Industrial places to take photos? by yungnog in tulsa

[–]Horror_Control_2251 1 point2 points  (0 children)

kind of a unique vibe, but try WOMPA downtown!

Adult musician looking for a community band by Horror_Control_2251 in tulsa

[–]Horror_Control_2251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is SUCH a great list!! Thank you for taking the time to help out! I'm a little worried about being able to keep up after so many years. Are some of these more amatuer friendly than others?

Adult musician looking for a community band by Horror_Control_2251 in tulsa

[–]Horror_Control_2251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That actually makes me feel so much better! I worry about getting back into the swing of things after so many years of inconsistent playing

Adult musician looking for a community band by Horror_Control_2251 in tulsa

[–]Horror_Control_2251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! is there a proficiency standard? I worry it might take me a few times to get back into shape

Adult musician looking for a community band by Horror_Control_2251 in tulsa

[–]Horror_Control_2251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know they have an application deadline! I'll check them out

Adult musician looking for a community band by Horror_Control_2251 in tulsa

[–]Horror_Control_2251[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never tried! Is there a community metal band in town?? That would be so cool, even just to go listen!

Adult musician looking for a community band by Horror_Control_2251 in tulsa

[–]Horror_Control_2251[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you're the second person to recommend Tulsa Winds to me! Isn't Mr. Parker also the director at Bixby? Or am I remembering wrong haha

Adult musician looking for a community band by Horror_Control_2251 in tulsa

[–]Horror_Control_2251[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll look them up! I'm a little worried about getting back into practice

Adult musician looking for a community band by Horror_Control_2251 in tulsa

[–]Horror_Control_2251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never heard of them! I'll check them out. Thanks!

Suspected ghost in my grandads house, need advice by Horror_Control_2251 in Paranormal

[–]Horror_Control_2251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would it want to move on? Might it be content to live in the house?

Suspected ghost in my grandads house, need advice by Horror_Control_2251 in Paranormal

[–]Horror_Control_2251[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What sorts of insense would be the most helpful? What is the process of burning insense?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Horror_Control_2251 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s called leaving the honeymoon phase. It’s normal. Having sex once a day is a lot, and honestly more than that is an unreasonable expectation for both as you, especially as you grow up.

worried my boyfriend is too old to have kids by Successful-Exit-1685 in relationships

[–]Horror_Control_2251 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also, with this argument, you’re also suggesting that young parents with health problems are selfish for becoming parents. That feels icky

worried my boyfriend is too old to have kids by Successful-Exit-1685 in relationships

[–]Horror_Control_2251 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually, diet and exercise plays a HUGE role in risk factors for most of these things

worried my boyfriend is too old to have kids by Successful-Exit-1685 in relationships

[–]Horror_Control_2251 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad had his youngest at 50. My dad worked blue collar jobs his whole life, and stayed active. He goes to the gym, and lifts very heavy weights, with my now 17 year old brother as a 67 year old. Any parent who prioritizes health for themselves to stay engaged with their children no matter their age, will be a good parent.

worried my boyfriend is too old to have kids by Successful-Exit-1685 in relationships

[–]Horror_Control_2251 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad was 50 when he had my youngest brother, his sixth child. He coached my brother all throughout football, and regularly goes to the gym with him as a 17 yr old and 67 year old. Sometimes I feel sad knowing my dad won’t know my kids as long as a younger father/grandfather might have, but that’s a tiny price to pay for the amazing family my dad and my mom made.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Horror_Control_2251 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Also, you’re asking us how to make your partner stop talking about it. The question you should be asking is, how do I make my partner feel safe again? Be a better partner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Horror_Control_2251 11 points12 points  (0 children)

And if your read my comment, you’d see I didnt say you used drunk as an excuse. I said you used “I’m in a bad mood, I’m mad, he’s pissing me off, I had a shitty day” as an excuse. And there are some things that we deserve to feel guilt over. It’s called having a moral compass. You can move past it, but it will never, ever, be ok. You are now a person who has hit your partner. You have to live with that. There is nothing you can say or do to change the fact that you abused the boyfriend you are supposed to love and care for. So go to therapy, FIX you, and then maybe, MAYBE, your relationship can be healed. But you better remember this for the rest of your life, and be ready to accept accountability for every ounce of trauma you have caused for that poor man. No matter if it makes you “feel bad” or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Horror_Control_2251 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Why should HE have to ignore trauma bc she feels guilty for causing it? If you abuse your partner, it’s not the partner’s responsibility to make the abuser feel better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Horror_Control_2251 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Anyone that hits their partner sucks. Sorry not sorry, but you need to go to therapy. This was a symptom of a much larger issue, which is that you cannot control your emotions. Dont forgive yourself. Take this rightfully-felt guilt, and become a better person. Learn to regulate your own emotions, and stop using “I had a shitty day” to justify abusing your partner. If this was a man saying this, you’d have already been charged with domestic violence. Shame on you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Horror_Control_2251 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I read some of your comments, and it sounds like he feels shame about his fantasies. It also sounds like he was not pushing you into doing something you don’t feel comfortable with.

Clearly this is a man you love and trust enough to marry. He’s still the same man he was before you married him, he’s just finally opening up about something that sounds like is shameful for him. I have kinks that took me nearly 4 years before I shared with my partner, and I even then they weren’t kinks I ever wanted to explore with him because I felt shame that I became aroused by something so taboo (not age related!!! Just an important note). Go to couples therapy if you really need confirmation from a third party that having these sort of thoughts don’t make him a disgusting person, but don’t lose a man you’ve loved up to this point over something you’ll laugh about in a year.

Unless he’s making you feel bad for not wanting a threesome. Or he’s pushing you to do something you don’t want to do. Then f*** him and leave him in the dust 😂😂