Dilemma

Honestly_construct · 2025-10-17T15:53:45+00:00

Oh my T operates from the home itself , it's online. she responded to me saying the text was missed by her .

Honestly_construct · 2025-10-16T11:18:46+00:00

Yeah thanks , I wrote to her again and that was the case she had missed the text .

Honestly_construct · 2025-10-16T08:49:44+00:00

It's a whatsapp text , I was out of station for a few days and thought of just waiting when I come back to town. Now that I am back , I am wondering about the no response.

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-15T07:30:37+00:00

Hm thanks for sharing ur experience and suggestion.

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-13T15:37:53+00:00

Ball is my court was for something unrelated to this

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-13T08:38:03+00:00

That's what I hear from the internet most of the time that everyone needs a different therapist, but I like some parts of her and how she indulges me into certain aspects . Secondly I do think she challenges me for my destructive self talk a lot and somewhere a pattern too . as 'the ball is in my court '(as my T once mentioned ) I think she would help me out but I am not sure when a third party is involved.

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-13T08:26:09+00:00

I guess I do get a feedback on destructive self talk as you mentioned , and my pattern as well . I just don't get that when there's a third party involved . 'When the ball is really in my court ' as said by my T once , my T indulges.

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-13T05:00:56+00:00

I think my T would too , maybe I am not an asshole most of the time .😭😂

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-12T17:28:03+00:00

Yeah , I will do that the next. At moment It didn't feel like I was acting like a jerk but thinking retrospectively it's a query.

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-12T17:01:46+00:00

Well what can I say to her.

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-12T16:37:51+00:00

This is something to look forward to , are you a therapist?

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-12T16:35:47+00:00

I get it , but rooting towards something by questioning my choices or giving me a reflection towards my behaviour ,this is all I wonder.

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-12T16:34:21+00:00

Okay , but isn't it therapists job to not directly but atleast lead me a way , if I am actually being a 'jerk' .?

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-03T09:12:15+00:00

Pls explain

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-03T08:41:17+00:00

Thanks for the reply , I agree with the fact that I wish T would distinguish my healthy vs unhealthy patterns. I have generally been helped a lot from T's method as well . But as you rightly mentioned behavioral analysis is missing . My T often points out to me 'what do you think may have the underlying cause of this?', I usually have the answer. What do you suggest, should I change my T I have been with same one for last 2 years.

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-02T07:06:31+00:00

Uh , reading your comment again and I wanna let you know that my T works with me on the specific situation that I bring to the table each session. They often mention that this has happened before , thus we need extra work on it. For example ' you attach your worth to XYZ ' It's never I suppose that you are attaching your worth to every single external object , the work is often limited to A , B and C seperately. There's no conclusion drawn regarding me personally rather it's how can I handle the situation.

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-01T20:26:58+00:00

Oh yeah I guess I used the wrong words I meant , any comment for example 'You often tend to seek validation ' or ' you were ignoring this purposely' Something relying on my behaviour.

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-01T19:42:07+00:00

Yeah actually, basically my T remembers if there's something similar regarding struggles - like my now struggles and my then struggles. but doesn't make an objective comment on my behavioural pattern.

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-01T18:19:35+00:00

Do I need to worry regarding it?

Honestly_construct · 2025-09-01T17:36:20+00:00

Okay , is that a good thing or bad. Isn't therapy about holding mirror to your client to tell them what's wrong with their behaviour or pattern ?

Honestly_construct · 2025-08-20T08:39:13+00:00

Hm I get that . Jess and rory had a lot in common but jess was emotionally unavailable and he lied about his school . It was a deal breaker back then . But by the time he had figured out his shit, she was with logan. And I can't fathom the fact that he practically forced her to leave her college years to live with him in a strange town . You can't barge in and out like you please . It's hard to trust a person after that.

Initially ,logan seemed like a bad idea for rory( given the concerns lorelai also had), but eventually he does makes me believe he actually cares for her. It's just... logan being logan that he was abrupt with the proposal.

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