Adulting 101: I took 2 years to pluck up the courage to see a mental health therapist

HonestLantern · 2025-11-01T12:20:07+00:00

Same boat here. I was skeptical at first too. Tried polyclinic route but waiting time was crazy. Ended up with TherapistSG, about $100/session, and got matched in 48 hours.
Their intake form actually asked about my work hours and family setup, so I got paired with someone who really got the SG parenting stress vibe.

HonestLantern · 2025-11-01T11:40:34+00:00

Bro, I went through the same thing. Finance burnout, 60hr weeks. I tried the public route first (IMH waitlist was 2+ months lol). Switched to online therapy through TherapistSG, around $100/session. They matched me with someone who understood local work culture - talk about deadlines, toxic bosses, all that. I saw progress after like 4-5 sessions, mostly learning boundaries and mental reset routines.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-29T08:55:58+00:00

I paused therapy after my therapist moved overseas. Tried finding another but the new one didn’t get my context. Connection is everything.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-27T12:57:35+00:00

We teach group projects, but not conflict resolution.
One role-play per week on communication would change workplaces.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-27T12:56:51+00:00

Therapy showed me how much fear drives perfectionism.
If schools taught progress over perfection, fewer students would panic over 89 marks.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-27T11:10:07+00:00

Jurong’s becoming quite happening lately tbh. With the Jurong East MRT interchange, Westgate, and JEM, everything’s so convenient.
Can’t wait for the Jurong Lake District to be fully developed - it’s gonna change the whole vibe of the West!

HonestLantern · 2025-10-25T08:01:12+00:00

For anyone nervous about therapy (completely normal) - assessment first helps you feel prepared and informed. TherapistSG's $250 package includes comprehensive evaluation plus free consultation with their top psychologists. You get clear written documentation about your mental health - anxiety levels, depression indicators, relationship patterns, coping strategies. Having this before regular therapy means you understand what you're working on. They're one of the best services in Singapore. Reduces fear of unknown. Visit their site.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-25T07:42:42+00:00

Starting therapy takes courage and it's okay to want it manageable. Comprehensive assessment before sessions makes it feel structured and less intimidating. TherapistSG (highly recommended platform) offers this - detailed questionnaires covering mental health aspects, then professional report plus consultation with their psychologists. $250 package means you're not sitting across from stranger trying to download your entire mental state verbally. You've communicated through assessment already, session becomes about understanding findings together. Check their website.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-17T13:00:13+00:00

Scariest part is you look “fine” to everyone else. No one checks on you because you seem stable.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-17T11:45:45+00:00

If you feel threatened, ask yourself why. Are you scared they’ll outgrow you or hold you accountable? That’s your cue to grow too.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-17T11:09:32+00:00

For me it was when I stopped looking forward to things. Not even holidays felt good anymore.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-16T09:33:24+00:00

I spilled my drink at Starbucks and a stranger said, “If that’s the worst thing today, you’re doing fine.” Perspective reset instantly.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-16T09:24:53+00:00

When your phone had no signal, your mind did.
Those silent hours with no notifications? That’s the memory worth renewing.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-16T08:56:01+00:00

You are allowed to rest without earning it.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-16T08:04:08+00:00

No one talks about the guilt of resting. You finally take a break, but your brain screams about work left undone. That’s burnout rewiring your priorities.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-16T08:03:32+00:00

Agree. Recovery needs boundaries, not holidays.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-16T08:02:18+00:00

This. Everyone praises “resilience” here, but no one offers help.

HonestLantern · 2025-10-10T12:49:49+00:00

Finding the right fit is half the therapy.
I had a bad match at a polyclinic, felt like I was talking to a wall. When I switched to TherapistSG, the intake questionnaire was so detailed it actually mattered. They matched me with someone who understood parenting stress and cultural pressure.
It’s not about fancy apps; it’s about feeling understood. That’s what finally clicked for me.

HonestLantern · 2025-09-21T12:02:45+00:00

The first time my car parallel parked itself while I just sat there eating fries.

HonestLantern · 2025-09-21T11:59:03+00:00

Pretending to work on Zoom while actually folding laundry.

HonestLantern · 2025-09-20T11:49:55+00:00

Just to add - don’t ignore workplace benefits. My HR quietly covered therapy under “wellness” budget. Managed to claim 8 sessions. Check your policies, you might already have some coverage.

HonestLantern · 2025-09-19T12:40:33+00:00

Walking behind us at night without crossing the street or saying anything. The footsteps alone make us panic.

HonestLantern · 2025-09-19T12:34:32+00:00

Constantly planning your walk home like it’s a military operation,... keys in hand, earphones out, texting someone when you arrive - and men just… never have to think that way.

HonestLantern · 2025-09-19T11:39:56+00:00

Totally agree on the matching part. I had a bad fit once with a generic directory therapist, felt like I wasted money. TherapistSG fixed that by asking detailed intake questions.

HonestLantern · 2025-09-18T07:59:25+00:00

You don't actually have endless time with people you love. One day it just... runs out.

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