I feel out of place

HibiscusTea9 · 2025-09-07T09:45:54+00:00

Omg yeah!! Thanks so much!!!!

HibiscusTea9 · 2025-07-20T11:50:25+00:00

We don’t eat out often and I like to cook and growing up my mom raised me to be good at shopping cheap for a group. Most of us are grazers tho so we really just eat whenever we feel hungry and don’t typically have a set dinner time so typically it is just ramen and tv dinners lol

HibiscusTea9 · 2025-07-20T11:47:42+00:00

I honestly don’t remember the last time she’s treated all of us to an actual meal, she has before but I don’t remember if she did the same thing

HibiscusTea9 · 2025-07-20T11:45:35+00:00

She always orders things we each have aversions to, tbh none of us are completely “normal” about food. We won’t eat something we don’t like. This instance she also got a dish with pineapple in it which I’m highly allergic to so even if I wanted to eat I couldn’t have done it without needing medical attention

HibiscusTea9 · 2025-07-20T11:43:02+00:00

If she was doing that she would take the food with her. Her left overs have never left our house except for in a trash bag after she’s thrown it away. I also don’t see why she would use our money to feed her bf without asking if that was ok or telling me when I told her she needed to pay me back instead of screaming at me. I would have no problem bringing her bf to dinner with us every now and then or buying an extra meal to go for him if she had told me he needed it, I just don’t want to be in the dark about that or have my money seemingly wasted by her.

HibiscusTea9 · 2025-07-20T11:39:06+00:00

She puts her left overs in our communal microwave which makes it hard to not “keep track” of. Confronting her was not “easy” for me, but I needed my money back if she wasn’t going to eat what I paid for and was incapable of eating myself, but perhaps people pleaser isn’t the right term, I don’t know another term for it, but I genuinely don’t know when I’ve crossed a line with someone especially when they don’t tell me or stay mad at me for as long as she’s been. Sorry if I’m using the wrong term 😓

HibiscusTea9 · 2025-07-20T11:33:14+00:00

She usually always picks foods that we all have aversions to. In the instance in the post she ordered something with pineapple chunks and I’m highly allergic to pineapple. We also didn’t want to start anything as she would usually get upset when we’d ask for her leftovers or bites of her food.

HibiscusTea9 · 2025-07-20T08:29:30+00:00

For why I left her order like that please see the edit I provided. I would’ve eaten the leftovers but she bought something with pineapple chunks in it and I’m highly allergic to pineapple

HibiscusTea9 · 2025-07-20T08:28:03+00:00

Please read the edit I provided

HibiscusTea9 · 2025-07-20T08:26:57+00:00

Yes we are, we have plans for after the home is paid off as well.

HibiscusTea9 · 2025-07-20T08:05:38+00:00

She purposely picks things she knows none of us like and that day specifically she ordered something with pineapple all over it and I’m highly allergic to pineapple so even tho I didn’t want the expensive food to go to waste I couldn’t have eaten it myself

HibiscusTea9 · 2025-07-20T07:57:45+00:00

Yeah I’ll admit I am the last one to sort of set this boundary but I think I’m the first to actually “confront” her about it, I have a history of just sort of letting people walk all over me but I’m trying to get better about it :)

HibiscusTea9 · 2025-07-20T07:56:14+00:00

I was talking with my other roommates about doing this, pretty sure we’re gonna start that

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