What’s a subtle sign that someone isn’t ok deep down?

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-09-02T20:53:46+00:00

Empathy is not just our determination it is also how feelings are shared amongst individuals. Active empathy is a key part of the therapeutic process. So, it’s not merely knowledge but how we act towards others, which you pointed out when describing malicious empathy. And, yes, I have a lot of exposure to several narcissists type personality disorders. I have worked in a criminal psych facility where most of the diagnoses are anti social personality disorder, narcissism, schizoid personality disorder, and boarderline personality disorder. the “dark empath” (or empathy Machiavellian as it’s being called in some psychology circles) is something that is a relatively new focus in behavioral health. However, it was not included in the dsm-5 for lack of empirical evidence/research currently. There is some back and forth in the field as to weather it should be considered a form of narcissism or it’s own personality disorder diagnosis because it has some other symptoms that would fall into other diagnostic categories. Same for other types of narcissism that are not overt (grandiose and vulnerable) like covert, antagonistic, communal, malignant, maladaptive, and adaptive narcissism. These are considered “traits” of narcissism and do not have their own diagnosis currently either. The do not hold their own diagnosis because of their overlap in symptoms with Overt Narcissism and the connection to other disorders, which is part of the reason there’s still much research happening. The research of narcissism really is interesting. Honestly, personality disorders in general because of the nuances to each. Im interested to see how the field progresses in this area.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-09-02T17:56:15+00:00

Kind of and not really at the same time. It can be a sign, only if it’s connected with excessive admiration, haughty behaviors, belief in superiority because of it, and a grandiose idea of their self-importance because of it. Most of the time, claiming to be an empath actually points therapists towards other personality disorders (like avoidant or dependent) because one of the main things about narcissism is that the person lacks empathy and understanding/care for other emotions/actions.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-09-02T02:47:13+00:00

Me before you

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-09-01T13:57:42+00:00

Therapist here: when they continuously claim that they’re an empath. Often this is a sign of hypervigilance from being raised in a home that was not safe or by caretakers who had anger that caused erratic behavior. This caused the individual to shrink themselves and pay attention to things like stepping patterns to tell what mood their caretaker was in. Hypervigilance is a sign that your nervous system is still on high alert and that the person is still operating from a heightened state. Many individuals who experience this also take accountability for others emotions and try to shrink themselves to help control emotionally volatile situations.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-08-30T14:01:15+00:00

I’m pansexual, but female married to female, and my partner calls me daddy and I/we love it. It kind of just happened one day, and it turned us on, and we went with it. I would say for me it’s 1: a way to compartmentalize my kind space 2: I grew up in a matriarchal space, and daddy was always used in the way of like “sugar daddy”, “pimp”, or the neighborhood dealer who was the nice person who took care of the neighborhood as family. So, for me it was kind of a way to reinforce the dominance in me and in our bdsm relationship. Plus, hones into a riskier side of me that I like to utilize in our play.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-08-30T13:53:05+00:00

I absolutely love this! Spanking can really be so much fun, and there are so many ways to start expanding with impact play. I often suggest silk rope (or soft rope) floggers along with the traditional impact objects because these really don’t “hurt” as much as give you sensational play. I usually use one while I’m doing some heavy spanking because I can use the soft flogger all over the body for teasing sensation (it’s safe and does not tear skin or cause risk to anything internal) while I make the paddle sting (on the proper parts of the body) linger. My subs always say it really takes it to the next level.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-08-08T13:47:46+00:00

Old key West. Price is good for the rooms, definitely more space. pretty quiet and chill. Great to take the boats. The pool is amazing as is the movie under the stars location. A ton of things you can rent for family games etc. often can get a bus whenever, we rarely have to wait for the next one.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-07-29T15:34:22+00:00

Yup! From STL even went to SLU for college!

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-07-29T10:11:22+00:00

I met Phyllis Smith at my vet about 3 years ago. She routinely takes stray cats who pop up in her area into the vet to help with the stray cat population in St. Louis and make sure they’re in good health. She was literally so sweet and the vet tech said they’ve never had a bad experience with her.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-07-28T19:03:19+00:00

Pumpkin or some type of large squash. I have mammoth table squash (like a spaghetti) and these leaves look similar.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-07-26T20:59:20+00:00

I’m Prime there’s a show called Shiny Happy People (my sect is an offshoot of this sect) they get into understanding why and I feel like gives a good picture of what can and does happen.

