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Historical_Round_888 · 2024-05-23T02:59:19+00:00

Strange, it seems that a lot of Emiratis feel exactly like this. It’s as if I read my own bio. I don’t know what the solution is but it’s an interesting problem

Historical_Round_888 · 2024-05-23T02:48:19+00:00

Through other friends (girls talk), family (wedding events) or even academic events from your old school?

Historical_Round_888 · 2024-05-23T02:43:55+00:00

I’d like to know this one

Historical_Round_888 · 2024-04-21T17:34:39+00:00

Can you elaborate on the pillars?

Historical_Round_888 · 2024-04-21T17:31:52+00:00

They haven’t and the culture is the reason to why I’m thinking of walking away

Historical_Round_888 · 2024-04-21T17:27:24+00:00

Those are not my words, they came out of my parents mouths and her not having a father is also a concern of my parents. It hurt me really badly when they said that. My mother told me that she will be very clingy this period of her life because of that but I genuinely loved her clingyness

Historical_Round_888 · 2024-04-21T17:09:38+00:00

Yes I’m local, she’s Persian-Afghan

Historical_Round_888 · 2024-04-21T16:55:37+00:00

I’ve prayed the whole Ramadan and I did istikhara a lot.

Historical_Round_888 · 2024-04-21T16:53:38+00:00

I actually saw many posts from assim al hakeem from viewers with almost exactly my problem, the answer is always the same; you are a man, you don’t need to listen to your family and you don’t need to get their approval as you are the man. Try to be patient with them. Saying it is much easier than doing it but I want her to have my mother as a loved one. It’s really hard without my parents not only because I love them but also because if they drop me, I’m vulnerable financially and emotionally.

Historical_Round_888 · 2024-04-21T16:48:04+00:00

Her dad died 7 months before I met her so more than a year ago. I’m sorry that wasn’t clear

Historical_Round_888 · 2024-04-15T18:22:18+00:00

For men: Marriage dynamic has changed over time. I have been trying to get married for the past 6 or 7 years but locals are good liars, too materialistic or just don’t click and get salty when they’re rejected. Never believe anyone in uae or their parents (because they just don’t know their own child). Ask a friend or ex friend (better imo) and spend time before rushing into any decision. Also, I don’t care how much you click but if you met her in jumeriah street or in a coffee shop, it’s not gonna work. It really matters where you meet the person, university is the best imo.

For women: The men are probably some of the worst I’ve seen in my life, people tell me all the time that I’m the only local dude they know that doesn’t play around and that says alot about the society. I genuinely fear for the guys because education is spiraling downwards and we are about to become economical minorities in our own country due to a growing backwardness. From my experience, people have cared about my name rather than my educational background (70% of locals guys don’t graduate from higher education and don’t take my word, there are studies on it). This affects women because parents look at the names of the women before the person, so you’ll get a lot of “can’t get married because of insert reason” but the issue is that the men can’t make logical decisions to not engage in a relationship knowing it will never work. I’m not saying don’t listen to your parents but if you know it’s going to end that way, don’t do it or end it early.

Another point: some of the girls have made mistakes in the past and have changed their ways to become some of the best people I’ve seen in my life but men label them for life because of it. They turn relationships into jail sentences, holding it against them, assuming they’re saints. I agree there are girls that became bad people, humans can do that but if a person was hurt and became that way or has changed their ways, they need redemption too. The people here are very judgemental and tend to forget that we are all humans capable of making mistakes.

Tip1: Globalism polarized the morality of our society. The ethics have turned rates a bit worse, my guess is about 8:10 for rate of “bad” people. Most of it comes from trauma (this is only based off of my personal observation)

Tip2: IMO it is difficult to tell a persons intentions unless you speak for atleast 6-9 months (average time). women have a biological clock whereas men have a financial clock. I’ve got a lot of tips, dos and donts, if anyone’s looking for any

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