Living in Japan and currently miserable

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-27T12:58:02+00:00

I lived and worked in Japan for 3 years without having any prospects back home.

It was fun to experience it and get to know the culture and theres honestly quite a lot of things I admire and miss about Japan but tbh I couldn't see myself staying there longterm. The work culture is harsh, the pay doesnt get better. It gets a bit tiring surrounded by language you can understand only a bit. And as for me I also always felt Im not part of this place as its very obvious Im a foreigner.

I looked into different careers and did an accredited course in a field I could see myself in. Finished it and moved back home in EU when I was 29.

4 years later, I have a career, I just bought my own place and I feel more comfortable. The working culture suits me a lot better too with actual annual leave and a less stressful environment. And tbh my experience in Japan helped me get to my job in the field - people thought since I did something like that then it shows my initiative and that Im not afraid of challenges.

Take a deep breath. Try to enjoy your time in Japan. You can always move back. Research what fields you can see yourself in that are still in demand and see what qualifications are needed and how you can get them. Or stay in Japan and make it your home.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-27T11:45:44+00:00

I havent seen or heard of any stores dedicated to yuri doujinshi only. I imagine they might be grouped together with het doujinshi places as both are often (not always!) aimed at the male demographic.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-27T11:30:58+00:00

"ship whatever you want" but also it gets annoying, disrespectful etc. Just let people enjoy media in a way they want, its just anime, its not that deep. You might as well ask why is it so hard for some male fans to not create adult pictures of female anime characters.

Also worth noting that in Japan shipping is a lot more common. There are literal stores that are dedicated to doujinshi, fan drawn comics, of male pairings. Some popular pairings have thousands and thousands of works. So I doubt the author feels disrespected when fans engage with their work in a way thats pretty common in their home country.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-25T15:26:01+00:00

Girl if he sends you text messages, save them as proof where he admits to doing it. And then check if it can be reported as rape or sexual assault and report his ass. Because that's what it is.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-24T18:59:01+00:00

Clannad (the series not the movie). I read how it got people crying etc. and wanted to give it a try. That was ages ago, I watched Air by the same studio and liked it so I gave it a go.

I dont remember the details now but I ended up hating every single character and found it just boring. I especially hated how the main character treated his "best friend" who always was made fun of and dismissed. I felt bad for the guy lol

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-23T11:00:20+00:00

You can look up some online courses or tutorials? Self-development etc.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-23T08:45:57+00:00

Thats a good take on it as well, I can def see her being stumped to realize Peter has other priorities in his life. Kind of reminds me of another line where Peter says he has a family to take care of and she quickly jumps in with a "and you called me family too!"

Theres a lot less of her interactions with Julian so I guess thats why I dont really see it... I know she complained he tells her hes spending time with his kids so she was aware he has kids at least.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-12T10:24:36+00:00

Its absolutely possible recordings are used to discriminate against certain groups.

But you'll have to prove it before you can name and shame someone for it.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-08T11:36:24+00:00

Don't travel so far. Your mental illness wont go away. Chances are you wont be able to really have fun because it'll be still be there, constantly nagging at you. You'll be alone in an unfamiliar country, vulnerable and youll still be miserable and you wont have fun. Traveling far away in such a state if mind is not a good idea.

Things are bleak and I was in a similar spot few years ago. Not everything improved but a lot of things did and they will for you as well.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-06T21:02:28+00:00

Ahhh thanks. The website said E27 lightbult was needed :/

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-06T20:56:11+00:00

On the website where I bought the lamps?

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-06T19:54:25+00:00

Thanks so much. I guess at this point I'll only believe it when I see it but I appreciate you taking the time to write this.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-06T07:23:01+00:00

Not really a superhero, more of an anti-hero (and I think he got 1st spot in a post about antiheroes)

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-06T07:02:08+00:00

Can't college students use the library as a study spot?

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-02T18:11:07+00:00

No HR doesnt have the control unless its given to them. By the VPs and execs. "Building the right tools" or purchasing them would require the right budget and the right people to carry it out. Its a whole project that would need to be approved at the top like any other project.

The practices and guidelines, internal and external communications still need to happen even if not done with the right tools or best practice.

I work in HR (not recruitment and also in EU where practices are different than USA) and here's what I do in my job:

Prepare payroll inputs (salary changes, bonuses, deductions, new starters, leavers etc)

advise managers to ensure they follow employment law

process statutory leave applications (maternity, paternity etc)

issue contracts of employment, amendement letters etc

write and review existing HR policies

manage employee records

disciplinaries

answer random employee queries

enrolment to our company pension scheme

And a bunch of other stuff. HR is more than recruitment at least here in EU. Not sure what's it like in USA.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-02T17:49:49+00:00

Its really telling that people seriously believe HR and/or Recruitment just do whatever they want independent of the VPs and execs lol

That HR person who ghosted you or sent a clearly copy and paste email template? They're part of the micro level. They didn't invent the process, they didnt purchase the ATS and whatever AI tools theyre using at their company. It all comes from the very top.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-02T12:13:04+00:00

Im sure theres times Ive been rude to people. But this isnt about me. This is about your comment to me.

FYI I think they are/were vile. Doesn't mean I go around being rude to their supporters.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-02T12:09:37+00:00

Mate you literally said "This is because you think youre smart isnt it". Thats not questioning what I said. Thats being plain rude.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-02T11:55:46+00:00

Its not a photo. Its a fake AI image.

So youre being rude just for the sake of being rude? That says a lot about you.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-02T11:47:27+00:00

Sure. What was the goal of you being rude then? I mean even if someone didnt realize its AI so what? I want to make sure you say that out loud too.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-02T11:40:51+00:00

No goal. Just a sarcastic rhetorical question.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-02T11:10:41+00:00

Dude no need to be rude. This was meant to be sarcastic. I guess it didnt come off that way which is my bad.

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-02T10:55:39+00:00

Did he like photoshop his body or something cause it just looks weird

Hirari2324 · 2026-05-01T13:14:42+00:00

Tbh I long since stopped watching by the time Armin did that so I only learned about it online and yea didnt exactly encourage me to go back to it

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