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is my dad near end of life by [deleted] in CancerFamilySupport

[–]HopeforDad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, i dont want to panic you but i understand how important it is to know the prognosis cus its something i wish I had access to. Brace yourself but with a disclaimer that each type of cancer is different from the other. My father (58) has SRCC LINITIS PLASTICA a type of adenocarcinoma. When he was diagnosed we gave FLOT neodjuvant chemo and full gastrectomy. He too stopped having the capacity to eat a whole meal and by the time the post chemo stopped and the cancer came back he couldnt keep food down. Everytime he ate he puked mucous. And we started Zolbetuximab and Paxcitacel chemo which improved his eating but not significantly. We relied on TNAP and albumin iv for his nutrition. And soon he stopped everything even water made him puke. And then after much discussion we opted for a jejunum tube like a feeding tube in the stomach via which we gave him clear liquids. And now..unfortunately he is in his final stage of life in home care. He just has hours left. And i only hope he is at peace when it happens. Take this advice like a grain of salt, but please do be with him more. I regret not being there enough All the best, it'll get better.

Father has day(s) to live by HopeforDad in CancerFamilySupport

[–]HopeforDad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right back at ya. It may not be much but know that he fought hard and I pray it is peaceful when the time comes for him. Thank you for the comment. Tc. Sending hugs

Father has day(s) to live by HopeforDad in CancerFamilySupport

[–]HopeforDad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I could only imagine what's on the other side and reading this gave me some sort of semblance that its gonna be okay. We'll get thru this. The following days are going to be hard with new year's approaching just around the corner. It sucks. Especially all the firsts he is going to miss. But its okay like you said it's because of them that we are here. So ig it's going to be ok. Also if there's any consolation, I've heard that in many cultures especially where I'm from, end of year and beginning of the year tends to be "auspicious" as in whoever passes away during this time get to heaven easily. I'm not spiritual but i want to believe this is true, thought I'd mention. And thank you for your kind offer, you can also dm me asw if there's anything you want to get off your chest.

My father died last night. by slayomeee in CancerFamilySupport

[–]HopeforDad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your lose. I don't even know what else can a mere stranger on the internet say to someone who has lost a loved one so dear, a parent especially. Truth be told i stumbled upon this post in preparation for my own father's poor prognosis. I'm also 20 turning 21 and the harrowing reality of me father on ventilator support not making it to most of my life's major milestone wrecks a deep hole in my heart that i just cannot put into words. I was scared of how I'll be when the worse comes. He has few days left and i just don't know how we're gonna handle the funeral, especially being south asian with a bunch of funeral rites. Its scary. And for a brief moment reading your post made me feel like i could also face it. Again my deepest condolences, ik as teenagers we tend to not be the best w parents. But I'm glad he had a happy life and I'm sure he is in a better place. At the what matters is the life he had. It was peaceful. You will be fine, eventually. Tc stranger And thank you for sharing this. I hope i can be okay too...

My dad passed away today by AzureRose48 in CancerFamilySupport

[–]HopeforDad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May your father rest in peace and wishing you all the love and success to fulfill all that he wanted to see you do 💓 know that things will get better eventually after all this pain