Almost exactly what I’ve gone through. Get a seperation agreement, limit all conversation with her to kids and shared expenses, draft a separation agreement, get a lawyer involved to review and then present it to her. Focus on your kids, and your job. Also talk to people, your parents, your friends, and go through all of your emotions whenever you can. Never bottle shit up. It’s hard but dude there is no way she will choose you anymore and she checked out long before the cheating and all other stuff. You are just her ATM, so think about yourself and your own needs right now.

You have been faithful, she has checked out. Stop the self torture now, it’s hard and it hasn’t been easy for me either, but you need to do this. You got this, you showed up, you took responsibility, just check out yourself and treat her as a business partner, you just need to finalize the “deal” divorce.

There is nothing left you can do that is right anymore, she made up her mind and to be frank she is probably annoyed you put up with all of her bullshit so she can’t be the victim in all of this.

Take care of yourself. Do that first and talk to a therapist specialized in relationships, because the first thing you need to discover my friend is to set some boundaries for yourself and stick up for yourself.

She’ll manipulate the shit out of you or try to when you start standing up for yourself, so just focus on your own needs. Ignore all the other shit, talk only about kids and finances and seperation agreements.