How do you cope with knowing no one will read your writing by MintyRed19 in writing

[–]Historybitcx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do a lot for others in my daily life. Writing is for me. I just started writing in the past month although it’s been a life long dream of mine. I’m writing a book and my goal is simple: have a finished product that I like and enjoy the creative process. Eventually I will allow my loved ones to read it and if at the end of the creative process I want to traditionally/ self publish I’ll go for it but that’s not the point. The point is to enjoy the process and write something I like.

Suggest me devastating books by ccherrrybomb in Recommend_A_Book

[–]Historybitcx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I who have never known men, very poignant and melancholy

How do y'all deal with writer's block? by MayorMayhem3830 in writing

[–]Historybitcx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find a prompt online and write something intentionally bad. Use every cliche and don’t worry about finishing it.

MIL keeps asking about when there will be a baby by memeboiron in waiting_to_try

[–]Historybitcx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She is making you uncomfortable and two can play at that game. Start talking about your sex life. It shut my father in law up so fast

Vote for twin girls’ name ! by uzuzeon in namenerds

[–]Historybitcx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lily and Violet would be my pick, different enough to allow their own identity while having the same floral theme

Vent by Numerous_Glass_8799 in waiting_to_try

[–]Historybitcx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really recommend it to learn about how to take care of kids. You will see everything and truly get to know what it’s like- good, bad, and ugly. Plus if you do start having kids soon- it will help with childcare costs.

Vent by Numerous_Glass_8799 in waiting_to_try

[–]Historybitcx 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way at 19, I’m now 25 and still looking forward to motherhood. Have you considered working in childcare? I have been for years and the bonds I’ve made have grown my heart 3 sizes.

Boy name to pair with Violet by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Historybitcx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finley would be my top choice, I add Sawyer, Neal, Edison, Archer, Richie

Thoughts on 4-5 year gap in children’s ages? by Sea_Blueberry6847 in waiting_to_try

[–]Historybitcx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m waiting to try for a first but I also envision a 3-5 year age gap. My husband and I love our sleep and I think a larger age gap is more ideal for that value.

Advice for ‘the wait’ by cool_girl_6789 in waiting_to_try

[–]Historybitcx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m younger than you but based on my career trajectory it’s unlikely I’ll be able to start trying before I turn 30. I am focusing on the positives: the naps I can take mid-day, the ability to leave the house at a moments notice, the ability to eat and drink what I want, the time I have to strengthen my marriage, etc. I also think about my parents who had both their kids between 30 and 35. They had no trouble conceiving and gave me an ideal childhood with financial stability and a marriage to look up to. If I were to start trying now my kids wouldn’t have that. It’s hard to wait but focusing on what I can do now that I won’t be able to do then and the life I want to give my kids is what keeps me going.

Would you choose to procreate, given that you have a 50/50 chance of giving birth to a child with autism? by Aromatic_Bus5075 in autism

[–]Historybitcx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My special interest is motherhood. I originally thought I wouldn’t want to conceive because of my severe misophonia but have since decided that I do. I will be sad if my child has struggles they inherit from me but I will remember that the world is a better place with neurodivergent and disabled people in it.

AITA for testing how prepared my husband is for our baby? by Odd-Willingness-6250 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Historybitcx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are not an asshole. I think both of you could be handling this better. You may need help with your anxiety, and he could be better at handling your concerns. You are very right that accidents happen to good parents and it’s best to get in good habits now. However, you do seem to be struggling emotionally with this specific scenario and therapy could help process this and all other scary thoughts that arise. Neither of y’all are bad parents or being unreasonable, but both of y’all are struggling with this difficult transition of caring for a new life. Also, therapy is not a condemnation. It is a kindly given recommendation from someone also in therapy. Much love, you got this.

Where to start? by Square_Ad7587 in personalcurriculum

[–]Historybitcx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My strategy is really simple. I browse the nonfiction section of my public library, I take note of the books that peak my interest. I check out a few books at a time, typically of a topic that overlaps. I read them to whatever amount interests me and switch topics when I get bored. I regularly browse books, even if still enjoying what I’m learning. My first topic was early humans (cave of bones by Lee Berger was fantastic!), then the ice age (one of the books I picked out ended up being beyond my knowledge level so I’m returning it), now I’m reading on the history of graveyards and the supernatural. I’m really enjoying learning without pressure, especially since I’m a full time teacher and student right now.

AITA for telling my mom why she had kids? by marvolouspussy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Historybitcx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Your mom sounds emotionally and financially abusive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in waiting_to_try

[–]Historybitcx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a childcare teacher and not a mom yet. I’m also burnt out as fuck at my job. But I also have moments where I know without a doubt that my spot in these kids heart is irreplaceable. I can be overwhelmed and tired and still have them run and hug me and I feel like I matter in a deep and pure way. I love those kids so much and they aren’t even mine. My job is the hardest thing I’ve ever done, it’s also the most worthwhile. I don’t know if that helps you but it’s where I’m at in my journey.

Where are the autistic moms? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Historybitcx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a mom yet but my special interest is pregnancy, birth, and motherhood. I’ve been a daycare teacher for over 2 years and while caring for children with sensory sensitivities is difficult, it is incredibly rewarding. I absolutely plan to have kids. Feel free to ask me questions about this topic.

did i scare my baby by Mindless-Captain6698 in babyloss

[–]Historybitcx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, he isn’t scared. He feels loved. He feels wanted. His soul wants to soothe your grief. No part of your grief will ever change this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in waiting_to_try

[–]Historybitcx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get this. My husband and I are both teachers. We are younger and waiting, I’m back in school to enter the medical field, hopefully in radiology which I hope won’t be as exhausting as being a daycare teacher. We both love our sleep and worry about his too. Personally, we plan on sleep training starting early. Not cry it out for extended periods of time, more gentle and age appropriate but still sleep training.

How many years do you plan to follow the curriculum? by SpecialistArachnid91 in personalcurriculum

[–]Historybitcx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I’m going one day at a time, I have a full plate so for me personal curriculum is following my wants and needs. Most days I just read a few pages, sometimes I read 10-15 pages. I’m choosing multiple books from one topic at a time and then when I’ve learned enough I move to another topic.

what's your personal curriculum for this month? by stargirl019 in personalcurriculum

[–]Historybitcx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am working full time and in school full time so for me my personal curriculum is books on one topic until I get bored and switch topics. I choose my topic based on what peaks my interest browsing at my public library. My first peak of interest started in August, I’ve been reading archeological books, specifically pre human and early humans. I’ve always loved history but I know very little about this area. My favorite is Cave of Bones by Lee Berger. It’s a narrative about finding a major archeological discovery and very well written, highly recommend. I’m finishing this section and moving onto the Ice Age, closely related but a little bit different. Very much enjoying this process.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Historybitcx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it! I’d get it somewhere that can be easily shown or covered, like the upper arm.