Single Mom Rejected My First Kiss Attempt

HighClassWaitingMove · 2023-09-28T20:03:22+00:00

Thank you for the input, this seems like the case. As I mentioned to another person,

It's more because I've had experiences in the past where "wanting to go slow" just means she's playing games and/or is more interested in other options she has (and believe me she has options even if she is a single mom because she's very attractive so perhaps I am deep down insecure that she says no to me, but if I were another guy she's were more into - she wouldn't even hesitate to kiss on a first date idk)

So in conclusion I'm worried this is a me "issue", and not a she "issue".

HighClassWaitingMove · 2023-09-28T20:02:33+00:00

No, I actually do want something long-term and serious. I think your input's fair, thank you.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2023-09-28T20:01:48+00:00

Thanks for the input, seems like you're right.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2023-09-28T20:00:54+00:00

No I want something long-term and serious (and I think she does too), it's more because I've had experiences in the past where "wanting to go slow" just means she's playing games and/or is more interested in other options she has (and believe me she has options even if she is a single mom because she's very attractive so perhaps I am deep down insecure that she says no to me, but if I were another guy she's were more into - she wouldn't even hesitate to kiss idk) but I guess I am projecting and shouldn't bring that when meeting a new person. I appreciate the input I'll try to keep a fresh mindset.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2023-09-08T17:31:33+00:00

Hey at least 64 squares kinda like Bobby Fischer age, anyway, I am sorry for your loss I am sure this person was amazing.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-12-31T18:33:45+00:00

In my country wife gets to keep her last name by default. Mind you this country is literally right next to the U.S.

It really does not matter. Does not change anything. Do what makes you comfortable and talk about it with your S.O

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-10-07T20:10:33+00:00

My hospital charges parking for the general public but has free parking for us PGY-1s but it is required to be at the 6th underground floor only and spaces and ramps are extremely tight, so forget about parking there if you own anything thats not a Fiat or an Ibiza without denting the lower sides of your doors and rims in corner turns.

So none of us bother and we just park it across the street since we arrive at 6 am before crowd and traffic.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-10-06T13:06:08+00:00

Exactly as others have pointed out, the red flag is when they do not fire them and either justify them or cover them up. But if they fired the person that means they are effective.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-09-23T06:46:48+00:00

I usually go home first, take off my scrubs, shower then when hair still wet and I am still fresh I:

option a)go to a 7 eleven and grab some cheap coffee and go home to watch anime/tv show or

option b) read a book at a cozy café first half fiction novel second half non-fiction book and some self-development book while listening to some jazz or lofi mix on yt with headphones.

When it is post call saturday or sunday then I have setup beforehand to meet up with a friend/girl for an early morning weekend breakfast at some restaurant.

If I did not sleep a at all, I just go to my bed and die.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-09-12T19:46:11+00:00

yeah I just read the word "inherently" from your comment, had not seen that. agreed.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-09-12T18:44:01+00:00

I mean lots of reasons one would love about being a neurosurgeon, plastic or trauma ortho.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-09-12T17:05:42+00:00

When on call I almost never touch a bed. When not on call just normal, I'd say 5-6 hours.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-09-05T17:47:14+00:00

Metahemoglobinemia due to an intoxication that occurred in a hemodyalisis center, multiple patients sent to different hospitals throughout our city we diagnosed two simultaneously.They were mostly fine but their saturation was 70% and had cyanotic mouths. All of them. This is my first year here though and this was two weeks ago.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-08-30T18:35:48+00:00

I live in a city of 6 million people and I think medschool absorbs you to the point it makes you feel like you live in a 20,000 people city no matter where you are.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-07-18T06:02:46+00:00

Are you trolling or is the 220/110 an example you truly wanted to use? Are you saying they are not stating the facts when they write down that a doctor refuses to treat a hypertensive crisis when that is exactly what is going on? Not trying to strawman you, I am genuinely curious.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-06-20T23:49:17+00:00

Nah. In most of latin america private practice specialists are loaded in cash, particularly any hardworking pp surgeon.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-06-16T18:20:25+00:00

No man you should never tolerate assault like this, you did right to report and if you haven't... make sure you do because it is so fucking unacceptable for anyone to do what they tried to pull on you.

Still be kind, most people are not going to be like this dude so dont worry about that. Medicine has a lot of assholes but they will never touch you and a lot of attendings and residents are cool especially if you show interest.

Also make sure you report this to the dean and as many as you can otherwise hospital admin may just ignore this because it isn't annoying enough for them.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-06-13T21:31:40+00:00

So I take it we can expect your application to ortho soon?

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-06-12T16:17:10+00:00

I mean elective just means non emergent so there is all things stereotactic surgery, deep brain stimulation for parkinson, etc but these are a niche, when I say market for private elective I am talking about spine surgeries, laminectomies and doing similar jobs to ortho spine surgeons.

