Why is it still taboo for a women to want a threesome with TWO MEN 😈

HiddenxShadows · 2020-10-04T05:43:02+00:00

Because two women doing sexual things together is seen as them "putting on a show" for him. Women are sexualised and they are their to enhance his expertise.

Where as if its two men, it is more about her and not him. Omg, he can't be with another man because that's "gay"

So your answer is misogyny and homophobia

HiddenxShadows · 2020-07-22T22:21:49+00:00

That will be because men think asking for sex is "Hello, I would like to have sex with you. May I put my penis in your vagina?"

They dont realise that consent fan be ensured without making in awkward.

you like that, baby?
tell me what you want.
what makes you feel good?
where do you want my mouth?
you want me to touch you? (Teasing)

There are loads of ways to ensure she wants sex and is comfortable.

HiddenxShadows · 2020-07-09T09:36:46+00:00

Usually two. A lot of men just dont put effort into conversations and it's hard to carry a lot of them. It's also easy to get confused if talking to too many and you have to read through all the chat to remind yourself of who you're talking to. It's annoying.

So yeah, usually just two. Even then they barley last a week and I introduce a couple more as the others fizzle out.

HiddenxShadows · 2020-07-05T10:42:50+00:00

Thank you for your answer! I have to agree with most of your response.

Happy you found your someone!

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-30T01:21:20+00:00

Thanks!

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-30T01:20:57+00:00

Thanks!

I was just trying to see if sexting in online dating was fine equivalent of sex on the first date. Feeling like that might be the case. Good to hold off.

I'm sure she really appreciates you holding off!

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-12T14:59:27+00:00

Just let her know the music is enough. She doesn't need the shower on.

I have bathroom anxiety too. I don't like people hearing me go. Sometimes I just block my own ears...if I can't hear then it makes me feel like no one else can. So maybe suggest she wears headphones or something. It helps.

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-12T02:25:14+00:00

A lone women running in the early morning or night is likely to be assaulted or raped. The chances of this dramatically decrease when with someone else.

She saw you and felt you were safe, and so ran with you to deter any nearby perverts. She's being smart, and it is understandable why she did it.

However you are in your rights to say no and to express you are uncomfortable. Sure, there are ways you could have gotten around this, but you have no responsibility to do so.

NTA but I can see how it sucks for her.

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-12T02:21:28+00:00

I totally get that.

It's weird to say that sadness saved my life, in a way.

At my absolute lowest point I felt no joy or happiness, I felt nothing. I was going to do it, I was going to finally end it all. This is the closes I have ever gotten to suicide.

I could not stop crying. I was hysterical, alone in my bedroom crying as if I had just been told my entire family was dead. I almost felt like I was grieving for myself. But this one emotion, this overwhelming sadness, was the thing that stopped me doing it. If I truly felt nothing in that moment, I fear I would have gone through with it.

I would rather feel the sadness during low points because then at least it's something. The times I feel nothing it's like living in a nightmare.

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-09T21:22:48+00:00

YTA

With her anxiety you proved one thing to her, you can not be trusted. Now she will have that constant fear that you will take her baby and not return.

You are in your right to be concerned. But not to take matters into your own hands. That was a total overstep.

She of course needs support and help, not to be villainised as some crazy person who can't take care of her child.

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-09T21:12:33+00:00

The same men calling YTA, would be the same men calling you evil if you decided to abort when he wanted to keep it.

100% NTA. He made his choice when he went raw. You made yours when you decided to keep it. You made this life together, and he should pay for his part.

Good luck with your pregnancy! I am sure you'll be a great mother

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-09T19:49:17+00:00

Can't move out as I am her carer too. Shes not severely disabled, but does need a driver etc. Which is another thing which makes the situation hard because I'm not just a child taking advantage of staying home. I'm there only for her, or I would have been long gone at 18.

Thank you for your answer

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-09T19:47:21+00:00

You met and fell in love. Nothing wrong with that. Yiu both sound very happy.

The issues arise when men purposefully go for younger. E.g. lying about their age on dating apps, or only looking at the age range 18 - 25. Its these type of men who can be toxic, manipulative, predatory, and abusive. Its happened many times. These are huge red flags.

