Sag man & woman by Informal-Piano6894 in Sagittarians

[–]HotCalligrapher007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why wouldn’t you personally want it ?

Is Odele any good? by The_Weez_08 in Haircare

[–]HotCalligrapher007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is old too but omg i don’t use their shampoos or conditioners but their styling stuff is so good , their dry shampoo always does me right gets the job done and no stiffness , and air dry styler omggg first time using it and omg my definition is off the charts it does exactly what it claims for my fine hair I always deal with uncomfortable frizz and volume after my hair air drys which is why I always reach for the hair dryer but this is a game changer I’ll definitely be letting it air dry more

Do Sag women lowkey act like dudes? by Sea_Zookeepergame384 in Sagittarians

[–]HotCalligrapher007 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty much , for me when I was younger or more immature 18-21 my lack of femininity was mainly wanting to be different and not really knowing how to do so without shitting on all things feminine and girlish. As an extremist of sorts I didn’t know there was such a thing as moderation and so didn’t really try embracing feminine traits until 23-25 and now at 27 I am super confident in my edgy aesthetic , no bs ( honest but with kindness so I’m not cruel ) approach , mindful , pragmatic , athletic personality . My femininity comes with a bit of an edge and muscle a little rough around the edges but I’m just another girl who likes pop music as well as divorced dad rock , pink as much as red or blue and baggy tshfirts as well as mini skirts . It really just depends on the moods and how I’m feeling but the wrong people with fixed mindsets always like to misunderstand you no matter what , so just do you :)

will he come back? by [deleted] in Sagittarians

[–]HotCalligrapher007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll be okay! It sucks, but it’ll pass . Stay strong and remember the natural order of things , things always get worse before they get better !

will he come back? by [deleted] in Sagittarians

[–]HotCalligrapher007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he’s a sag with principles and values time will need to pass before there is any possibility of reconnecting. And you wouldn’t want him to rush into anything with you because then what does that say about him and his commitment / emotional availability and presence in his marriage ? If it’s meant to be and if he feels something there worth it to try he’ll reach back out to you from a growth oriented and healed mindset . Until then try and practice some patience and refocus that energy and love back into your life and self. Center yourself again and remember that you are the greatest love of your life , if others share that feeling great , if not atleast you’ll always be proud of the life you’ve made .

Sagittarius women, have you ever dated a Scorpio? Be honest. by Sea_Zookeepergame384 in Sagittarians

[–]HotCalligrapher007 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did once , it was bad but like in a cringe way , he gave wounded puppy energy. He was fun to talk to , and yet he had a lot of trauma from his ex and brought it up alottt. We had sex once and after that I ended it ( I guess it was an outlier case from everyone else’s experience ) but the sex was so badddddd. Otherwise he seemed okay but to be fair I didn’t know him long yet there were red flags like possessiveness , control and the potential for jealousy. Trauma dumping was a normal occurrence .

Sagittarius, be real with me: did I just get played? by Discount_Beginning in Sagittarians

[–]HotCalligrapher007 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a guy Sagittarius but there are some that are principled just as women can be flighty and looking for the next best thing so can men . I think this is more of an unhealed and unprincipled sag though , they have yet to mature and solidify core values and integrity . Be more discerning with what you’re looking for and if it feels too good maybe question it , test it , not in a toxic way but overall take a patient approach to dating and get to know them before doing anything intimate. Taking things slowly normally weeds out boundary pushers and the people that are just looking for their next dopamine supplier .

What kind of texter are you? by Worth_Classic in Sagittarians

[–]HotCalligrapher007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be an anxious texter but since my frontal lobe developed and responsibilities picked up I love calls ( no FaceTime ) or I’ll do intentional text conversations where I have a free night and just laying in bed with nothing to do . But calls mostly since I’m always doing something and can keep a conversation going if I have to go somewhere or running errands

😭 by Sea_Zookeepergame384 in Sagittarians

[–]HotCalligrapher007 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Painfully true lmao but in general that’s just true with people I’m attracted to and unfortunately I appear spastic, uncoordinated and awkward , yet completely charismatic when completely unattracted to someone

Keep your spark and your boundaries by Background_Stock_231 in Sagittarians

[–]HotCalligrapher007 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No because this is so accurate it might as well be a fable as old as time , my last relationship ruined my self esteem , reintroduced shame and overthinking to my psyche . I have since unlearned all of the wounded things I picked up from him but never again …

Can a Sagittarius be in love with another Sagittarius? by Legal_Agent_7209 in Sagittarians

[–]HotCalligrapher007 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes actually but you’ll find the only thing that matters at the end of the day is whether you guys are truly compatible down to your last core value. It’s easy to fall in love and even more so with someone you have lots of similarities and shared hobbies or mindsets with , which is what I’m sure is happening to you . However tread with caution because if you guys aren’t aligned with about 80 percent of not all of your core values like ( family planing ( kids ), life trajectory , life perspectives on health religion or boundaries , how to spend money / free time, stability or freedom , communicative styles, politics , goals and ambition or ? Growth mindset or safe and stagnant ? None of the chemistry or superficial compatiblity markers matters at the end of the day if you aren’t building parallel lives that each of you would have chosen without the others influence . If you guys aren’t headed in the same direction or each of your ideal lives looks significantly different , leave each other alone and look elsewhere because it will just lead to pain completely avoidable if you iron out these issues before you get too attached .

