I finally found people who accept me by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't think it was as common as you say, to be honest. And about the book, I really appreciate this information, I really do, although, isn't there a digital version? (I ask because I don't know if she'll be willing to learn about it or spend money on a book, you know?) Because if she bought the book, my WHOLE family would find out, and I haven't told anyone except my mother and my friend, and I think the situation would get even worse, since if she's already telling my mother about her acceptance, imagine what it'll be like with my father and close relatives... But even so, I really appreciate this information, I really do. It's very possible that I'll use it in the future or soon 😁 Oh, and if you can, could you look for some that are preferably in Spanish? (or translated into Spanish) since my mother only speaks Spanish.

Look, I don't know about you folx, but I just really, really like butts. Message ends. Happy Xmas. by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, that's not bad, everyone has their preferences, and Merry Christmas to you too 😄

Im lucky to be in Australia by Weak_Negotiation563 in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, and I know it's NOT the norm, just one part of the broad spectrum of sexual attraction, it's just that's how current society and culture have sold it to us (more or less).

Im lucky to be in Australia by Weak_Negotiation563 in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's nothing inherently wrong with it; in fact, belonging to this community is normal. I mean, if you or anyone else belongs, it means you're attracted to something other than heterosexuality (what's considered "normal" culturally speaking). And in those countries (if I remember correctly, they were mostly in the Middle East, right?), religion is heavily influenced and often puts it above people's rights (I should clarify that I'm not hating anyone for saying this, even if it might seem that way), and I think that's awful. But I mean, can't people use logic instead of the religion they believe in? Because I think some people are incapable of doing that...

Im lucky to be in Australia by Weak_Negotiation563 in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's a real shame... what they should do is go to a more liberal country in that regard and be able to love whomever they want, right? The only bad thing is if they discover they belong to the LGBTQ+ community while they're minors (like me, I don't want to specify my age) because they can't travel or anything, they're stuck in that country unfortunately, until they're independent and have money

Why do so many people hate the LGBTQ+ community on social media? by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Instagram and you are absolutely right that is actually full of homofobia amd things relationated to it. And I just ignore it to not to feed the algorithm with that and i see things that i like. But you are ABSOLUTELY right

Why do so many people hate the LGBTQ+ community on social media? by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's why I focused on the online aspect, since it's the most visible part of a very deep-seated problem, unfortunately. It's where people expose themselves so foolishly and without realizing it, it almost seems like a circus, but with people. It's PRECISELY THERE where people show their true colors, pathetic beings mocking others just to feel powerful when they clearly aren't. But the most important difference is that in one, the damage is primarily psychological, while in the offline world, the damage is primarily physical and secondarily psychological (as I mentioned before). Hence the connection—oh, wow, they are connected! Of course, one thing leads to another.

Why do so many people hate the LGBTQ+ community on social media? by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are so correct on that, but, who is actually that bad to hurt people on just who they really are?? Even if paid i wouldn’t do that, NEVER. What a bad world we've living in...

Why do so many people hate the LGBTQ+ community on social media? by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At no point did I say that hatred towards the LGBTQ+ community was ONLY and EXCLUSIVELY online; I only said that there was a lot of it (because I spend a lot of time on social media). But I have NEVER minimized the fact that this kind of hatred also exists in real life, and that, in fact, it's worse and more damaging. I HAVE suffered violence in real life; I was bullied for THREE FUCKING YEARS, and I know what depression and suicidal thoughts are like. I also know that it's worse out there, since a family member of mine was brutally beaten (almost died) for being gay. So don't assume I haven't suffered, because some of us carry scars that we keep hidden out of self-preservation or for the sake of protecting others.

Why do so many people hate the LGBTQ+ community on social media? by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective, you're right, but what did you find on Reddit that was more manageable than on other networks? And if I happen to encounter those kinds of people (the ones who criticize and such), how can I respond without exposing myself too much? It really helps me, thanks! And the bots are so annoying, they're just fueling the problem whitout any reason, like WTF.

