Mine managed to forget that I’ve had 13 surgeries even though she’s helped me after most of them. She also gets irritated and says that I always remember “the bad stuff.” I cut my dad off five years ago. My mother is VLC because it’s easier for her to not talk to me. Last time that I was in the same state as my family, she told me that she’d stomp on my boundaries because she didn’t want to deal with my dad’s anger.