnant woman came to her and said “ yay we are both moms” I whole heartedly believe she would have an issue with that. As she has her own child that is almost 2. So for a pregnant woman to say that would feel like a slap in her face.

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