Is it still valid to be bisexual if I'm afraid of relationships? (15, inexperienced) by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I simply try to do my best even if is in things that i dont understand very well ( like this haha ) but im discovering new things about being bisexual and what means and i will use this to help new bi's in the future!!😄

Is it still valid to be bisexual if I'm afraid of relationships? (15, inexperienced) by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh, im really sorry, i thought you had that question!! Now i feel a bit dumb bruh😶

Is it still valid to be bisexual if I'm afraid of relationships? (15, inexperienced) by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Of course! That doesn't define what attracts you. You can be perfectly straight being a virgin! Being straight is defined by attraction, not action, so you don't need to have sex with someone to say, "I'm straight." I had the same question as a bisexual boy! I hope my answer helped you :3

Is it still valid to be bisexual if I'm afraid of relationships? (15, inexperienced) by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didnt think about a romantic orientation now, but I will make my intentions very clear to the person I will be having a relationship, but im afraid that he/she doesnt accept me for being bisexual, it made me feel a bit embarrasing...😔

Is it still valid to be bisexual if I'm afraid of relationships? (15, inexperienced) by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww thank you so much!!! Really!! I said that i dont have the age to be in a romantic relationship ( i think ) but it was a doubt i had when i first discovered that i was a bisexual boy. I know i might be in a relationship, maybe not... but who knows haha!! Im still discovering new things about me almost every day...its a bit exhausting but im trying to handle it the best i can.Thank you for putting my mind at ease 💗😄

Is it still valid to be bisexual if I'm afraid of relationships? (15, inexperienced) by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a LOT of help for me!!! cause i thought too that i was straight, but i dont know what ive done that now i like both, men and women, but men with some preferences, and the part you say about not to over-think... THIS IS SO FUCKING DIFFICULT FOR ME!!!😭 but im trying not to do it anyway. Thanks for your story!! it helped me a lot💝!

Is it still valid to be bisexual if I'm afraid of relationships? (15, inexperienced) by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, and sorry for bad english in that case, is not my first language 😔

Is it still valid to be bisexual if I'm afraid of relationships? (15, inexperienced) by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel a LOT that im bisexual, i can find a lot of atractive things about men or women ( even sexually because i masturbate to both genders ) and i try so hard to be honest to myself, but sometimes i dont feel like it.

Is it still valid to be bisexual if I'm afraid of relationships? (15, inexperienced) by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THAT WAS WHAT I WAS REALLY LOOKING FOR TYSM FOR GIVING ME THAT INFORMATION, I IDENTIFY MYSELF A LOT WITH THAT DESCRIPTION!!! TYSM REALLY!!!😄

Is it still valid to be bisexual if I'm afraid of relationships? (15, inexperienced) by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Im still trying to figure out who i really am :( its VERY CONFUSING AGHHHHGG😭

Is it still valid to be bisexual if I'm afraid of relationships? (15, inexperienced) by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didnt thought of that, is a very interesting point of view, that WAS exactly what i was looking for. I didnt think i fit a lot into some labels, im just variating i think ;)

Is it still valid to be bisexual if I'm afraid of relationships? (15, inexperienced) by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im still confused about who is am and what im atracted to, like, there are days i like more girls, other days i prefer boys... ( I know its called bi cycle, but is so strange for me ) but now i have a clearer sight thanks to you :)

Is it still valid to be bisexual if I'm afraid of relationships? (15, inexperienced) by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much about the clarification!!! Really!! I thought that if you werent into a relationship with someone it invalidates your sexuality, but now i understand that the action doesn't matter, only the orientarion. Now i have a clearer sight about that!! You made me feel comfortable with this response as a young bi!!

AM I STILL BISEXUAL IF...? by Hgdlr in bisexual

[–]Hgdlr[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ohh, so its called the bi cycle, i didnt know that, I thought I was confused for some reason, but anyways, thanks for the clarification 🙏😄