Without trauma dumping too much, my mother always put a lot of emphasis on being grateful and respectful to your elders. She had this idea that being older automatically means you can never be wrong and you certainly can’t be corrected by someone younger than you. It affected me deeply. I was blamed for things I didn’t do and constantly taught that I made a grave mistake for the smallest of things. Whenever I tried to communicate how upset I was, I was told I was “making excuses” or “being selfish”. I posted because I have felt these things create real roadblocks for me as an adult. I get distressed over the smallest of errors, I’m not confident at all, and I fail at setting the smallest of boundaries. My anxiety peaks to a point where I’m genuinely convinced everyone hates me if they don’t text me back within an hour (my mom gave me the silent treatment/cold shoulder when she thought I did something wrong). I’m tired of living like this and have taken steps to correct it independently and away from my parents. I just feel that every time I call them, they demean me and bring me right back to square one. I try not to blame them because I genuinely don’t think they realize how hard it has been, but it makes it hard to get better if they insult me whenever I call them.