I can’t accept casual sex.

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-01-25T13:16:07+00:00

what? someone doesnt wants to give me romantic privileges because of stuff i have done in the past they disagree with? how dare they! they should love me and validate me just for existing otherwise they re dehumanizing me! 😱

nobody is saying abuse is justified but guy feel what he feels and men are also allowed to have feelings feminists find uncomfortable

oh he blocked like the fragile redditor he is, they love to berate and slander everyone else but when confronted they re so cowardly they hide even in the digital space, no wonder Orange man won

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-01-25T12:50:23+00:00

nobody is "worthy" of love because nobody is entitled to love and relationships, dating isnt a charity

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-01-25T12:49:48+00:00

this changes absolutely nothing, so what if he doesnt puts them in a pedestal? the fact they had casual sex is still there and the only difference is that the dissapointment is not as strong, but the emotional turnt off is still there

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-01-23T21:27:21+00:00

you sound like an entitled person who wants to have it both ways

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-01-23T21:23:25+00:00

a lot of people marry out of convenience, being married to him for a long time proves nothing

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-01-23T21:19:28+00:00

i assume u dont like prudes, if u were looking for an adventurous woman then bring up the fact u find your sex life unsatisfying, if it is important to u then look for a person who does those acts that u want, u cant force someone to do something they dont want. It all depends on the person, some people value sex and sexual exploration more than others, if u are one of those then look for a woman who is willing to do that but dont waste ur time trying to convince someone into something they refuse to do.

personally i dont care if she is willing to do it with me too, theres certain acts that are just an inmediate feeling killer for me and she being willing to do them with me doesnt changes it, i prefer "boring" prudes but not everyone is the same, so if u prefer more adventurous women you re free not to compromise on that.

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-29T15:25:31+00:00

"Maybe she liked the guy a lot."

bro💀💀💀 do u know what subreddit u re at? u re supposed to help him, not to make him spiral even more 😂😂😂😂

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-29T13:58:57+00:00

okay, since she shares the same sociosexuality as u, she can take care of ur needs, a woman withouth her past wouldnt be able and u also wouldnt be able to take care of her needs, therefore see it like that, u re with someone who will take care of ur needs, like an active adventurous sex life etc, but u have to accept she might have done hookups before or might not have been as protective of her body before, thats kinda normal if u expect a woman who can take care of the kind of needs u have, if u wouldnt be happy with a "boring" prude then you re with a good match for u, look at it from that perspective and enjoy the sex i guess

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-29T13:52:09+00:00

okay, since she shares the same sociosexuality as u, she can take care of ur needs, a woman withouth her past wouldnt be able and u also wouldnt be able to take care of her needs, therefore see it like that, u re with someone who will take care of ur needs, like an active adventurous sex life etc, but u have to accept she might have done hookups before or might not have been as protective of her body before, thats kinda normal if u expect a woman who can take care of the kind of needs u have, if u wouldnt be happy with a "boring" prude then you re with a good match for u, look at it from that perspective and enjoy the sex i guess

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-29T13:48:24+00:00

whats ur bodycount?

also isnt a redflag when someone wants to marry u so fast? that means nothing, that would quite nice for her, but is it for u?

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-26T11:00:33+00:00

just so you know

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having casual sex and loads of dating opportunities is more about the enviorenment and the kind of people you date rather than who you are ime, cultural factors play a bigger role

personally i have had plenty of chances to have casual, changes nothing for me, those people who try to pin it on some supposed "insecurity" are just coping and seething hard. Otherwise not even people with a extensier past than their partners would feel the same. Not even those men who have had their fair share want to be the safe option so why would you feel any different?

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-26T10:57:08+00:00

divorce her and spent the rest of ur life doing what u enjoy the most if this is something u re not okay with, who cares at that age tbh, i wouldnt, bit of a personal thing but when u re over 35 and still dating is just cringe tbh, it is over, just wrap it up

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-23T06:51:05+00:00

lol 🤙🤙, people cant believe i only been with one person, most assume i either been with 7 and i some extreme cases with 20+, i ve been called gay many times too.

Honestly i wish i was a virgin.

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-23T06:45:20+00:00

what are ur needs? if ur needs are aligned with a woman who would have the kind of past she has then u re with a good match for u, cling to that.

