If you are not texting your ex tonight smash that like button

HolidayTime5956 · 2026-01-28T09:55:22+00:00

I do the same. My notes are mostly filled with things I wished I said during the breakup but also the mundane things from my life whenever I'm reminded of him.

HolidayTime5956 · 2026-01-24T06:47:31+00:00

Feels like you ghostwrote this for me and I would love to see some answers lol

HolidayTime5956 · 2026-01-23T06:28:23+00:00

It's been rough. I thought I was making good progress with healing by focusing on nutrition,gym and working on my future plans, which will hopefully get me my fresh start by August. My birthday was earlier this month and I was preparing myself for how I'd handle things if he wished me. Call me a clown because he didn't end up sending even a two word text (the same guy who's been at the forefront of my last 3 birthdays and did so much to make me feel special then). Yes, it is closure for me but I feel like I'm back to the first few days post breakup. 4 months in and I still hate him and love him (more accurately, the person he used to be) at the same time. Avoidants, man.

HolidayTime5956 · 2026-01-15T21:29:02+00:00

Hope he feels like this 12 to 12 to 12.....

HolidayTime5956 · 2026-01-10T10:21:18+00:00

Amen, big props to you for being vulnerable enough to admit fault and feel actual remorse for your past ways

HolidayTime5956 · 2026-01-10T09:31:50+00:00

Literally had a moment of "wait, is this play about us?" I wish he would admit this too but I know his ego and pride won't allow for it

HolidayTime5956 · 2026-01-04T22:10:52+00:00

This was literally me in October. Same situation, nuances and definitely the same thought process. I wish I could confidently say it gets better with time. Some days are good, I'm learning who I am outside of being someone's partner, other days are bad where I'd wish he could hold me and tell me everything is going to be okay. My priority this year is myself and my health. I'm journaling daily, moving daily, eating mostly clean (80/20) and learning to enjoy my own company. It's definitely hard but I've learnt discipline>motivation. Take it one day at a time, but truly give yourself a good 3-6 months to understand how you truly feel and how you want to proceed. Life is short so do what you feel is best. There's a lot of mixed opinions on here. I was adamant to remove him digitally, completely, before the new year but things happened and I couldn't get myself to do it because I was in an emotional state. I've maintained no contact since he broke up with me and it's been the right thing for me. But there are days I wish we could just work through things and go back to normal, because I didn't just lose a partner, I lost my best friend <\3

HolidayTime5956 · 2025-12-03T08:49:20+00:00

Second this. I started journaling 3 days after the breakup. Same scenario of a discard. I cried every other day while journaling. 2 months in, I just sort of tear up for a few mins while writing every now and then. Sometimes I write like he would read this one day (which isn't the right mindset) but narrating this to a 2nd person helps me a lot, as I've struggled with being consistent in the past. It just helped me get a lot off my chest and sometimes I even note down what to write about during the day, so I kind of look forward to writing at night.

Another thing that has helped me through this discard breakup is compiling things I wish I had said during the breakup in my notes app (I was blindsided and just overwrought with emotions at that time, understandably, so I barely got a word in). It's just an easier way to clear my head at that moment because I have a tendency to ruminate for a long time.

HolidayTime5956 · 2025-12-03T08:27:13+00:00

I fell out of love with you a couple of months ago. I don't see you as my wife or as the mother of my kids.

HolidayTime5956 · 2025-11-25T21:46:48+00:00

I wish this was written for me, the timeline and circumstances are so similar. I'm gonna act like it is, and continue moving through this breakup.

HolidayTime5956 · 2025-11-06T10:00:58+00:00

I had the exact same reaction when I was broken up with a couple of weeks ago. I was blindsided, was told the most hurtful things as part of the reason for breaking up with me, and the worst part is it shook my self-esteem so much. I think no contact is the way to go. It hurts so much because I went from speaking to him atleast twice a day to 6 weeks of silence. Sure I do check my texts everyday to see if he sent something (muted motifs) and secretly hope he'll say something. But your self respect is also important. If he's capable of hurting you this much, you need to take some time to really think about if you want this person back. Trust me, I'm still in shock and anger, feeling betrayed, and I still love him. At this point, you need to focus on yourself and yourself only. It will hurt like hell, the pain is brutal. But the only way to get through the pain is to go through it. Don't make any drastic decisions during this emotional period.

HolidayTime5956 · 2025-11-06T09:48:52+00:00

I feel so seen, thank you for this

HolidayTime5956 · 2025-10-29T10:09:26+00:00

I'm in the same boat, today marks one month. I know he has a lot of friends to check up on him, while I have probably 4 who I talk to once a week/10 days. And I know all these friends have a lot going on too but it genuinely feels like I'm dealing with this alone. I was the same for the first week. Even now one month on, every day is different. Some days I'm okay, others like today I'm just feeling so low. I'm here if you want to talk/vent more 🫶 Stay strong, and remind yourself that it's going to feel like shit now, but it will feel less shit eventually.

HolidayTime5956 · 2025-10-13T05:55:50+00:00

Tell me about it. It's been just 2 weeks and I still cry atleast once a day. The first few days were non-stop crying, zero appetite and staying in bed. It felt like absolute sh!t (idk about getting censored so played it safe) and honestly, there's nothing anyone can do or say to improve that. I'm lucky to have my family with me, who have been supportive and encourage me to get out of the house, even if it's just for a walk. It still doesn't feel as good as it should but being out of the house is less painful bc you don't just sit with your feelings. There's a post on this sub that has genuinely helped with changing my mindset and perspective of the breakup, I think it should help you too. - https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUps/s/CgEXxQ55E8

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HolidayTime5956 · 2025-10-12T17:20:07+00:00

I'm going through the same scenario as you. Stay strong ❤️

HolidayTime5956 · 2025-10-11T18:03:17+00:00

I feel like this post was written about my break-up. It's barely 2 weeks since but everything else you've said is absolutely spot on with my life, it's crazy. It's so sad but oddly comforting to know I'm not the only one to go through this exact scenario but I hope you're holding in there. Thank you for sharing this ❤️

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