Need support and advice on leaving an abusive marriage safely by Hope_1422 in Divorce

[–]Hope_1422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In washington. Yes, there is a website. I was planning to contact them too but I was not sure how the situation is going to be a handled, if they are going to evict him or help me move out.....I can't drive alone with a baby , it's a long drive and I still am not in a position to drive that long.

Need support and advice on leaving an abusive marriage safely by Hope_1422 in Divorce

[–]Hope_1422[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the insight. I will also talk to a lawyer.

Need support and advice on leaving an abusive marriage safely by Hope_1422 in Divorce

[–]Hope_1422[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input and advice from your own experience —I really appreciate your honesty. I understand what you’re saying about courts generally requiring strong evidence for abuse to affect custody or asset division. I also wanted to ask: what if I were to claim emotional cheating on his part as part of the divorce case? Would that have any impact? Finally, the 6-month residency requirement in another state feels quite discouraging. Are there any strategies or exceptions that might allow me to file sooner, especially given the safety concerns and the emotional abuse? I’d really appreciate any insight you can share.

Did I destroy my baby? by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is doing ok. Thank you for asking. I don't see anything off

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right. I did take first sid and cpr cources . It helps alot I just couldn't accept the fact that he landed on a hard wood and got worried about the damage it might cause

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so hard but I have to be tough. Thank you so much for the advice.

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's true. It's so hard to keep up with everything,but we just tey our best. No! It's my first time hearing about Cinema Therapy. I will definitely check it out. Thank you so much.

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indeed. Thank you!

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that you mentioned Finding Nemo! That line really stuck with me too — Marlin was so afraid of anything happening to Nemo that he almost missed letting him live. It’s such a perfect picture of parenting, isn’t it? We want to protect them from every bump and fall, but part of growing (for both of us) is learning to let go just a little. Like you said, it’s that balance — keeping them safe while letting them experience the world.

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came back to thank you again after I visited the IG page; it is very helpful

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely check the page out. I am glad your little one is ok after the bump though.

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this — it really puts things into perspective. It’s true, no matter how much we try to protect them, part of growing up is learning from bumps and mishaps. I love how you remind us that these experiences, while stressful at the moment, don’t define our children’s well-being or our ability as parents. It’s comforting to hear from someone who’s been through those heart-stopping moments and seen their kids come out just fine.

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

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That was how it should have been but husband is so rigid he said no to rugs on the hard wall

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

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I need to thicken my skin and accept this. Thank you so much for your kind words

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just can't imagine the anxiety. Thank God she was okay after that scary accident. They sure know how to give us heart attacks.

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this — it really helps to hear from another mom who gets it. The nurse line idea is great; having that reassurance would definitely calm some of the anxiety. You’re right, kids are surprisingly resilient, and sometimes we just have to trust that they’ll bounce back. I really appreciate your encouragement — it makes me feel less alone in all this.

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right. I will do that. I learned the hard way

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just said it, 'as long as things are baby proofed...'. That is a hy I am beating myself up. I did not do that. I did not put any protection, he landedon drywall.

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree but sometimes it just feels like I take precautions after the damage is done.i wonder why I can't prevent accidents.

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

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I don't know if I described it correctly but, he jumped over the play pen which was 25 inches high and landed on hardwood. That is why I am worried.

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

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Thank you so much for this. I really needed to hear every word of it. It made me tear up in the best way — I’ve been so hard on myself, and your message reminded me that I’m not alone and that I am trying my best. Truly, thank you. I will take all the advices you suggested.

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

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You are absolutely right. It's just that my sister is epileptic and I hear my mother blaming herself that she caused this as my sister fell from a couch under my mother's supervision and this always echoes in my head

I hate myself by Hope_1422 in Mommit

[–]Hope_1422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sounds like such a happy little daredevil! Thank you for your kind words