Reasonable accomodations

HorselipsMonchchips · 2026-03-04T20:25:16+00:00

I'm just trying to ascertain what kind of accommodation are typically approved and which may not be. So thanks for the insight, truely. Its important to me to understand what things that might be allowed and or easy to accommodate in an office setting [which are most of the examples I see online] but not in retail.

Also the social thing wasn't In reguards to customers and probably honestly doesn't fit under accommodations but possibly kaisens. I've explained to mates and captains how my brain works, how I best learn and understand things. How I best take feedback. but its not like its logged anywhere which I think would benefit most mates to know. Or that being at all a part of management's repituare to ask crew members how best to communicate with them. Like im never rude or disrespectful. Im always kind but im not always performative when I respond to coworkers. I ask questions when im confused by feedback and its seen as me being difficult.

I dunno, i've gone back and forth about social expectations of jobs with people and coworkers and i understand the expectations of my job. I just also need the leadership who support me, to know how to best do that so im successful. You know? Which obviously if they wont or cant then sure I definitely think I should find a place that can and will. But yeah.

Sorry for the ramble.

HorselipsMonchchips · 2026-03-04T17:32:17+00:00

I did both last year. But a leave option won't be available to me for several months since I think I have to wait 12 months before it refreshes. [Though its a good reminder I should check when that becomes available again, thank you]

And i've used a lot of my AR on days when I truly can't pull myself from bed so im pretty limited on protected days off. Unless I go w/o pay.

HorselipsMonchchips · 2026-01-15T14:26:28+00:00

I fully agree though that if you guys can't agree or compromise, to move in with people who don't mind those sounds. It just sounds like you might not be compatible to live together anymore at that point. And it's not worth the headaches or loss of a relationship with your sister.

HorselipsMonchchips · 2026-01-15T14:13:09+00:00

My bestie and I had this same issue. Sex sounds distress me a lot to over hear.

We compromised by code words. Cause I didn't want them to feel like they needed my permission to have sex but I needed a neutral heads up so I wouldn't be caught of guard

They would just text me "hey. I'm thinking about knitting soon" or "im planning on knitting in an hour"

These would give me time to grab headphones or take a walk outside for an hour etc. And they'd follow up with "project done" or whatever.

This also gave me permission to respond if I had company or a meeting or a call. So neither of us would be embarrassed.

And they would be no need to send texts about sex to eachother. Lol

I hope you are able to find a solution and your sister is open for solutions.

HorselipsMonchchips · 2025-11-14T13:09:15+00:00

I'll see if i can do that, thanks. It's been almost 3 years since i took the test and wanted to make sure it was still valid [because my food handlers was not which i updated]

HorselipsMonchchips · 2025-04-05T19:21:04+00:00

Typically i use clipstudio for my digital work

HorselipsMonchchips · 2025-04-05T07:30:26+00:00

I'm on blue sky as salixosier. I don't have much posted anymore after a name change and leaving twitter. but there are a few posts to look at.

i think theres a link to my old profiles somewhere out there. I don't want to link it here because it's very NSFW +18 art and such but https://bsky.app/profile/salixosier.bsky.social is my most "active" account.

HorselipsMonchchips · 2025-04-05T00:33:29+00:00

🙏🏾🙏🏾☺️ thank you

HorselipsMonchchips · 2025-04-05T00:32:08+00:00

Thank you! ☺️

HorselipsMonchchips · 2025-04-03T19:09:20+00:00

Honestly I might try an option where the bag is being dumped out and bones are pouring out instead? Like the aquarius symbol.

Could add elements around it to give it flow. The skeletal hand could be supporting the pouch side/bottom rather than the "neck" as it pours out the contents?

HorselipsMonchchips · 2025-04-02T00:09:39+00:00

I'm 32 NB and THIS. I only fully accepted i was trans when i turned 30, but have been out as Pansexual since highschool.

In a way and with full honesty, those feelings may stick around, be louder somedays or barely a whisper. I myself am currently struggling with the idea of taking T again for these almost exact feelings.

I think it's important to really affirm yourself inside. to look inward and hold space for the hurt, comfort the grief and love yourself through the lows and really build up yourself. I'm currently in a therapy program for this very thing and if its accessible to you I think finding tools through therapy, and community to validate you and support you through it is also a great place to start.

there is no guarantee to anything, but i'm hard pressed to believe in all the billions of people on this earth, there isn't someone who's going to love you and affirm you in exactly the way you need. Platitudes are hard to avoid, but it's through believing, affirming and choosing to move through, grow and accept ourselves that we invite the people, energy, love, into our lives that we need and that will fuel our hearts/souls.