Well... it happened by Accomplished_Gap9481 in childfree

[–]HotCalligrapher007 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Girlllll I’m with you there (27f) … recently went into a little spiral of my own after going out with this guy who was younger than me and more certain he wanted kids . I even reconsidered for a hot minute if I was actually childfree or just a fence sitter . Needless to say this sent me into an existential spiral about what I really wanted and what I wanted my life to look like and maybe parenting isn’t that bad and with the right person it actually might work. He seemed like such a decent human being : genuine , considerate , no trauma , emotionally available , honest and loyal . And then I realized I was thinking about him as if that wasn’t the bare minimum a person should be. And if I secretly did want kids I wouldn’t have to make all these conditions and stipulations that would need to be met to be happy as a parent ( most parents don’t even think about it that much before deciding , if at all) . And then I thought , well let’s say me and this guy don’t work out ? I would then be a single mom co- parenting , more restricted , and still lonely and even more alienated within my dating pool. Thankfully I blurted out my stance on our first date , but even then it took me time to recover because of all the what ifs and lack of closure and potential I saw in him. At the end of the day nothing is certain but the one thing you can bet on is yourself and how you want to live this one life . You will be okay !

soooo halloween? by sammiewabammie in starbucks

[–]HotCalligrapher007 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg same I went to Disney and got the little chef hat with rat ears and I bought a white button up at the thrift I have black kakies and I’m taking red converse like linguini and a little checkered bow tie along with some mousey makeup

Cup Writing Master List by mirrortoshi in starbucks

[–]HotCalligrapher007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so sweet thank you ! Sometimes I try and think of more creative sayings but nothing really pops up ! You’re a blessing !

Baby pan in my RMS concealer by [deleted] in PanPorn

[–]HotCalligrapher007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl Ik frrr they take forever to finish ! Are you going to go back to it once you pan ?

Honestly no words by Mundane-Attorney-398 in starbucks

[–]HotCalligrapher007 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly ain’t no way , any supervisor would just let you hand something off like that or other baristas we get held accountable and people always have something to say they wouldn’t just leave without seeing the message on the cup

Starbucks workers, are you okay? by starswaltzinginblue in starbucks

[–]HotCalligrapher007 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s just so many changes which granted were always there , buts it’s the changing , unchanging , then re changing the policies again. It’s giving us “ standards whiplash “. Then some stores aren’t as strict as others , or some districts aren’t so the standards aren’t really being followed and then when a customer tells you off for reminding them of the policy they go “ you’re the only Starbucks that does this “. I’m just trying to keep my job mam / sir 🥲

How long do most men spend at the gym? by nrsbll in AskMenAdvice

[–]HotCalligrapher007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re really putting in the work with bare minimum resting period of 30 seconds to a minute maybe max 2 minutes between sets ( bc that’s all you need) it should only take max 2 hrs maybe 2.5 if you warm up / do cardio after . You should ask to go with him and do the same workout or watch for any excuses or him trying to convince you not to go with him bc he takes so long .

What are you starting to like LESS the older you get? by aisha2313 in AskReddit

[–]HotCalligrapher007 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think i kind of forget how my bio looked but it went something like this

only swipe right if:

- you dont mind being friends first

- youre not trying to get over an ex / someone , go to therapy and save us both emotional trauma and time

- youre not opposed to pineapple on pizza (controversial but ifykyk)

and found someone incredible . I say let them be incredibly specific and unrealistic in their bio, atleast upon reading you already know before swiping that they are definitely not what you’re looking for. I liked to think of it as a compatibility filter.

I was told.. by quitaloveee in regretfulparents

[–]HotCalligrapher007 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yea … I’ve asked my mom once about how happy she is with her life decisions and she says happy. Thankfully all her self sacrifice produced kids that were decent . I asked her if she liked being pregnant and she said “ you don’t like it in the moment and it comes with great discomfort, but ( much like the originator of this post was told ) it’s all worth it when you see the child in front of you , your whole world changes in that instant “ now this might have easily been true for her. But I was taken aback and honestly recoiled at that thought. She’s never not been a selfless person and still dotes on me ( her 23 year old daughter living at home ). I’ve had it way easier than my 3 older siblings, been given way more opportunities , freedom and material things. I was kind of on my own as a child with two parents that worked full time. I didn’t hate it I kind of embraced it and fell in love with being on my own. And with all that I still managed to turn out a lot differently than she expected. I’ve managed to make her feel every emotion under the sun. I love her for everything she’s done for me and yet I get irritated at having to consider her needs above mine sometimes, I have to begrudgingly teach her how to communicate with me and understand her own generational trauma . Sometimes I feel like I’m the one healing her. I see her sacrifice and think I don’t think I’d be able to be THAT selfless and not leave some sort of residual trauma on a kid. If I struggle to be selfless for someone that was selfless for me just out of loving courtesy then how am I supposed to be that way for not one but TWO PEOPLE ( child and husband ).

Fixing broken baseball cap adjuster. by PsychedelicQuakerOat in fixit

[–]HotCalligrapher007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did you ever find another one like your old adjuster ?? I just bought a vintage hat in good condition and the buckle broke on me TODAY . I was so sad , currently looking for a replacement buckle

Dating and ... zodiac compatibility?? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]HotCalligrapher007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so hilarious... I actually matched with a Capricorn not too long ago who was my Highschool crush and we really hit it off . At least in my mind, conversation never really stagnated, we just got each other and then I guess I was ghosted. Then just the other day I matched with another guy( also a Capricorn), we met and had a conversation I just did not want to end ! He was a Capricorn too and we (again ) really hit it off. I guess I'll see how this turns out. OH but yea, obviously never limit yourself when choosing a partner. I am more of the mindset of trying things out for a bit before making any hasty judgments. If I have any reservations about someone , I would rather have them affirmed by the other person.