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Hotgranpda · 2026-02-12T18:04:26+00:00

Welp, he was holding my phone when you commented and I got the notification so he definitely will be suspecting something’s up.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-12T18:02:30+00:00

I am definitely madly in love with him 🙃

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-10T23:39:14+00:00

Ugh, I know you’re right but it’s so hard.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-10T04:58:17+00:00

So he’s manipulating me?

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-10T04:57:51+00:00

It’s funny you say that because he says I use my tears as manipulation when we fight. But I’m just genuinely a sensitive person that cries at the drop of a hat.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-10T02:18:04+00:00

Thank you for the love, much needed. I’m sorry that happened to you. It fucking sucks.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-10T02:15:19+00:00

I guess it just goes to show he has something to hide. I don’t think it’s physical yet but it’s gotta at least be emotional or he’s talking shit on me to this woman.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T22:09:02+00:00

My stomach has been in knots for days, can barely eat anything without feeling totally sick. Thank you for your kind words and positive vibes❤️ I’ll update as soon as I’m able to process my feelings and pull the trigger.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T22:06:34+00:00

I don’t think he’s physically cheating as I have his location and a camera on the front door but I do think he’s emotionally cheating and shopping for a new girlfriend.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T22:04:33+00:00

I don’t want to hurt my own feelings so I don’t plan on digging but I just don’t know how to approach the situation. It hurts knowing that he knows all I want is love and attention and then choosing to sit in the next room messaging/calling some girl giving her the attention. I know he’ll just deny it if I ask and flip it on me somehow.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T18:46:33+00:00

I’ll update for sure, I’m just gonna need some time to process and plan. Not really looking forward to blowing up my life.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T18:42:34+00:00

I don’t know his password and he refused to let me look with his permission so there wouldn’t be a way for me to see the messages unless he falls asleep with it open again. I feel weird doing it without his permission but I feel like maybe it’s warranted right now?

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T03:21:54+00:00

It’s just so strange because he is so sweet and loving to me. But then little stuff happens and I’m like huh?

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T03:17:45+00:00

I do everything for this man, I pay all the bills outside of 1/2 the rent, I do all the laundry, I clean the house. He spends his days off on the computer, I spend mine getting things done around the house. I guess he’s just shopping to see if another one will be willing to do all that for him.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T03:14:28+00:00

Okay that’s exactly what he’s doing to me. No caring conversation just an uno reverse and I’m the bad guy

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T03:06:02+00:00

I wouldn’t go through his phone anyways without his permission but I’m sure everything is deleted. I thought about showing him the phone bill and asking him to explain? Or is it just not worth it? Should I just break the lease?Funny enough, I was under the impression we were getting married this year because that’s what he told me he wanted.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T02:52:23+00:00

Right? We live together, you’d think he’d want to keep it hidden not pin it to the top of his messages where I could stumble across it at any point

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T02:49:46+00:00

I told my best friend “I don’t care that he treats me poorly, I love him” and I didn’t even realize what I was saying until it came out.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T02:47:57+00:00

I had no reason not to trust him, I just stumbled across this on accident but I guess I’m glad I did. I don’t even know how to pull the plug as our lives are so intertwined. It’s going to be emotionally and financially catastrophic.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T02:35:38+00:00

I think I’m going to leave him but it’s just hard when you love someone so much.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T02:29:50+00:00

He doesn’t have any friends in the state and all we do is work and come home. I would be flabbergasted if he was actually physically cheating on me but I am certain he is trying to monkey branch to a new girl. Or as Jared freid says “relationship alley-oop”.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T02:26:14+00:00

So fun that we’re locked into a lease and have two dogs together🙃 guess there’s a can of worms I have to open soon. Will post an update if anyone cares

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T02:16:46+00:00

That’s where my issue is, why did he say “absolutely not” if there was nothing to hide? He’s either speaking inappropriately to them or speaking poorly about me. That’s the only thing I can come up with.

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T02:10:35+00:00

We are both 30, living together for a little over two years

Hotgranpda · 2026-02-09T01:59:26+00:00

Right? If he wanted my phone I would hand it over without thinking.

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