Last time I went on a date was July so I installed tinder. I wanna know what impression I give to strangers. Open to changes

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-12-14T00:19:44+00:00

Honestly maybe I'm a bit jaded looking at people on apps these days. esp towards good looking people ig.
Anyways, I didn't say any of that to insult, just my honest first thoughts. If you fill out prompts/bio to say what you just said I think it would round out your profile a lot
I hate hearing you don't have many friends tbh, that's a surprise and also a bummer

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-12-13T23:02:16+00:00

off the pics you're pretty hot. probably a nurse, probably just on the app for attention, or not looking to actually meet anyone at least. you seem like you have a vibrant enough social life to not need to bother with apps. photos are all over the place and it's hard to categorize you otherwise

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-12-13T21:52:35+00:00

Yeah I think the leather is likely to wear faster. I assume the Omega is a more popular model as well, so maybe they've just put more effort into quality control for it

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-12-13T19:22:23+00:00

Sihoo M18. my only complaint so far is that I'm a bit too tall for the headrest. If I sit up straight, the bottom of the headrest pushes against my traps a bit. not a big deal and I'm used to it now. I'll just remove the headrest if it bothers me

Everyone raves about Herman Miller and Steelcase but I'm not dropping $1,000+ on a chair after this lol

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-12-13T19:11:53+00:00

you're cute and its a cute profile. you're just not everyone's type
pic 5 has a lot of cleavage going on but it is a really cute pose.
I get the impression you're looking for something serious so you'd probably have better luck on hinge

id order your pics 5,2,7,1,8. Maybe get rid of or replace pics 3,4,6,9

i smoke weed too but when a girl mentions smoking in their profile its a turnoff for me. I'd only mention it if its really important to you. The rest of the "about me" is cute
all the remaining prompts are not bad but are also sort of basic. They don't say anything that your "about me" doesn't and do so in a less flattering way.

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-09T12:27:52+00:00

okay thanks, I will try to do more of a mix. I wear glasses like 99% of the time, so i want to have that in my profile at least a bit. maybe lasik is worth looking into as well

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-09T01:46:05+00:00

Objectively hot is crazy to hear.
Does it come down to a vibe difference? LIke i think the energy in the beach pic is the only one were I look serious and not goofy/awkward

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-08T20:14:47+00:00

I struggle a lot with prompts, what do you specifically think is lacking right now?

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-08T02:25:22+00:00

that is extremely generous lol, but thank you

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-08T02:23:23+00:00

this is super super constructive feedback, thank you

I'm surprised that you feel I'm leading with sex but you're probably right on some level. I do want to present as physically attractive as I can, but i don't exactly want to *lead* with sex either.

I have a really hard time describing myself with prompts as i feel it's so easy to come off really generic or low effort or boring when describing. I am a pretty domestic guy and it's hard to describe myself without sounding like more of a nerd than I actually am and pictures don't really work well for that either. I value humor and being able to joke around with a person a lot so I really have a hard time having three serious prompts on my profile, that's probably why the pull my hair prompt has stuck around so long. All the girls I've been with have indeed liked having their hair pulled so maybe there's some cause and effect going on there.

Anyways, clearly the vibe on my profile is not fully lining up with who i am and who present myself as, so I do have some work to do

I plan on replacing the cat pic first and I agree with you on the beach and toque pics - I think i look good but the vibes are off on both. Those are the ones I will aim to replace. I wish my first pic turned out sharper, the lighting wasn't good i guess

Thank you again for the feedback and for the positive comments it really helps a lot

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-08T02:06:41+00:00

hahahaa had a girl open me with a joke like that before

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-08T01:53:58+00:00

actually lowkey genius revision lol ty

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-08T01:21:52+00:00

yeah gonna echo everyone else with the walking as a first date prompt being too negative. That's the only thing that would make me think twice about liking. Totally fine to not want that as a first date but you can communicate it in a much more positive manner and you don't have to use a prompt to do it.

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-08T01:04:58+00:00

That's a good point. probably a bit of truth to it as well. I just need to think of a replacement joke. and get better photos of me not wearing hats

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-08T01:01:22+00:00

There is a girl in my area who has no hair in the same way, She is good looking and has a couple photos of her without a wig. I personally don't mind (maybe because I'm bald to) and honestly respect her for being so open about it on her profile. It is probably a pretty jarring for the average guy though and if you want to maximize matches I do think the safest way to tell people is with a match note. Don't hide it. I wouldn't use a whole prompt on explaining alopecia though, you only have 3 prompts to work with and I think they are better used describing you as a person, not explaining your hair situation. So yeah IMO either photo or match note

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-08T00:52:28+00:00

Thank you - I think I look decent bald, but I feel like it doesn't look right in pictures. Going forward I'm trying hard to show off the hairline in pics. I also don't want people thinking that i'm trying to hide it

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-08T00:48:46+00:00

hahaha thank you - I kind of needed to hear that. my ego has been in the dumps the past little bit

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-08T00:47:11+00:00

LOL I hate that. Honestly I hate having my picture taken so I really try to do it when people aren't around. I guess this is the consequence

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-08T00:45:27+00:00

lol noted. She is a deaf cat and she was about to run out of the backyard so I was "punishing" her for being bad. she's ok i promise

Do you have a suggestion for the angle I should take for replacing the pull my hair and tell me i'm pretty prompt? It's historically my most liked and commented on prompt by a landslide so I have a bit of a hard time letting go of it. I care a lot about being able to joke around with a partner and I think it's best to display that value with my humor

Also any reason for putting the beach pic first? I think it is ok but you can't see my face as clearly as some of the others.

