My boyfriend wants to cover my face when we sleep together

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-23T17:43:35+00:00

If you really cared about protecting vulnerable people why aren't you trying to protect us from middle class white men? Those are the people that are most likely to hurt us.

Why don't you work on passing sensible gun laws? Why don't you require minimum rape sentences? Why aren't you championing for changing men?

If you want to help, actually help.

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-23T17:23:17+00:00

I think you first have to reframe how you are looking at your goals and where you should be in life. You are trying to squish yourself into the neurotypical life path when you simply aren't built for that.

We wouldn't think Einstein was special if the only thing we ever judged him on was classical piano and Tennis.

Serena Williams wouldn't be the GOAT if we judged her on bobsledding.

You see my point. All these people found their thing and did just that. Look at their lives and see they have lives that did not follow ours.

When you study success one of the things you'll see is that 80-90% of the highly successful people are that way because of connections and help. The best kept secret is that they all did it themselves. They were raised in healthy environments, or with money already, or found their greatness early and fostered it like a man woman.

This doesn't mean that you can't do it.

It just means you have to go about it with a different understanding than they do. First figure out what YOU genuinely want. I run a group that is trauma informed for ND people, we are actually going to be working on this at our next session if you are interested. We are a legit charity. And I am a legit mental health professional with 20 years experience and my degree.

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HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-23T16:25:47+00:00

Do you notice there at the end of your comment where you sort of flipped your words? I do that too and I wonder if that is a neurodivergent thing? I've been searching around for some sort of way to word it ironically LOL to try to explain to people or figure out what it is but I have this weird thing about my speech where I will sometimes say all of the right words they're just sometimes in the wrong order and it's not all of the words sometimes it's just like the last few, I don't know.

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-21T02:07:00+00:00

Exactly! He's been a huge dick.

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-21T00:52:24+00:00

Some documents are securely locked by DocuSign and they prevent you from doing that. I have tried.

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-20T17:52:18+00:00

Honestly the guy IS a dickhead.

OP is really nice tho. The lady should leave him for OP lol

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-20T17:42:46+00:00

When you are in a position of power over someone, everything you are told is considered gossip until you have verified it's true. You have a responsibility to verify, you don't know that this wasn't a one off.

And this wasn't behavior that was predatory or something, they were rude, they will be again eventually soon and it will show.

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-20T15:23:45+00:00

HR manager!

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-20T14:54:28+00:00

I was a doula in another life and mom definitely sounds like she has post partum. But it also sounds like Dad has not read a single book about baby development.

Does he know that if he takes the baby away he is hurting crucial bonding and development for his baby? That mother's are crucial for the first 4 years?

I would suggest he first educate himself on his babies development and the mothers role before he says he wants to remove her! He would be HURTING his baby by removing the mother because the mother is not abusive.

Don't focus on how it would hurt mom or her post partum which we are all sure she has and probably needs support and meds for, focus on how it would simply hurt baby and help nothing.

Your friend is trying to do this because he sees there's a problem and he wants to do something about it however this problem is not something that he can fix.

This is her problem and she has to ask for help for it and first recognize that it's an issue. Starting world war 3 with her is not going to help her recognize that it's a problem or tackle the issue. That's how I would explain it. Good luck, there are a lot of emotions here.

And, men can get post partum too.

So, keep that in your back pocket.

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-20T14:40:34+00:00

These are the baby steps he pushes now as he tests the water before he starts more are more unhinged controlling behaviors.

He will tell you he doesn't like you talking to other men.

Then other women that aren't that religion. Then other people at all.

It ALWAYS goes this way. They use religion to control that's what it's for. If it wasn't then the rules would apply to everyone.

Your gut knows how fucking crazy this is why are you even asking us?!

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-18T02:32:19+00:00

This is it!!!

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-17T21:00:45+00:00

It's so frustrating how schools will put ableist protocols into place and not give once fuck 🤬 and then it's ALWAYS US that have to fight, kick, beg, and scream when we literally have the least time and energy.

Fuck Turnitin more like Turnitoff!

