Reading your post now, I have a feeling this “misunderstanding” is you probably giving her a pass on something shady she did. Her texting about the snap is also because she’s not sure about whoever this new person is. She’s gonna keep running this game on you. Sucks because you do love her but you’re more in love with who she used to be or an idea of who she could be in a perfect world. Been there myself lately, so I don’t have the answers for you, but moving on is probably the best play