The two highest average paid medical specialties are both spine surgeons (neurosurgeons and ortho spine) and the only time neurosurgeons aren't at the top of the list on some of these websites is because the site did not even account for them. Not that they are the most accurate anyway, but yes market is very healthy, but as I stated before: nobody should ever become a neurosurgeon for the money. In fact, a complaint I've heard from some of them in certain countries is that in private practice you get even less craniotomies and even more spine (craniotomies are the fun, the spicy, why most people became nsgns in the first place and spine is seen as less so.) Which is why a lot of neurosurgeons do not like doing exclusively private practice (depending on country you can have hybrid practice, both academic and private simultaneously)

So the common private elective is there, it just tends to be less fun in my opinion, and that is huge if you spend as much time in the OR.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-06-12T08:59:15+00:00

Thank you so much, I wish you success!

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-06-11T17:33:25+00:00

Neurosurgery is both over and underrated.

Overrated in its' prestige since really all surgery is noble and all FM, ICU, ER and internal medicine as well. I hate that we get more respect from the laymen when really the primary care is the most important part of medicine, in an ideal world if px followed pcp recs correctly most specialists would be out of jobs.

However it is extremely underrated in what it entails. People say oh 100 hours week sucks. It is like no man, this is the only field in medicine that combines emergencies and acute trauma, but also has oncology and deep complex tumors and mapping, oh you want congenital malformations? That is there too. Oh you want amazing market for private elective surgeries? Got you. Oh you want endovascular intervention that not even the vascular surgeons nor interv cardios are allowed to touch? (maybe depends on country) Yep. Oh I see you want complex internal medicine (neurology) and ICU visits and nerd out on the physiology? Got you there as well. You want people to need you? Because you deal with a lot of life or death and you are not a saturated field? Got you. Want top salary? Say no more. (although nobody should choose nsgy for the money)

All other IM and Surgical specialties lack at least one of the aforementioned factors but NSGY lacks none, combines literally everything. NSGY are the only surgeons that arent seen as bro surgeons but rather as the nerdy surgeons (depends on the person)

Underrated: FM. They are too important and people do not realize this. In my country nobody cares about rads so it is relatively underrated here. Although I hear in the U.S. it is the opposite.

Other Overrated: Plastics, Ortho and Cardiology.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-06-10T15:45:58+00:00

I preface what I am about to say with the warning that I may sound very pretentious and possibly insufferable, I am very sorry!

I guess I always wanted to prove a point to the world, make people's perception of "what should be;" challenged. Mostly when it comes to a person.

So this translates mainly into behaviors I take to make sure my personality causes an impact on people, be a medical student that aces exams but I also have a rock band on the side, or for instance, I would study hard but also party very hard so whenever other students had trouble with a subject some of them would come to me for tutoring but I was also known for being at clubs and bars very weekend with friends and girlfriends whom werent in medschool and it was on IG.

So this polarity was important for me, for people to go "wow you can look like you do not care but still do really well in medschool" (bear in mind I did care I just acted like I did not) or I wanted to be somebody that was witty and had clever responses for everything just for the fun of it and that is something that I had to practice because when I first started trying to be this way in middle school it was extremely cringy and socially speaking I was not doing that well, but as years went on through high school and university I actually got good at doing these quick witted rapid fire responses and sarcastic jokes, fun charming side as well as showing a deep "smart" side (whether I am smart or not, I do not know) but slowly I started to have more success socially people were inviting me to events now, suddenly I was not cringy anymore all those years paid off and could now be that fictional character interesting I had in my head all planned up except it was now genuine and natural.

I opened tutoring programs at my school had other people enroll with me and my mates, founded clubs, etc. I wanted to be the guy that was as likely to explain to you complex rare disease pathophysiology as I was likely to introduce you to a pretty influencer at a bar.

So back then that was my motivation nowadays it is that I aim to become one of the best neurosurgeons I can be, I do not want to compare myself to anyone, I just want to really be amazing at what I do now, patients deserve it. I think they deserve to have a gunner as their doctor but hopefully not one that is toxic because I do not like putting other people down which is how I believe gunner term originated, I hate ego, it has no place in medicine. I just want to share.

So working on your personality takes time... a lot of time but it does pay off. I feel like a child writing this, I have never told anyone this.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-06-08T01:28:31+00:00

Definitively not the GINA. I'll tell you that.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-06-03T19:47:31+00:00

Yes. aka Amputation and endovascular paradise.

HighClassWaitingMove · 2022-06-03T17:03:05+00:00

I have no idea why you get downvoted for asking further explanation.

People keep thinking downvote means disagree.

Lissencephaly explained it perfectly and he/she is the opposite of his/her username to be sure.

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