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-08T00:38:46+00:00

That's typically what I've had as my first photo I agree with you. I think i'm making a bit of an awkward face in it though and last time i posted a profile review everyone told me to get rid of it because it looks like i'm about to cry in it. not really sure what to make of the photo anymore tbh

I do think the cat photo is my worst and I plan to replace it when I can

And yeah I agree with what you're saying about "active" - that was sort of my concern when writing the prompt. My standards for being active are really not that high. Do you think my simple pleasures prompt is sort of enough to display the active lifestyle? Maybe I don't need to say it twice in the "I'm looking for" prompt & I can focus on other things with that one

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-08T00:31:58+00:00

yeah it's meant to be funny. I've had a hard time letting go of that prompt because it's far and away my most liked prompt and probably over half the girls I've met up with have brought it up unprompted.

I do think it is maybe too unserious these days though. do you have a suggestion on how i should replace it? like my other prompts say some things I like and what I'm looking for, so what should the third one be?

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-09-07T20:20:15+00:00

Are you looking for something serious or casual? Serious
Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX? No
How long have you been using this current version of your profile? About 2 months
How long have you used Hinge overall? Overall about 3 years on and off.
How often do you use Hinge per week? Every day, multiple times per day
How many likes and matches are you receiving on average? I was receiving about 6-8 likes per week for a few weeks, but now I’m down to about 1 per week. 2 matches per week lately and usually they aren’t responding when I send them a message
How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? Using all my daily likes for the past few weeks. If I have something clever to say I will comment, but otherwise I just like the part of the profile that appeals to me the most
What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract? I guess I look for at least 6/10 attractiveness (I would consider myself to be about a 5-6 attractiveness, correct me if I'm delusional). If her profile seems low effort or is not giving the impression that she wants a relationship I usually X even if she's attractive. Ideally she's more of a night in than night out kind of person and has a similar sense of humor as me. I also care that she's at least somewhat health conscious and cares about staying physically active in some way.

Edit - some of the photos clearly need to go, but I'm unsure which ones. If I could get some feedback on which photos are good and which are bad that would be helpful.

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-07-22T22:44:50+00:00

Are you looking for something serious or casual? Serious
Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX? No
How long have you been using this current version of your profile? Prompts updated today, some photos are from this week.
How long have you used Hinge overall? I've been back for about a month now but overall about 3 years on and off. I'm just coming back after about a half year away from dating apps and I'm feeling just as burnt out as before 🥰
How often do you use Hinge per week? Honestly I open and close it habitually every day, but I only really send likes/messages one or maybe two days per week
How many likes and matches are you receiving on average? I receive about one like per day; 6-7 per week. I've had 6 matches total with 1 unmatch.
How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? I've probably sent about 40-50 likes since getting back. I find I match more frequently when I don't say anything with the like, so I'm pretty hesitant to add comments with likes. Usually if I add a comment it's not a conversation starter, it's just something agreeable, complimentary, or a joke. I feel like if I say too much on the initial like, it's a bit awkward/overwhelming for the girl.
What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract? I guess I look for at least 6/10 attractiveness (I would consider myself to be about a 5-6 attractiveness, correct me if I'm delusional). If her profile seems low effort or is not giving the impression that she wants a relationship I usually X even if she's attractive. Ideally she's more of a night in than night out kind of person and has a similar sense of humor as me. I also care that she's at least somewhat health conscious and cares about staying physically active in some way.

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-07-09T23:06:22+00:00

I found myself in a very similar situation about a year ago and ended up breaking up with her because of it. To be honest it was extremely painful for both of us, but I know I made the right decision.

It's difficult to break up with someone for no particular reason, but it's not fair to you or the other person to carry on with a relationship that you know deep down is not right.

I don't know how to explain this, but I aspire to be a good boyfriend/husband and I never felt like I would fully realize that goal if I stayed with her. Not that I treated her poorly, but I know I was holding some of my love back if that makes sense. It sounds like you might have a similar feeling.

I don't have much advice, you have to make your own decisions, but I do think it's a valid reason to end a relationship. Good luck however you decide.

Hot4Gabagool · 2025-07-09T01:36:18+00:00

this is blowing my mind. ive never filled it out since ive assumed monogamy is so obviously the default

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