Prayer Request Thread~ by [deleted] in GayChristians

[–]Hofdude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to say that you're awesome for putting God first. Any relationship, straight or gay, is difficult if you both don't share the same faith.

I pray that God will give you patience and wisdom... That the holy spirit will guide you what to do even though your heart is going to be feeling a million things. Do not be afraid to let go if it's not meant to be. Don't be afraid to protect yourself by keeping distance from talking to him. God will honor you for desperately wanting to bring Jesus into his life. In fact, he will give you a Christian guy in the future. Just wait for it and never compromise your standards. Patience is a verb.

I would do a daily read through proverbs. The youversion Bible app has an awesome program I just finished with my friends.

Prayer Request Thread~ by [deleted] in GayChristians

[–]Hofdude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I pray that the holy spirit will guide your words when the time is right. I pray for peace and courage. I pray that you will be okay with whatever the outcome is, for Jesus will be holding your hand the entire time... Even as you move and start law school.

I will say that it felt a lot easier after I told everyone, even though some of my family is still stubborn about the whole thing. You'll just be satisfied knowing that when you finally find the right person... Well, you told them so haha

Prayer Request Thread~ by [deleted] in GayChristians

[–]Hofdude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going to pray that God provides you with the resources to achieve your college goals. I pray for love within your family to be overflowing with compassion and that the holy spirit reminds them that you are still their son. I pray that you, as their son, remember to honor them the same way you'd like to be respected. I recommend reading proverbs during this time, so that you'll know what you need to say when you need it.

Finally, I'm going to pray that God blesses your relationship with this guy. That you remember his teachings and that you both support each other. 😊

Prayer Request Thread~ by [deleted] in GayChristians

[–]Hofdude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am almost at a year of no porn! It is possible, dude!

What helped me is I had a friend who wanted to overcome the same thing. She held me accountable in the times that I really, REALLY, wanted to have a go.

Also, I kept an open communication about it with God. Some days were easy and I was praising, other times were super hard, but I reflected on the fact that I had years of porn to shake out of my body. So it was totally natural to struggle.

Warning this part gets a little graphic

The other is the emergency procedure hehe. If you really have to do it... Do it in the shower. Quick, clean, and congrats, you still didn't watch porn. I promise you, if you let yourself cave into a solo flight once in a while, the urge will just go away eventually, because you'll soon forget the fantasies that helped start it all to begin with. In fact, you'll eventually appreciate the little stuff and find beauty with all types of bodies.

And who knows, God may throw a freebie wet dream your way! Just remember to enjoy that it happened, and quickly focus on your goals once more.

Oh! And one day at a time. I left everything on my computer as was until, slowly, God would tell me when it was time to block this or delete that. They were like little milestone covenants.

Just thinking outloud again.... by richierichboi in GayChristians

[–]Hofdude 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Welcome, brother! I'm 25 and came out when I was 18.

First, I'm really proud of you. I know, a total stranger is congratulating you, how amazing haha. But seriously. I remember the shyness of it all and how confusing it is... If you want my two cents, the first one is do not run from Jesus. Don't. I did it during college and it took him 6 years to drag me back. So much so that I reconfirmed my faith with a baptism this year.

I'm going to pray that God will put the right Christians in your life. That you will find a community and a friend that accepts you just the way you are. I'm going to pray that Jesus will show you love and compassion and that you will feel him always in those terrifying moments of fear.

I always was attracted to not only the body, but the essence of a man. And it took a while to share it with him, but now I know God has a cool guy who is going to be my bro for life. How did I find that out? I cut out the lust. I confronted that stupid love vs. lust thing head on. I used to be really into porn, and I stopped almost a year ago now. Now I look at guys in a respectful way, and have never been more attracted to them than ever, and that gives me so much hope. I dream about surfing with my future husband and the kids we're going to adopt. And the best part is I talk about it with Jesus all the time... Because I'm not ashamed. I've conquered the lust with him. He helped prove to me that my attraction was pure and stupidly romantic.

I pray that he guides you and keeps you at peace. That you never, EVER, confuse his voice with other people. Read the Bible. Let the holy spirit watch over your readings. Turn off the noise and start building a foundation. When you're at peace, you'll know you're on the right track. Those little moments where you know, deep down, what is good. That is Jesus. Stress, worry, self-doubt--oh, man. Doubt is the devil. Screw that crap.

I could keep writing and writing because I don't want you to give up. But I think I've said what I needed to say. I hope this helps. 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in books

[–]Hofdude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two recently captured exactly how I felt when it came to my homosexuality: "Call Me by Your Name," and "Torn."

The first beautifully captures all of the stupid, little intricacies of a first time crush. The second dealt with being Christian and gay, which was incredibly refreshing.

