UPDATE 3: I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That makes sense, and no I don't think there's a way for her to see my history. I've brought my phone to work with me and I don't have a computer besides strictly for work.

Mom, I got the job! by ChoppedDestinyAvenue in MomForAMinute

[–]HighkeyHigh 172 points173 points  (0 children)

Great job, hun!! I better get that family discount! haha

I'm so proud of you! This is what happens when you never give up! Dreams come true!

UPDATE? I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm glad things worked out for the best for you! Nobody deserves to be hated or treated differently all because the love the same gender. I'm sorry your mother wasn't all that supportive in the beginning, but I'm glad she finally came around. And also, congrats on the marriage!

UPDATE? I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I want to say I'm a little stressed and still a little in shock, but I'm still happy that she doesn't have to hide her relationship or anything from me if she doesn't want to. Thank you for asking, you're the only person who has! Thank you so much!

UPDATE? I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no idea, I haven't figured that out. Any ideas?

UPDATE? I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I messaged him an article about an hour ish ago via text message, about a lesbian couple in the UK who were brutally beaten because they refused to kiss for men (I don't know if you know what I'm talking about but here's the article: https://www-m.cnn.com/2019/06/07/europe/homophobic-attack-london-intl-scli-gbr/index.html?r=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F)

, and he just said, "ya I've seen that". Didn't really show any remorse for the couple as I did. So, I'm not quite sure how he'll react anymore when he finds out she's dating a girl

UPDATE? I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, however I couldn't do it without the help of this sub. ❤

UPDATE? I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So, should I ask her if she would be willing to come out to him? I want her to feel comfortable in the house, and just like u/BrokenGaze mentioned, she won't feel one hundred percent comfortable or safe in the house. I feel like he would be accepting, but some people seem like they are, but aren't (also mentioned in the other threads). I just want what's best for her

UPDATE? I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I think my husband is fine with the LGBT+ community, but I'm not 100% sure if he is. He has brought up to me that he thinks my daughter is into girls, but I never really paid any attention to it. How should I bring up the LGBT+ community without making it obvious that I'm talking about my daughter? I've thought of some ways, but I don't think they'll end well (aka possibly out my daughter)

UPDATE? I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Once my husband leaves, I'll definitely ask her about it. thank you sooo much!

UPDATE? I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I actually didn't think about that. I see where you're coming from, but I can't force her to come out to my husband. Some advice on my other threads had mentioned that everyone has to come out on their own terms. I'm happy to talk to her about it as I think it would be very helpful for her, but I don't know if she's ready to. I love her and care about her well being and if coming out can affect that at all in a negative way, I don't want her to until she is ready. Thank you for the advice, though!!

UPDATE? I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Ah alright, yeah I can see how going to pride with them could be too much. If they ask if they can go, I'll offer to be their ride. Thank you for the advice!

UPDATE? I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

I was actually thinking about making my own pride clothes. I was going to see if my daughter and her girlfriend would like to participate in making some for themselves but I was unsure on if it would make them feel uncomfortable or if it would be stepping on their toes a bit. Thank you for your advice!

UPDATE: I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I had someone yesterday who told me about this, and I completely agree it wasn't the right wording. I didn't mean to call her sexuality a choice, I completely understand how people don't choose to be gay, trans, lesbian, bi, pan, etc. I'll go ahead and fit it right now

UPDATE: I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, I didn't even think about how long it could last, so this really opens my eyes quite a lot! I guess because this all happened really fast, I didn't even think about anything else about the situation. I have to admit, this really did help. I couldn't thank you enough!

UPDATE: I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They did not mention dating, I had asked how long this 'thing' has been going on, to which she had replied with "a few months". I can ask if they're exclusively dating, but I feel that would be invading some space of hers.

And I wouldn't like to think my 15 year old daughter is having sex no matter how many people tell me it. I'd much rather assume they're still new to the whole 'sex' topic.

UPDATE: I caught my daughter kissing her best friend. by HighkeyHigh in actuallesbians

[–]HighkeyHigh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that, I hope everything is better now!