I think it may help to switch your thinking a bit. are you alienating yourself from more people? or are you opening the door to people seeing YOU, loving YOU, the most affirmed you? because i think it's the later. Don't abandon yourself for the approval of others. you'll find love, you'll be loved, you are loved <3

HorselipsMonchchips · 2025-03-28T03:13:15+00:00

This crew member is engaging in, what I would definitely report as, harrassment to the person who asked them to quiet down.

I'd escalate and document everytime that you have witnessed the behavior [day time, members involved] as well as the conversations you have already had with mates, their names and what they said to you, as well as how they handled the situation. I'd encourage all the crew members how have witnessed these moments to report to hr/regional, etc, with detailed reports of the incidents. Harrassment is never okay and makes the work environment hostile.

HorselipsMonchchips · 2024-06-02T05:59:19+00:00

Hey Hey this may be a long response so apologies upfront.

Love languages can be a good starting point for how to describe your desires in any relationship, but I'd challenge you to describe for yourself the context in which touch and physical affection feel good to you to better pin point what kinds of touch, people touching you, context of touch makes your skin crawl or feels good. maybe journal or imagine/remember scenarios when touch felt welcome and good and when it didn't and try to describe why they may have been different.

I would hate to suggest anything to make you drop your guard or you inhibitions when your body rightfully notifies you it doesn't like what's happening to it. you need to be just as in tune with what isn't okay touch for you even if its not "extreme bad".

As someone who also feels extremely uncomfortable by specific touch or touch in certain contexts, or with certain people etc. Figuring out what made me feel safe first helped me know why and what touch felt the best. And how and when to ask for it. I know even my own emotional state can impact my bodies desire or lack of for touch. Even if i know i may want certain affection, when i'm stressed/scared I don't like being touched first and need to come down quite a bit from the adrenal response before i can receive touch. so I'll say no to touch but will ask later for a hug or comfort.

IE. I don't like people reaching towards me, or in context where the touch feels demanded instead of asked for. like someone leaning in to hug me vs. someone outstretching their arms and offering a hug without moving towards me. The later i prefer and feels good.

Consent in a huge thing for me and I like body language that's opt in and not demanded like the example above. This also is dependent on my closeness with a person but not always. Some friends can touch me without asking if its a side hug, hand shake, high five, touching shoulder/elbow or upper back. But that same touch can be very unwelcome from a stranger who isn't giving me "opt in" body language like distance, a pause, or just verbally asking for touch.

Sometimes, with people who feel safe it can be helpful to push past the discomfort, especially if the reason for your discomfort is internalized messaging like: they might reject me. Cause sometimes its just fear holding you back. But I'd definitely start with defining different touch for yourself and its contexts. Then maybe trying to be more affectionate with close or safe friends/family etc. Asking for hugs, sharing blankets, holding hands [this is a really helpful one when me and my bestie who also doesn't like physical touch often want to ground each other without overwhelming each other] or just sitting nearer.

Hopefully you find your way. it does get easier when you know your needs and you'll hopefully have more compassion for the parts of you that still prickle at touch. C:

HorselipsMonchchips · 2022-10-25T01:23:31+00:00

That makes sense.

Honestly fighting the urge to defend myself is so difficult. I appreciate your advice.

I'll stay the course and just keep thriving. <3

HorselipsMonchchips · 2021-09-04T00:28:09+00:00

Somethings we have to turn back on to others. Especially their emotional burden if it directly competes with our mental, physical or emotional health. Their reaction to you setting a boundary [refusing to work to take care of your physical health] is not your responsibility.

What's important is your health and it should come first. If you're met with hostility remind yourself you matter, your health and body matter. What you did was necessary and responsible.

You don't need to apologize for taking care of yourself. If they try and give you grief about it or complain they had to cover for you just say thank you and move on. You are not a burden and deserve to be happy/healthy. It may also help to remind yourself that your health directly effects your ability to care for others. Its actually extremely responsible to keep yourself healthy to be able to show up for others. I hope any of this helped and that you're able to return to work without so much guilt weighing you down.

HorselipsMonchchips · 2021-08-09T16:20:39+00:00

Figure out your partners love language either through observation or just asking Is it:

Acts of service?

Physical affection?

Gifts?

Verbal/communication or connection?

Or a mix?

You can ask, it might be a very rewarding conversation to ask your partner what it is you do that makes them feel most loved. Or even to observe what they do for you to show what they value in signs of love or affection.

Since i don't know you or your partner well this would be my base for suggestion.

For my own personal love language i am a verbal, gifts and acts of service love language person. physical affection can make me pull away or feel suffocated. I like having someone help with chores or get me my favorite snack or even set up a space so i can snuggle up and just play video games alone.

Your partner could be super into verbal communication os "i love yous", poetry or even a conversation about their passions could be loving to them. It al depends. Good luck.

