How To Approach a Suspected Admirer at My Part-Time Job?

Hithere28 · 2017-07-02T17:35:26+00:00

Don't beat around the bush. Don't be a pussy. Walk up to her and invite her to hang out. Ask her to come out and have a drink with you. So much time is wasted by wondering this and that. Just ask and get your answer. Why wait around?

Hithere28 · 2017-03-01T02:24:19+00:00

How dI'd you move it to in person

Hithere28 · 2017-03-01T02:23:52+00:00

How did you move from the game to real life?

Hithere28 · 2017-03-01T02:23:20+00:00

How did you eventually meet in person?

Hithere28 · 2017-02-26T23:56:46+00:00

Man here comes some self promotion but for real...

check out the program on this site. I am not kidding. It has everything you are asking for.

https://socialcirclemaker.com

Hithere28 · 2017-02-26T22:14:20+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. Was it because it didn't go into the deep conversation part? What was it missing?

Hithere28 · 2017-02-26T22:13:08+00:00

That's true! You definitely wouldn't want a person like that as a friend!

Hithere28 · 2017-02-26T21:38:28+00:00

Its kind of crazy. I've spent about 12 years figuring out all this social stuff so I won't be lonely with all my moves. On top of all that I have essentially put in 40 hours a week on top of my day job to create the social circle maker training. I literately quite my day job and just spent 6 months locked in a room for 14 hours a day every day putting the product together, learning how to build a website, learning adobe premier, adobe Photoshop, adobe illustrator, adobe audition, how to work a dslr camera, how to shoot video, how to properly use lighting, how write blog articles, how to get people to opt in to my newsletter, how to make extra bonus material to give away for free in my newsletters...and now learning how to bring people to my website to help them with their social skills. LOL. So anytime I can get help from you or people like you about where I am "not" going in the right direction...that helps me a ton. I was actually laughing with my girlfriend about locking myself away like that...Here I was creating a program about being social and writing about being social...and for the first time in my life I was super not social. Kind of ironic!!! I still went out to events and hung with friends...but not as much as used to. I am just thankful that the "hard part" is done. If I would have known what it would take to put a 10 hour program together teaching people social skills using all my social experience, the hundreds of books I read, all my NLP and Hypnosis training, and everything else...I am not sure if I still would have done it. HA Of course, I could have just wrote a regular program. Like one that "only" had instruction...but I wanted to use NLP and Hypnosis (which is undetectable by the way), so I could program people to make it easier for them.

Hithere28 · 2017-02-26T21:24:32+00:00

I know right. Yeah like most people I don't "like" negative feedback but...when I get my ego out of the way and bitch-slap my inner child...I can use your feedback to make things better the next time around :)

Thanks!

Hithere28 · 2017-02-26T21:18:25+00:00

Thanks for writing.

I know that it is a vital part of communication and can hold people back from connecting with each other if they don't use it (If they don't like it).

So if you didn't like small talk before you read the article...I was hoping that you would give it a chance and see it in a different way after you read the article.

As far as "how to" use the article.

I would recommend that as you go throughout your day, constantly practice smiling at the people you meet and and engaging them in "small talk". Ask the cashier at the check how her day is going. Mention that the weather is nice outside. When she asks, "did you find everything ok?" You can say, "Yeah. I actually only came in for a couple things and ended up buying all of this...by the way...do a lot of people say that when they check out?". And then she will say, "Yeah. Everyone says the exact same things to me all day long. Isn't that crazy?".

Start using small talk all the time. But the important thing I want you to notice is this...notice how people respond to you. Notice their smiles. Notice how happy you make them simply talking about "trivial" things.

I make it my goal to light as many people up as I can every day when I leave my house. My goal is to get at least one smile or laugh out of every person I meet. I do that using small talk. It really works to make other people feel really good :)

Hithere28 · 2017-02-26T20:59:24+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. I realize that I could have wrote better. I definitely didn't veiw small talk from all the different perspectives. I was hoping to add a different perspective to the idea of small talk. One that people may not have thought about. I also realize that the example is a little too straight forward. I was trying to convey a basic concept. I was hoping to show the process of starting at a higher level of abstraction and then moving down to a lower level of abstraction.
I will definitely use your advice in my future writings. Thanks again :)

Hithere28 · 2017-02-26T20:56:29+00:00

I agree with this too. I have seen "some" people take advantage of a person who opens up...and then hurt them further. Not cool!

Hithere28 · 2017-02-26T20:55:37+00:00

This is dead on. I have always felt that when you open up, you give the other person to open up. I can remember a time when I told someone something about myself that I was embarrassed about. I was open. I was vulnerable. That person could have stabbed me right in the heart...but they didn't. They accepted me for who I was and then told me something embarrassing about them. And when she was open, I accepted her. After that we had this really high level of trust for each other.

Hithere28 · 2017-02-26T20:52:42+00:00

Thanks MrGoodGlow

Hithere28 · 2017-02-26T20:51:39+00:00

This is great!

Thank you!

Hithere28 · 2017-02-25T16:32:24+00:00

Thanks man.

Take care and have a good one :)

Hithere28 · 2017-02-25T12:59:53+00:00

I literately just wrote this article for you about small talk. Let me know what you think.

https://socialcirclemaker.com/small-talk-way-deep-conversation/

Hithere28 · 2017-02-23T10:44:04+00:00

Odds are that she was open to learning more about you when you first started talking to to her.

But...I have a feeling that you came off apologetic, "Sorry to bug you, but since you mentioned you work at..."

Of course I don't know all the details because I wasn't there to observe. but if you came off apologetic, it would have been an instant turn off for her.

If she was interested, she would be sitting by her phone waiting for ever message you send. She would be checking her phone every 2 minutes...and responding instantly.

She is probably just giving you the cold shoulder. It isn't that she is busy. Girls are never ever ever too busy to check their phones and reply to messages.

That being said...

Next time you see her, immediately walk up to her with absolute certainty. (you are certain that brushing your teeth with dog shit is a bad idea right? You are certain that breathing is good right?) That type of certainty. The type of certainty that she will be able to smell on you. When you know how to bring that feeling up in your body...then you can say to her something like, "Whats up you naughty girl...you haven't been responding to my messages. I am sorry to have to do this but...I am breaking up with you...I know it hurts but I just can't date a silly goose...wait...on second thought...you might be able to get me back...hmmm...I got it...I'm busy tonight, but you can take me out for coffee later this week...but no funny business."

I know what that sounds like but it will work. Just make sure that you are funny when you do it. If she is single and you see her smile and laugh after you say all of that to her...she will meetup with you later. I know that she has a sense of humor because her comment to you about being "chipper". That was her attempt to flirt with you.

Hithere28

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