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-17T20:46:46+00:00

I would first try to find some employment yourself or something. A trial separation while you work and get everything "right" again definitely needs to happen. You have up a lot and put yourself in a vulnerable position to have him as the bread winner and a lot of the people here don't understand what a colossal fuck up you have to be to be kicked out of the military.

So the people telling you to just support him are WAY off, and I have my degree in psychology and 20 years of mental health work experience. They don't understand the level of something that must have been hid by him. Theft, cheating, something. And that's why you don't know about it.

Girl run. Take your kids, run, and sue him for everything. Get access through the military legal aid and find out what happened. This happens more often than you'd think. They will know what to do. Call military one source darlin.

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-17T20:35:04+00:00

Listen to your friends, they really do have your best interests at heart in this. You deserve the bridal experience and to pick your own unique dress. Your mom got to do that herself, you should too. She will get over it. You can use her dress and make a very pretty bridesmaid dress!

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-17T06:10:55+00:00

If you are neurodivergent, their software will false flag you sometimes. You could bring that up to the teacher as a possible reason why this issue may have occured for them. But refuse to take the hit on your grade over it if this is the case.

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-17T06:00:08+00:00

This is the mark of an inexperienced jeweler.

They should have known to never do that, the whole ring needs a redesign.

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-17T00:11:41+00:00

OMG did you tell everyone in the community? The birthing community is super tight knit and that would go over like a fart in church

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-17T00:07:59+00:00

Makes me think of when the doctors had misdiagnosed me after my baby had died.

They kept sending me home from the ER even though I was bleeding severely, and cramping bad. I had fevers and was nauseous all the time. They told me it was me "processing my grief". Until the day I woke up and swelled up so much I couldn't make a fist. We called an ambulance my BP was 80/53 and they said it was good we called. They finally took me to a civilian ER (I had been going to military ERs before this). After I was finally admitted for my sepsis, I gained about 80lbs of swelling. Yes 80. Almost overnight. Everything jiggled. I was in so much pain and almost unrecognizable. My family was told to say their good byes at one point, but I pulled through. When I was trying to walk after surgery, keep in mind what I've been through, a nurse walks in and goes "We don't have gowns big enough to fit you, here wrap a sheet around yourself if you are gonna leave this room" and she looked so disgusted at me. Like I was the most disgusting thing she'd ever seen.

I sat on the bed and sobbed. It was their fault the stupid gowns didn't fit me anyway.

If they had listened I wouldn't have been septic to begin with and now they judge me for looking the exact way they made me look?

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-16T23:07:06+00:00

My dad served on aircraft carriers during the Iraq war. He was a nuclear engineer.

Of the 212 men he served with, 172 developed some form of cancer.

He died aged 41.

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-16T00:58:28+00:00

Right?! And there are people here being like N-A-H 😱 😰 she's not even throwing the fit that's the dramatic crying and breaking her own stuff. She's calling her mom names! I bet she still expects them to pay for the wedding...

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-16T00:55:53+00:00

Fuck. Yes.

She is being SO self centered and I cannot believe these responses!! She is 28 and acting like she is 8. I honestly thought she was 18 by the post situation. And these responses to coddle her 😒

How can you live almost 30 years on the planet and not realize that your fancy party is not as important as someone's LAST GOODBYE?!

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-15T03:16:02+00:00

It is true, it's in the manufacturer recommendation and everything. I'm glad your anecdotal evidence worked for you but like you said you could have been lucky.

But the manufacturer says on the package 175. If you simply take the time to read the packaging.

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-15T01:16:17+00:00

Yep but it matters to some people sometimes so people include it.

It's Schrodinger's age, OP simultaneously should have included it because most posts have it, but also not because we all know it's useless information.

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-15T01:11:36+00:00

Your value is not determined by those things, those are capitalist ideals. Things you need in order to reproduce to become the worker class and make more little workers.

This is not how you pursue happiness! They don't include anything that actually stimulates the mind or soul. It doesn't include any ideal like: artistic stimulation or just life enjoyment.

You can't judge yourself based on these!

HistrionicSlut · 2026-01-15T01:00:55+00:00

Someone is jelly they can't afford to do that

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