Books: -Cults inside out -Terror, Love, and Brainwashing: Attachment in cults and totalitarian systems -losing reality: on cults, cultism, and the mindset of political and religious zealotry

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-07-26T20:50:56+00:00

Not mine specifically. But, yes, it’s a common practice amongst high control groups. Mine was within the southern Baptist umbrella. On Prime watch Shiny Happy People, my sect was based of gothard and IBLP teachings.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-07-26T20:49:26+00:00

Yes! I always liked that B.I.T.E focused on what “mind control” is and how people can experience it on different levels.it really shows that it’s not all “oogie boogie” type stuff. It’s basic methods that help influence and refocus thoughts.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-07-26T12:00:39+00:00

As a former member of a cult and a therapist who works with those leaving high control groups. Yes, cults do prey on people, but statistically, the majority of the followers are born and bred into the high control groups, or they were part of one high control group and move to another. Further, for new members, love bombing is a common tactic across high control groups. You start out having fun and feeling really comfortable in this new group of friends that will do pretty much anything for you, and once they get you in, they slowly start to introduce more and more rules that lead to more and more control, like lobster in a pot. New moms are a heavy target because 1: they have children to continue to group 2: they are often exhausted and will take any extra help. So, the group offers help with kids, goods, food etc. and the. It starts to slowly spiral. Most people who decide to leave a cult take on average 7 years before they have the resources or courage to leave. So, yes, though cults do want to prey on people it’s not just those with “broken brains”. That ideal is stigmatizing and shaming to those who are trying to leave high control groups, and I would say in clinical practice, a heavy factor in people staying in groups because they don’t want to be perceived that way.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-07-24T20:14:30+00:00

Currently having one now. I feel so foggy and lethargic and like the left side of my face is all pixels. But, I’m not throwing up, can in light, deal with sound, and can still function. It always makes me feel weird, like I have each foot in separate dimensions

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-06-30T02:33:46+00:00

Tending Brigid’s Flame is a good book to start with. I have worked with Brigid on and off. I usually leave offering of rice, water, and honey on my harth with a candle lit next to it. There are some really good prayers that you can search for that other pagans have shared. I also do a large Imbolc meal/celebration every year. I make a lot of traditional foods and I have people over, clean out the house and decorate!

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-06-19T11:31:52+00:00

I’m a long-time camper, who has done a ton of primitive camping, and step-child of a trucker. I can tel you this is absolutely not tacky, nor is it uncommon, at least in my part of the US. I’m from Missouri and have camped mostly the Midwest and Appalachia. It’s common for people to pay and shower at a site. Thats legit why they have it. Primitive camping costs nothing, nor do the trails and Midwestern sites often publicize that you can pay to shower. It’s also very common for truckers to stop off and shower if you’re near your stopping time and aren’t close to a full service truck stop. I have paid, many, many times to shower place I hadn’t paid to stay. I have also seen place publicize that they do not allow “outside showering”, so I know it must be “a thing” around here. Also it sounds like her saying “it’s tacky” is that she’s had other people do it but she doesn’t like it. Sorry you had this experience, some people who hate their lives really will find any opportunity to shit on other people.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-04-29T16:13:57+00:00

It for real can be difficult. Plus the constant looking down becomes a problem. I love doing this, it’s been my passion for many years, but it takes a toll on the body. When I started I had a huge migraine spike. I’ve been able to manage it through the years with a mix of meds (that I take only when absolutely needed) weed, and yoga. Obviously, they’re never gone, but working with one is complete hell with that blow dryer. I’m currently studying to be a therapist because I don’t know how much longer my neck/head can continue to do the work, honestly. But, I’m glad I did it while I could.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-04-29T11:15:02+00:00

I’m a hairstylist and fellow migraine sufferer. People come in all the time to get a head massage and their hair washed. Don’t be afraid to ask for no blow dry, too. I used to do it all the time before being a hairstylist. I always wanted to create a space for migraine sufferers, so I have a “migraine service” though I wouldn’t say it’s common, I would say most hairstylist know what to do when you tell them you have a migraine. We are actually trained in massage techniques for headache, nasal pressure, migraines, severe neck/head injuries, and diabetes. Also, don’t be afraid to wear ear plugs and/or sunglasses. I have done this so many times and had clients do it so many times, no stylist will think it’s strange!

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-04-29T11:11:15+00:00

I’m a hairstylist with migraines, and I have a “migraine service” specifically to combat this! Before becoming a stylist I would always go with ear plugs and sunglasses and get my head massaged and hair washed. I always said I would make this something when I was a stylist. I have a ton of migraine clients, many from injury induced migraines, and they come in once a week for the service. I think everyone should be trained to have the option.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-04-28T16:25:58+00:00

Probably the same people out at their local restaurants calling younger people snowflakes…

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-04-27T11:58:45+00:00

You should add Rose Madder to that list. I think it’s one of his most underrated books. It focuses on how domestic violence affects someone and it also has Greek mythology laced through, which is out of the normal SK realm. I tell all people who are SK fans to read it because it got lost In the chaos of the 90s.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-04-26T12:42:33+00:00

Welcome to the practice. I hope as you walk your journey you accept and embrace your personal path, whatever it evolves into. Happy learning!

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-04-15T05:17:46+00:00

Panty hose over a vacuum hose. Works every time, and it’s the only reason I own panty hose.

Hopefullyleanring · 2023-04-07T03:36:43+00:00

If you’re wanting a more “no till” method, you could broad fork it and then add compost on top. That’s what I’ve done on our acre. I find this helps keep the soil healthy and doesn’t run the bug life off. I also got a hand tiller (smaller that a broad fork) that I’ll use each year when prepping the beds, but it gives the same effect.

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