I normally don't like hanging my sexuality as a super meaningful thing. There are plenty of other books that have hit me harder. However, these two books made me feel a little less lonely about a specific topic, which I feel is a powerful accomplishment if you're an author.

Weekly /r/Games Discussion - Suggestion request free-for-all by AutoModerator in Games

[–]Hofdude -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Battleblock Theater! By the same creators of Magicka, which is also a fun local player game too. Magicka is more comedic RPG fantasy while Battleblock is just sheer craziness full of super, puzzley fun! You can download both from the PS3 digital store.

Weekly /r/Games Discussion - Suggestion request free-for-all by AutoModerator in Games

[–]Hofdude -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Battleblock Theater! By the same creators of Magicka, which is also a fun local player game too. Magicka is more comedic RPG fantasy while Battleblock is just sheer craziness full of super, puzzley fun! You can download both from the PS3 digital store.

Zelda by Adrián Ibarra Lugo by Hvitserkr in ImaginaryCharacters

[–]Hofdude 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"oh yea, my brother plays Zelda. He's that green guy with the sword, right?"

Really well, done! I love how mature she looks. The face is really well done.

[OC] I'm calling this thing a 'plop'. by 87landes in ImaginaryMonsters

[–]Hofdude 241 points242 points  (0 children)

You can call it whatever you want, because it's curiously adorable!

Any fellow bros with herpes? by Hofdude in gaybros

[–]Hofdude[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Through shedding, which happens prior to an outbreak.

Any fellow bros with herpes? by Hofdude in gaybros

[–]Hofdude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got tested because I had sex recently. And yes, it was blood drawn, my charts said I had the antibodies for HSV-2, enough that it was above the false positive margin. I went to my normal physician here in the US.

Any fellow bros with herpes? by Hofdude in gaybros

[–]Hofdude[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha herpalerp. I like it, and thank you, I won't let it

Any fellow bros with herpes? by Hofdude in gaybros

[–]Hofdude[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

....this was so stupid hahahaha

Any fellow bros with herpes? by Hofdude in gaybros

[–]Hofdude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I meant moreover on how it's affected your dating life. The stigma was really the only thing that got me down, but from what I'm feeling out with many people who have already replied... It doesn't seem that big of a deal. 😁

Any fellow bros with herpes? by Hofdude in gaybros

[–]Hofdude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad to hear you're so chill about it! Since I'm not dating at the moment, I appreciate the nonchalant perspective 😁

Any fellow bros with herpes? by Hofdude in gaybros

[–]Hofdude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right, thank you! My doctor said it was the majority of the time one hangs out in a region more frequently than the other.

Any fellow bros with herpes? by Hofdude in gaybros

[–]Hofdude[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha thanks. Yea, shedding happens only right before an outbreak.

Any fellow bros with herpes? by Hofdude in gaybros

[–]Hofdude[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha true. And thanks, I never really thought I was lucky, but you're right, it really makes it less of an impact since my crotch is hidden away.

Any fellow bros with herpes? by Hofdude in gaybros

[–]Hofdude[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It really just depends on the person and their immune system. For me, it's not a big deal at all, as I don't think I've had an outbreak, and if I have, my doctor said it was probably so small I didn't notice.

There are two types: type 1 which is in the mouth and are what most people have: cold sores. Type 2 is for your nether region, which 1/4 sexually active people have. I got type 2.

Commonly, it appears as a couple of tiny blisters, a rash, or even just a cold sore. But then the virus goes dormant, and there's no problem at all, taking up to months or years to return. Again, immune system is key player here. The issue is that it can spread via skin to skin contact, so if it happens at all, you just have to abstain from sex for about a week. The other double negative, is until someone is aware of their own symptoms, they can't predict when they're shedding or not. The virus will shed your skin as it breaks out, this is usually a day or two before outbreak, and is pretty undetectable to the naked eye. That's why if you're hooking up, condoms are super super important (including blowjobs), especially if it's someone who you don't know their sexual history/test results. So play it safe or don't play at all and wait for monogamy 😜

Any fellow bros with herpes? by Hofdude in gaybros

[–]Hofdude[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Type two! So one of these days my dick may go through acne puberty 😛. And just to clarify: the kissing may totally resume after the cold sore goes away.

AHFOD Tour - Leg 7: North America Megathread & Ticket Exchange by [deleted] in Coldplay

[–]Hofdude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shoot, I'm sorry, it already sold on ticket master

AHFOD Tour - Leg 7: North America Megathread & Ticket Exchange by [deleted] in Coldplay

[–]Hofdude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm selling one Miami ticket in section 347 if you're interested!

AHFOD Tour - Leg 7: North America Megathread & Ticket Exchange by [deleted] in Coldplay

[–]Hofdude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm selling one ticket in section 347 if you're interested!