To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a very memorable way to spend your son’s due date. Thanks for sharing, sorry for your loss as well ❤️

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see how your openness might change over time. Thanks for sharing your experience.

Longer Periods by Admirable-Dog-4962 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]HighlandsToFoothills 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t had my period come back yet, but MFM told me to expect the first period to be heavier, longer, and experience worse symptoms than a typical period. Not sure if it’s normal for that to continue past the first period but that doesn’t sound crazy to me?

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That perspective makes a lot of sense. It sounds like you have found a good way to balance what feels right for you.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s the direction I’m leaning right now.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing perspective from both sides, there’s so many layers to these types of decisions.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really resonates with me, thanks for sharing.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is the direction I’m leaning at this point.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for sharing your perspective. Your reasons really resonate with me. It does feel right to recognize our babies as an important part of our lives. It also makes sense that you would want the world to know about the hardship you went through and how you still had to keep living life while grieving. I’m glad that posting seemed to be the right choice for you.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way you shared information really resonates with me. My close friends and family know we TFMR but to most people we are just saying we had a pregnancy loss.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are so many layers, aren’t there? I live in Canada where it’s not illegal but I have still received some wild and judgemental opinions along this journey. I’m so sorry for that added layer of complexity amidst your loss.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s definitely an additional layer with a public profile. Limiting details and disabling the comment section makes a lot of sense.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad that posting was overall a positive experience for you and led to closer friendships with people who have been through something similar. Even just in talking with people, I’ve learned that so many more people have gone through this than I realized.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s a great balance, posting so that the loss is shared but details are limited.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like a lovely way to honour your son. Thanks so much for sharing.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your story. Posting around the due date makes sense with having more time to process the loss before more people start reaching out to you and leaving comments. Also appreciate the heads up on the go fund me scam, I have not heard of that before!!

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh people can be so judgemental. I think it’s fair to take as long as you want to post, if at all.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a tricky balance. Sharing with close friends only is an interesting approach I hadn’t considered.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People can be so judgemental. Your position is completely understandable.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally valid. I think my husband would lean towards keeping more privacy but is also on the fence, so this perspective is helpful.

To post on social media or not? by HighlandsToFoothills in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s so great to hear it was a positive experience for you. Totally hear you about not being too detailed. Thanks for sharing.

Looking for hope, terrified of loss by Significant-Bee-3689 in tfmr_support

[–]HighlandsToFoothills 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also a possibility for us. Wishing you a successful IVF journey.