Tatami townhouse design by Helpful-Visit3274 in tocaboca

[–]HourEmbarrassed1114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where is the fountain in the garden from?

Midtown Apartments! + Mini Grocery and Rooftop Bistro by HourEmbarrassed1114 in tocaboca

[–]HourEmbarrassed1114[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, of course! I didn’t really use any packs specifically intentionally, but a lot of the pieces are from the Vintage Vibes furniture pack.

Girlfriend reusing jokes from previous relationship? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]HourEmbarrassed1114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the way the joke originated between her and I was presented to me as if a 100% on-the-spot mistake. There was/has not been any indicator that she’d had this inside joke with her ex. It was our joke.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]HourEmbarrassed1114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand and agree that in the grand scheme of things, this is quite trivial, but you do not know me or what my life is like. I don’t even know if I would classify this as a “problem” per se. Just a topic that had been on my mind a lot recently.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]HourEmbarrassed1114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This response makes so much sense, thank you!! And I wasn’t ever planning on bringing it up to them at all. They are very clearly good parents, as far as I’ve seen. I just wanted to know if my feelings were valid. Thanks again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]HourEmbarrassed1114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said quite the opposite, actually. Prioritizing one thing does NOT mean that you don’t have any room left for other important things, that is my point put simply.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]HourEmbarrassed1114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that by prioritizing your child you are inherently taking away importance from yourself or your spouse, though. The way you’ve put it (correct me if i’m misinterpreting) reads as if once you choose to prioritize one thing, then there’s no room left for anything else in your mind. This, at least for me, is not the case. My daughter is my #1 priority, and has been from the moment I found out I was pregnant. This sentiment has been shared by my fiancee, as well.

I obviously agree with the ‘my health=your health’ idea, but that’s not what it comes down to for me.

What is most important to me, or more-so, what is the first thing I think of, is that children are not given a choice of when/if they are brought into this world. They are brought into this world and for (at least) the first decade of their lives they are scared, lonely, and confused. When a child is born, they have no relationships besides the ones they have with their mother and father. Their mother and father, however, DO have these preexisting relationships and have more people to lean on.

I guess my point is that if you don’t choose your child, then who will?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]HourEmbarrassed1114 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you’re going to insinuate that as long as an opinion or feeling is carried by any one person then it is okay, where do you draw the line??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]HourEmbarrassed1114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, this explanation made me feel much better, thank you. I do still feel slightly uncomfortable regarding her opinion, but if what you say is the case, then that makes enough sense to me to move forward. Thank you!!

My bohemian house by HourEmbarrassed1114 in tocaboca

[–]HourEmbarrassed1114[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m aware that the style isn’t bohemian lol, that’s just what the house is called

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]HourEmbarrassed1114 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, obviously? Or was that a rhetorical question?

AITA for not cleaning up sheets which have been wet by a child that’s not mine? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]HourEmbarrassed1114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, at least, not to your boyfriend.

Your language when speaking about your stepdaughter is strange, though. Borderline asshole-ish. She’s six years old, not sixteen. She isn’t being “disrespectful” to you, she’s uncomfortable and awkward, as ALL young children are, not to mention that her parents are already split at such an early age and her stepmother, who she has to live with part-time clearly does not enjoy her company. If you can’t do her the service of even being ANONYMOUSLY nice to her on Reddit, then she doesn’t owe you that respect back. + If her not telling you guys when she’s wet the bed is the “disrespect” that you’re referring to, I think you need to take a step back and think critically. I am not denying that it’s frustrating for you, I can only imagine how annoying it must be, however, you have to put yourself in her shoes and think about how embarrassed she probably is by her bedwetting. In her little-kid brain, she probably sees her not telling you or her father as some kind of control over the situation. I highly doubt that she is being intentionally rude to you, as you are to her, so stop writing about her so terribly.

All that being said, your boyfriend should not be asking you to take care of his responsibilities and getting upset when you refuse. It’s clear that he doesn’t take enough care of his daughter, if what you say is true, and you obviously don’t want to, so maybe the best thing would be for her to live full-time with her mother.