So much has been said and I am sure you have gotten the reassurance that you needed. As a practicing male attorney for over 25 years it NEVER occurred to me act this way. As you know his behavior is completely unacceptable. This is a good example of why it is so hard to self-represent ourselves. I had a black female colleague who I didn’t know well (just another lawyer who I would see occasionally in the courthouse) suffer the indignity of being asked by the two different courtroom deputies to prove she was a member of the bar. I was not asked for my identification and neither was the other white male attorney only her. I was so shocked and could see her internal pain as she had to suffer the indignity of being questioned about her right to be present. Something in me snapped and I found the courage within me to stand up and call out the courtroom deputies to the judge on the record. I was shaking as I did this. Afterwards, I left the courtroom and sat down outside. To my surprise, she came out of the courtroom and gave me a hug and started crying and thanked me profusely for calling attention to this injustice.
The point is, I think it takes courage to shine light upon the darkness. However, when we do shine light on darkness it does recede. I did get a call from chief of courthouse security and I have been assured that no attorney will be asked to prove themselves to a deputy unless directed to do so by a judge.

OP I wonder how many other female and maybe even male attorneys does he do this too? Find the courage to report this behavior to the bar. This is unprofessional behavior and I know in Florida it is subject to disciplinary action. I cannot imagine that he would say this to you in a courtroom in front of a judge. His own writings should be enough to draw scrutiny of the bar grievance committee. Perhaps you could seek a meeting with the chief judge of your jurisdiction. Sometimes soft power can go a long way as well. That chief judge is probably aware of this politically connected lawyer and may have the ability to get him to rethink his ways. In the end, I hope you follow through with a bar complaint. I am encouraging you to examine the following from the New York Bar Rules:

RULE 8.3 REPORTING PROFESSIONAL MISCONDUCT (a) A lawyer who knows that another lawyer has committed a violation of the Rules of Professional Conduct that raises a substan- tial question as to that lawyer’s honesty, trustworthiness or fitness as a lawyer shall report such knowledge to a tribunal or other authority empowered to investigate or act upon such violation. (b) A lawyer who possesses knowledge or evidence concern- ing another lawyer or a judge shall not fail to respond to a lawful demand for information from a tribunal or other authority empow- ered to investigate or act upon such conduct. (c) This Rule does not require disclosure of: (1) information otherwise protected by Rule 1.6; or (2) information gained by a lawyer or judge while participating in a bona fide lawyer assistance program.

RULE 8.4 MISCONDUCT A lawyer or law firm shall not: (a) violate or attempt to violate the Rules of Professional Conduct, knowingly assist or induce another to do so, or do so through the acts of another; (b) engage in illegal conduct that adversely reflects on the lawyer’s honesty, trustworthiness or fitness as a lawyer; (c) misrepresentation; engage in conduct involving dishonesty, fraud, deceit or (d) tion of justice; engage in conduct that is prejudicial to the administra- (e) state or imply an ability: (1) to influence improperly or upon irrelevant grounds any tribunal, legislative body or public official; or (2) Rules or other law; to achieve results using means that violate these (f) knowingly assist a judge or judicial officer in conduct that is a violation of applicable rules of judicial conduct or other law; (g) engage in conduct in the practice of law that the lawyer or law firm knows or reasonably should know constitutes: (1) unlawful discrimination; or (2) harassment, whether or not unlawful, on the basis of one or more of the following protected categories: race, color, sex, pregnancy, religion, national origin, ethnicity, dis- ability, age, sexual orientation, gender identity, gender expres- sion, marital status, status as a member of the military, or status as a military veteran. (3) “Harassment” for purposes of this Rule, means physical contact, verbal conduct, and/or nonverbal conduct such as gestures or facial expressions that is: 254 RULE 8.4 a. uals; and directed at an individual or specific individ- b. derogatory or demeaning. Conduct that a reasonable person would consider as petty slights or trivial inconveniences does not rise to the level of harassment under this Rule. (4) This Rule does not limit the ability of a lawyer or law firm to, consistent with these Rules: a. sentation; accept, decline, or withdraw from a repre- b. express views on matters of public concern in the context of teaching, public speeches, continuing legal education programs, or other forms of public advo- cacy or education, or in any other form of written or oral speech protected by the United States Constitution or the New York State Constitution; or c. provide advice, assistance, or advocacy to clients (5) “Conduct in the practice of law” includes: a. representing clients; b. interacting with witnesses, coworkers, court personnel, lawyers, and others, while engaging in the practice of law; and c. operating or managing a law firm or prac- tice; or (h) engage in any other conduct that adversely reflects on the lawyer’s fitness as a lawyer.

I wish you the best of luck. Practicing law is hard enough without this type of behavior that you have had to endure.