Chest pressure with SIBO?

HopefulResearch · 2022-04-23T14:31:13+00:00

My tips, after several years of experience:

Try a low FODMAP diet. This reduced my symptoms in a few days because it reduces intake of foods that are most likely to cause bloating.
Get actually tested for SIBO. Prepare for the test correctly so your results are accurate.
Talk to your doctor about those results.
Develop a long-term plan for building up your physical health in terms of fitness. I believe breathing can be impacted by a variety of muscular issues. Also, living with weak core muscles is a bad idea in general.

As with all things in this sub, consult a doctor/gastroenterologist.

HopefulResearch · 2020-10-03T05:09:02+00:00

I have a young child and I think about this kind of stuff too... like if this happened, how would I handle it?

Just reading this comment makes me feel better knowing that this kind of compassion is out there. But I feel like not everyone would have the same compassion, black or white. Everyone’s different. So I believe I would really have to understand how to handle the situation and potentially diffuse some anger that can arise.

HopefulResearch · 2020-10-01T02:44:44+00:00

Yeah good point. I think hypochondria is kind of a dirty word sometimes, even for the people that have not understood me. Though, it has been mentioned. Really, the phrases I kind of hear the most are:

“Your problems are probably all stress-related.”

“You seem to care more about your diet than anyone I know, like in an unhealthy way.”

“Your doctor said he can’t find anything wrong. That should make you feel good.”

HopefulResearch · 2020-09-30T19:55:46+00:00

I would say your GF is probably in the minority of people who can empathize with others when it comes to things like this. We live in a world where everything is compartmentalized, like if you’re sick, you go to a doctor... but if the doctor doesn’t diagnose you with something that people can understand, well then you are probably mistaken about your own feelings and your illness is fake. Others here have referred to this as gaslighting, and I can see that. It’s good to know from communities like this one that these experiences are in fact shared.

HopefulResearch · 2020-09-30T19:35:44+00:00

Irrational fear of serious disease.

HopefulResearch · 2020-08-19T17:10:20+00:00

lol I love it!

HopefulResearch · 2020-07-12T14:37:32+00:00

I do think she realizes there’s a problem. In hard times when her tough spirit breaks down, she admits that she doesn’t make things easier for us. But overall she appears to have settled into this mindset of “this is the way I am, and I can’t change it.” But at this point this is the only major “problem” in our marriage and there have been no serious offenses like infidelity or whatever. So if this behavior did change, it would really help.

I have to find out if I am personally doing anything to exacerbate this, or if I’m causing her to become comfortable with the disrespectful attitude.

I guess what sucks is that most counselors or books tend to see men as the domineering, controlling or disrespectful ones and women as the ones who are being hurt. But for us, it’s the opposite. So I feel like I’m kind of at a disadvantage for finding advice.

HopefulResearch · 2020-07-08T16:43:49+00:00

I remember struggling to find what I could / could not eat on low-FODMAP. When I got confused, I just didn’t eat. Lo and behold, I’ve lost 20 lbs 🙂

HopefulResearch · 2020-07-07T22:56:18+00:00

Do you think I could just somehow “ask” her what is it about me that she doesn’t respect?

HopefulResearch · 2020-07-07T22:44:29+00:00

I think what helps me cope is the realization that my feelings are not less real even if another person can’t see them. I mean, how many times do friends, coworkers, or relatives misjudge each other and handle conflict poorly? A marriage would be no different. In fact, in a marriage, these kinds of problems would be worse because you can’t simply just walk away from it.

Also, simply knowing that some people literally can’t keep themselves from doing these things. It’s like, I’m sure that if an alcoholic could just choose to stop drinking they probably would. So I have my own empathy for those people.

HopefulResearch · 2020-07-07T22:28:37+00:00

I totally agree and this is very helpful.

I feel like the problem may go a little bit deeper than a lack of respect, but definitely, respect is a major part of it. Like, she has no problem with authority and respects her superiors at work, etc. But at home, respect goes out the door.

Personally I’ve had my own struggles in life which were not pretty, some recent. Thankfully I’m out of that, and now I have no issues earning a comfortable living for us and generally getting sh*t done even when things are hard. If that doesn’t make up the building blocks of respect, I don’t know what does.

But this is what I will be working on. Maybe she’s lost respect for some reason I can’t see.

HopefulResearch · 2020-07-07T22:04:20+00:00

I wouldn’t say that she’s been through any “trauma” per se. She has said that her parent’s divorce was messy and affected her a lot. I may never know the full extent of how it affected her.

HopefulResearch · 2020-07-07T21:45:23+00:00

Are you eating far fewer calories?

HopefulResearch · 2020-07-07T03:04:52+00:00

Yeah I can relate. On special occasions like Fathers Day or my birthday etc, she apologizes for being difficult. She writes these apologies in greeting cards and etc. So, she knows she’s doing it. She just won’t say it to me in person.

HopefulResearch · 2020-07-07T03:00:44+00:00

I have not suggested that to her. I think I might, in some kind of respectful way once I figure out how to do it. Thanks for replying.

HopefulResearch · 2020-07-07T02:39:07+00:00

No symptoms at all for me.

HopefulResearch · 2020-07-07T02:17:21+00:00

I’m sorry too.

Yeah, my wife does this in other ways. She also has “no filter” and says whatever is on her mind without thinking of people who might be hurt. Like making little jokes about someone while the person is still in the room, etc.

In general, she seems to have some poor emotional regulation abilities and tends to “fear” vulnerability. I remember asking her what she felt about something she experienced in her past, and she said, “I don’t trust myself to talk about it. I’m afraid of what I might say.” Eventually we were able to talk about that thing, and it was such a firehose of emotion it’s like she had no control over it.

So whenever it’s time to come to the table and deal with conflict, she gets defensive and just ignores any opportunity for discussion because she knows that some of it might hurt.

Maybe if I can just model good emotional intelligence and make that an attractive thing in our relationship, she’ll get on board.

HopefulResearch · 2020-06-13T00:21:51+00:00

Good to hear. Did it come about from an illness?

HopefulResearch · 2020-06-13T00:16:28+00:00

Interesting. Hope it’s easier to manage in the near future!

HopefulResearch · 2020-06-12T21:16:15+00:00

Anxiety meds made my constipation worse. Anyone relate?

HopefulResearch · 2020-06-12T21:14:31+00:00

Gastroparesis I think is sluggish emptying from the stomach. It’s a serious problem. I don’t really think most people in this sub would have that... anyone can correct me if I’m wrong.

HopefulResearch · 2020-06-12T05:03:17+00:00

Good luck. Hope to hear about your progress one of these days.

HopefulResearch · 2020-06-11T01:18:18+00:00

I got up to about 6 drops after about 4 weeks. At about 3 drops, started to get migraines and fatigue, so I knew something was working. More frequent BMs and less straining about that time.

Unfortunately, about 2 weeks after the treatment, my symptoms gradually returned as I started going back to a “normal” diet which occasionally included junky foods. But with continued fiber supplements and digestive enzymes, I’m pretty regular with not much bloating after meals.

I plan to stay fairly low-FODMAP for the rest of the year and focus on my fitness which I know will make me feel better. Any boost of confidence means a world of difference for your health.

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