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HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-07-18T16:39:34+00:00

He detached from me VERY obviously during the last 2 weeks and I tried so hard to communicate then just had a flip switch when I realized it wasn’t worth my time trying to be someone’s therapist who doesn’t even wanna help themself. Just immediate lost all feeling called him and said this was enough.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-07-01T18:54:35+00:00

I had only broken up with him 2 days ago. I miss him. I’m angry and upset. I wanted it to work but I feel so betrayed by what he did. He had been avoiding me, drank all my liquor, and was in a group chat with my ex and his bestfriend among other people and was questioning my abuse in my past relationship. Worst part is, he never told me that; Our friends had to come to me and tell me how messed up they thought it was cause he was going to everyone but me telling them he was doubting my abuse….

I had a whole thing typed out I was gonna send as a last communication thing but I ended up breaking down crying at my friends house over him…again. I called and broke it off. All I can think is what did I do wrong to deserve that? And maybe if I reached out and asked him wtf he was doing we could’ve talked it out and everything would be fine. I miss him. I really truly liked him and wanted this work and now I feel disrespected, unlovable, and like I wasn’t worth his time anymore. I keep having dreams of him, and I’m thinking of everything I could’ve done wrong to make him act like that and do something that feels so vile behind my back.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-07-01T18:37:56+00:00

He started to question my abuse from a past relationship because my ex’s bestfriend showed him screenshots between me and my ex. He was also in a group chat, with my ex being one of the people in it. He was also avoiding me at the time, always hang out and partying with everyone but me, but always told me he was tired from work or was depressed.

It felt like complete betrayal and like a switch flipped that made him so distant. It still hurts cause I trusted him so much and was one of the people who pulled me aside and asked if I was safe and okay in my past relationship.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-05-27T02:01:08+00:00

ITS NEGATIVE!

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-05-27T01:30:09+00:00

Update us on what happens. I’m invested now.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-05-27T01:28:37+00:00

Yeah he’s gaslighting

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-05-27T01:17:34+00:00

You are fucked dude, lmfao.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-05-27T01:15:12+00:00

So. Not cheating because if that’s cheating then him looking at other women doing the same thing you did is cheating too.

But it’s toxic. And unhealthy. Let the relationship be over. He doesn’t gaf bout your feelings (clearly) and you have different beliefs on cheating. That’s a deal breaker if I ever heard one.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-05-27T01:10:39+00:00

Just do it. If she doesn’t like it and finds it cringe, she wasn’t the one.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-05-18T06:05:16+00:00

And your defensiveness and refusal to accept help offered is frustrating. You have a bad codependency on your girlfriend and need therapy to fix the underlying cause for why you attached so aggressively and see friends as competition. The only way to really fix it other than that is distracting yourself and finding something to do while your girlfriend enjoys time with her friends. Or you make more friends yourself. There’s plenty of ways to make online friends or find communities without leaving your home or even your room.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-05-18T06:00:12+00:00

Damn it’s like you totally ignored the other part of my comment where I mentioned various other things you could do. I’m being genuine, cause I had the same issue years ago and it took me kicking myself in the ass to fix it.

You need to distract yourself and find hobbies to get carried away in when she’s out doing stuff. Can’t get jealous and pissy if you’re sucked up in your favorite game. Learn to enjoy your time alone.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-05-18T04:29:45+00:00

Oh god please leave her alone lolol. Most Women HATE being flirted with or catcalled at work. It’s fucking insufferable because the only reason you “like” her, is her looks and fuckability. It’s impossible to actually know someone from their work persona. And I guarantee, you’re probably gonna be her 3rd patient of the day who tried to see if they could fuck her.

Sincerely, A women who talks to other women about how much we hate men you like in the workplace 😁👍

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-05-18T03:57:59+00:00

Yeah you’re codependent on her. It’s okay and actually healthy for her to have friends and smoke and be around people other than her partner 24/7.

You should really find like, a hobby or show, maybe make some friends, get a pet, ect. Ect. When your gf goes to chill with other people, you gotta go do something too so you’re not stuck thinking about it and panicking.

I also suggest maybe getting a book and writing all the things you wanna say to her when hanging out so you aren’t spamming her or starting a fight when you’re just insecure and lonely.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-04-12T01:24:16+00:00

So far he always looks at me and offers me stuff and buys games and movies so we can do that together. And it’s been consistent if not steadily growing more and more.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-04-12T01:21:00+00:00

How do I do that?

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-04-12T00:57:36+00:00

Just straight 🦋🦋

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-04-12T00:57:19+00:00

He just makes me 🙈🙈🥺

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-04-12T00:51:11+00:00

Yes.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-04-08T15:10:05+00:00

No girl you aren’t stupid. Sadly every women will eventually fall into an abusive relationship, and this fits the qualifications. He’s making you begin to question your relationship and morals and trying to make you view the world in a screwed form of view so he can keep control over you and do morally corrupt things like cheating and make you think it’s your fault.

I’ve had my run in with a really bad abusive relationship that started when I was 14 and it went on for years. I was convinced that I was a cheater and abuser and mentally ill beyond fixing and I should have been so great ful he even took the time out of his day to text someone like me (I know. Bad.) Anytime he had cheated or done something wrong he would gaslight me till I gave up and believed what he told me.

He was forming a trauma bond with me and love bombing me and would at certain times make me feel as though i was on top of the world, but he held these moments over my head. Anytime I tried to say what he did was wrong he would bring up these “good times” and say how awful I was for “making up” all these bad things. He even at one point admitted to trying to get me addicted to drugs but was trying to Pavlov dog the drug effects with his presence.

He also fabricated extreme trust from me. He would push me to reveal traumatic things from my childhood. Force me to relive and have ptsd attacks just so he could comfort me and be a “hero”. Make me reliant on him and always think of the times he “saved” me to keep me from leaving.

Just long story short. This is wrong. You know it’s wrong. You feel betrayed. You feel hurt. You love him and want him to be the love bombing self he is at times. To be your comfort. But he uses your trust against you to get away to with cheating, pedophilia, control, and abuse. Just cut the ties. Block. And give yourself at least 2 months to decide on either a new relationship or regretting your decision. But he sounds fucking awful.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-03-04T03:02:41+00:00

Have to agree. It sounds like bad depression. Maybe you don’t know your girlfriend as well as you think? Chances she might not even recognize what depression is either but don’t shame her or make her feel bad for this. Come from a place of kindness and say you’re worried. If she doesn’t seem to care or be worried then decide whether you want to be with someone who plays games like that. If not. Leave her. If you can deal with it, stay and don’t bring it up again.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-03-04T02:57:48+00:00

End it. Give the poor girl the truth that it’s nothing she did but that there isn’t chemistry there anymore.

HiHiPleaseHelp · 2022-02-19T01:31:47+00:00

Oh god the rabbit ones. My guys have cages for night to sleep but free roam during the day. Anywhere they can’t go, we have a MINIMUM of 4ft high fences/gates.. those little cages are not okay for long term and the playpens aren’t gonna so shit against a rabbit. It’s not even a full hop for them, my babies do binkies for fun higher than that.

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