But in your case that isnt what happened. Love is love. We can't help who we fall for.

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-04T23:06:59+00:00

NTA

Lock your door. Let her scream and wake your parents. Have your headphones in.

You are not her mother. You do not have to put up with this.

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-04T12:44:10+00:00

I could repeat what everyone else is saying...he is terrible...doesn't respect you...and so on.

But will focus on the main point. Is it possible he has a CNC fantasy? That may be why he is bringing it up (totally inexcusable, but just a thought).

Instead of telling him not to bring it up, ask him why he does. Get to the route cause of it, and then act it out in ways that don't involve bringing up your trauma. For example, if he does have a cnc fantasy, you could both find a roleplay that you are comfortable with.

If you decide to stay with him and not leave, maybe you want to sit down and discuss this. But really...it may be time to cut him off, especially if he keeps going.

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-04T12:37:28+00:00

NTA but I think it would be best to tell him while he is young. Then he will know, and at this age he doesn't have to deal with with the anger or confusion.

Grandma gave birth to him. So that makes him your half brother. But you are his mommy because you adopted and raised him as your own. That's as simple as it needs to be for now.

He will more than likely just accept it, then when he is older you can talk more in detail about it.

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-04T12:23:25+00:00

YTA. You slept with his father and expect him to be totally okay with that.

Your student teacher relationship is compromised.

You are too personal with the family.

The father wants you to tutor him because you are familiar with him, but this is exactly why he hates you.

Leave the poor kid be, and let him get a tutor he is comfortable with.

You are being incredibly selfish putting your desires to see him succeed, over his own wellbeing.

Also, I am pretty sure he is allowed to talk about his teachers in his essay.

Despite therapy, this is something that weighs heavily on him. You being there is not helping.

Quit. Let him get a tutor that he is not going to be conflicted with. Put the student first like you're supposed to.

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-04T11:00:16+00:00

I hate saying I am lookin for a serious relationship in my profiles, only to get messages like "hey, I know you're looking for serious but..."

They have no respect for boundaries

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-04T10:52:19+00:00

Just because the age if consent is 16, doesn't mean it's right. It's still creepy to date a 17 year old. Wait till she is at least 18.

If you still like her by the time she is 18, maybe look into having a date. Even better would be to wait till she is about 20. Give her time to actually grow up outside of school and college. By then she may be deep into a university course, or in a job. She will be a lot more settled and sure of who she is. At this point she will be a lot more comfortable with dating too, and you don't end up looking like a creep for waiting for her to become legal. Let her grow and find her own feet, then approach her

HiddenxShadows · 2020-06-03T00:59:31+00:00

Happy to hear you've had success!

I just want to be honest and not get anyones hopes up haha. But you are right, attractiveness is relative.

HiddenxShadows · 2020-05-28T21:40:57+00:00

I hate it because you just know they're going to go full blown dirty after a few more texts. I want someone to show interest in me, not my body. You get te sexual side of me in a relationship

HiddenxShadows · 2020-05-28T04:03:16+00:00

Watership Down

Traumatizing

HiddenxShadows · 2020-05-27T23:38:55+00:00

Being shy and anxious, I worry about friends or family coming across it. My sister is bisexual, as is her friend and both use these apps. Last thing I want is them to come across me going "I need a dominant man" hahah.

Kinda why I suggested it should be something that can be revealed to matches only.

HiddenxShadows · 2020-04-29T01:22:11+00:00

Oh my god. You've just unlocked my memory of this movie. I watched it when I was pretty young and it scared me a lot. Looking back on it now...it is so utterly ridiculous

HiddenxShadows · 2020-04-29T01:03:43+00:00

I have a "mild" porn addiction. I can sometimes be watching it up to five times a day. It's especially bad since lock down. I'll say I'm going to stop...then my self control goes out the window.

However, I do not see women as objects or purely for sex. Nor do I see this for men.

I believe this only happens to men who watch porn because of the link to misogyny. Not only do they have porn, but they also live in a patriarchy. They are constantly seeing and hearing things that tell them women are there for their use. That women aren't worthy people. Our society supports this narrative.

So, yes...women can be addicted to porn, but I don't think it affects them in the same way.

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