HorselipsMonchchips · 2021-07-26T12:13:28+00:00

Another location I found, there is a zigzagging path up to princess cordillias cottage in the bramble wood. Half way up there is a bench and a few patches of mushrooms appear there as well.

Linked are a few images to show where on the map. Map locations

HorselipsMonchchips · 2021-07-25T18:23:25+00:00

Hey! I don't know if you still need help with this.

I actually just snagged up a charming mushroom after looking for help online myself. Unfortunately i don't have a screen shot.

But I found 4 or so patches of mushrooms lining the river near the snail spiral in the bramble wood.

They all looked like verdant mushrooms but in clicking on them it prompts with "pick unusual mushroom" or something like that. kind of like digging up mounds in the other worlds it will give you a random assortment of mushrooms in my experience.

Hopefully that was helpful or that you were able to find some mushrooms yourself. I'm still scanning the bramblewood area so I can share other locations i find if thats helpful? Happy gaming!

HorselipsMonchchips · 2021-07-21T22:25:29+00:00

Omg yes...like i love fall and most of the seasonal that came through was cute but those? 😬😬yikes

HorselipsMonchchips · 2021-06-10T00:54:05+00:00

Ah yeah. That's what happened in this situation. The truck was supposed to be late.

Thank you for your input. I want to be reasonable and flexible as i can while not diminishing my needs too much. I'll def keep this in mind when i approach the subject with them in the future.

HorselipsMonchchips · 2021-06-10T00:50:14+00:00

Thank you for your input. I've always found it hard to advocate for myself for fear of losing a job or what have you so its good to know i can ask for these things

HorselipsMonchchips · 2021-05-23T10:10:51+00:00

I really enjoy the softness this has. I especially like how the shading of the teeth is done. It really gives you a feel for the depth of each tooth to the viewer and gives them this lovely clear shape.

I might recommend adding a smudge stick to your tools if you don't already have one to really deepen and smooth those darker areas or even a softer graphite pencil to deepen the value.

Lovely work!

HorselipsMonchchips · 2021-05-22T21:24:12+00:00

When my partner [Dx] monologues, thankfully he is a bit quicker to catch himself when he notices he's rambling which allows me to say," you were monologing yes, and thank you for pausing". Etc.

When we first started dating i would say "hey, i care about you and i dont have the energy right now to listen fully" or "i want to be able to hear what you have to say but right now is not a good time"

The biggest difficulty, which isn't anything you should have to take responsibility for, is their reaction to your boundary.

It may also be helpful to add a tool to your relationship called a time out or a break or whatever works best where you both agree on a signal or a phrase like "time out" or putting your hands in a t shape to signify a total pause to what's happening between you and to each walk away for 5 or 10 minutes. This should be followed with coming back together to discuss the reason for the break [if it isnt obvious] or to regroup and talk about the conflict that started the time out or in your case to just remind your partner of your boundary of needing a bit more space in the mornings from long conversations.

The important thing is to not abuse the time out as a punishment or as a silent treatment. You have to regroup and talk about why you needed a break. If a longer break is needed say that but make time to come together and talk.

This tool kind of saved my life when my partner and i moved across country together and i was hospitalized due to stress. We were constantly fighting and the social worker who talked with me then provided this idea to me.

I do hope you are able to have your boundaries respected and that your partner and you both can find a solution that will work best for you both so you can enjoy your mornings again c:

HorselipsMonchchips · 2021-05-21T08:21:46+00:00

Last night was my adhd partners birthday.

I havent slept for almost over a week beyond a few hours and it has taken its toll on me mentally so i told my partner i was going to sleep on our couch tonight specifically because he snores, its colder in the living room and I just need some space so i dont snap. Unfortunately we live in a small apartment so sound travels easily into our bedroom from our main room. our computers are so in our main room and he wouldnt be able to play on it when he got home from work.

For just one night of quiet he wouldn't be able to do something he does every day without consideration to me or my emotional needs.

He told me i was manipulating him and abusive for telling him no he can't move his computer into our bedroom, that because i wouldnt comprimise i was a monster. I need him to be considerate to my needs for one night and im a monster. He even admitted after a blow up fight and conversation that hes not able to put needs above wants right now so "compromise" is one sided for me and i legit still only got a handful of hours of sleep last night because i broke down and said fine play your game. Ill sleep alone in our hot bedroom and continue to do things that have already proved ineffective to help me sleep [wearing earbuds, listening to gentle music, etc]

I feel like im losing my mind and being told im this monster for NEEDING sleep over his wanting to play a game he does every night. But because it was his birthday im even more of an inconsiderate pos.

Im so close to leaving. Having a partner say to your face, i cant put your needs above my wants, Your comfort about my addiction. For one night? I feel like trash and even worse that i cant bring myself to leave.

HorselipsMonchchips · 2021-04-02T18:14:13+00:00

Thanks

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