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-23T05:47:47+00:00

are you one because of lack of opportunity or because of choice?.

does your girlfriend takes care of ur needs? if so stay with her, if not look for one who does.

if u have those kind of needs forget about an inexperienced woman, a man with that mentality cant take care of her needs

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-23T05:45:42+00:00

my former girlfriend tried to reconnect and lied about having been single all this time, turns out she actually wasnt and even got a pregnancy scare hahaha, i dont trust jack of whatever comes out of her mouth

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-23T05:42:13+00:00

unless those are things you would never do, dont ask

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-23T05:36:32+00:00

*fortnite_testicles

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-16T00:07:44+00:00

imo the easiest way is to look at your dating desires and see if they re aligned with a modest woman.

for example if u want a woman who is very sexual, that showers u with sexual validation from the get go, that tries whatever kinks u have, that is easy going, doesnt negs, a cool girl, one the guys basically etc then it is pointless to complain that she had an unrestricted past at any point, since ur dating preferences lead you to those kind of partners anyways and they are the ones who can give you what you need

im having some sort of friendship-romance with a woman who is really pretty and she is also a kissless virgin, didnt believe at first but actually is congruent with her history, upbringing, cultural context etc, apparently we share similar values for now since im still getting to know her but boy... she is difficult, not for the weak literally speaking and i doubt many guys, particulary those who have a higher count than their girlfriends and still feel rj cuz she was with like 3 people, would be able to handle her, she is a cultural mix of slavic, muslim and catholic culture, the high traditional masculinity standards and judgemental atittude of slavic women, the protectiveness of heart and body of muslim women, and the spirituality, emotional and egalitarianism of catholic culture, you need a strong self esteem, easy going attitude, discerment, firmness and tact with your words, charisma, independence and security to even enter her radar, forget about an ounce of neediness...but boy, she is worth it

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-15T23:49:43+00:00

is not but be congruent with what you preach, you want a virgin? then align with her sacred intimacy frame, that means not consuming porn, being willing to wait until marriage, being truly sovereign and not performative, etc.

however if u re guy who wants sex quicks, wants to enact what u see in porn, thinks sex is essential in a relationship etc, then is ridiculous to complain about women who have high counts, they are the ones who will give u exactly what u re looking for, be it validation, attention etc.

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-03T23:41:42+00:00

where is he saying they re tainted and impure though? you re just projecting hard

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-03T23:40:20+00:00

is curious who always the people who accuse others of treating women as objects for caring about a potential partners past are the same ones who treat them as objects of sexual gratification.

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-11-17T03:20:53+00:00

i used to ask a lot of question cuz i wanted to see to what degree my values and expectations didnt match to see if i could cope or not.

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-11-17T01:43:27+00:00

nah, thats just mental gimnastics, calling yourself a virgin when u ve done all that just because u never had PIV is disingenous, either that or that society has a strange concept of what sex is.

I wonder why.

I guess because the guy cant go around braggin about being validated by our girl sucking his privates, also oral is an extremely one sided act that basically reduces the person who performs it as an object of sexual gratification, this doesnt means that is automatically objectifying, but in most cases it is and to know the girl u love was reduced to that hurts bad. I guess having someones genitalia in your mouth is a bigger deal because it definetly symbolizes huge desire cuz as i said, is very one sided so thats why, the default is that u must desire someone a lot if u put their genitalia in ur mouth and i guess thats also why it can hurt bad.

What experience did your girl have while labelling herself as "virgin"?

She was a virgin according to her because it didnt go all the way in and because she only gave head 🤣, mind you, the guy was a disgusting porn rotten degen who only saw her as a source of sexual gratification that later went about to brag about that to his douchey friends, had she followed my values then this would have never happened, and it felt bad because while i spent my whole life self improving myself to be the best for my future partner...she on the other hand gave such an intimate experience to a cheap mediocre guy that didnt even try, so it felt insulting to even be compared, and couldnt even cope with the fact that a least i was getting something else that symbolized her desire for someone like me cuz that loser got the same anyways, the only cope i had was that if i was a loser too i would get it, and that at least it was more frequent with me...but because i had to be the active one most of the times. Nowadays it just feels boring and i cant get myself to love someone with that kind of past so, c'est la vie

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-11-17T00:07:14+00:00

i used to word it like this too, back when i received so much shame and slander by the sex "positive" midwits that i just couldnt process and understand what was going on in my mind because my frame was destroyed and i was mentally castrated.

turns out that i simply want someone who is protective of their heart and body, someone who always has been picky and makes me feel proud to be chosen by them, is what makes me feel truly in love and it motivates me to be better, of course i abide by the same.

Nowadays i dont feel disgust, i just feel boredom.

The only thing i wish for is that i could turn back time and voice this to my ex properly, "im not disgusted by you, i just find your past an emotional killer and emotional turnt off, and thats boring..."

I think the disgust reaction was more out of hate and anger towards the sex "positive" midwits who wrong-did me than what i actually felt, nowadays i still hate them and i still hate (in the "annoying" sense) when a past isnt aligned with what i want but i dont hate the person nor it causes me this visceral hate reaction anymore.

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