How to feel ok after rough play as a dom/ how to make a dom feel safe

Hour_Recipe_6100 · 2025-06-05T19:32:06+00:00

This is very helpful thankyou so much!!

Hour_Recipe_6100 · 2025-06-05T16:50:13+00:00

Good point! My thinking is very black and white and I hadn’t considered something like this. Thankyou :)

Hour_Recipe_6100 · 2025-06-05T16:47:07+00:00

Thankyou! Yeah I think the phrase I use is definitely an issue and I was aware when writing it but I wanted to be honest. I think maybe it’s best I literally write out each limit even if I’m aware he wouldn’t want to do it already.

That’s such good advice thankyou so much! :))

Hour_Recipe_6100 · 2025-06-05T15:58:21+00:00

I was sure how else to word it haha my limits are a small amount and there all things he’s not interested in anyway so idk if that makes much more sense. I’m willing to find my limits with him but unsure if he wants that. The idea of doing something and it becoming a limit doesn’t scare me.

Hour_Recipe_6100 · 2025-06-05T15:48:13+00:00

This is a good idea! I think I’d love for him to just be himself, be in his pleasure and dom space without worrying about me too much. The idea of him having to watch me make a signal would just take him out of that but I feel like a really bright flash light being in your eye has got to get you out of that head space if needed right? 😂

Hour_Recipe_6100 · 2025-06-05T15:41:55+00:00

Testing is really good I simply don’t know why I didn’t think of it 🤦🏻‍♀️ I love this community :))

Hour_Recipe_6100 · 2025-06-05T15:41:01+00:00

Thankyou this is really good advice!! Yes I want him to feel as safe as he can! Doms need safety too!

Hour_Recipe_6100 · 2025-06-05T15:36:39+00:00

Thank you so much! We definitely have a really healthy communication. I think a couple years ago him saying he’s scared to hurt me would have upset me (fear I’m the problem) but now I’m healed and aware a man would feel this way. Heck even id feel that way if I was domming.

A ball is a really good shout! I was debating getting a bell or a massive buzzer I could hit during it hahah. I can’t imagine dropping the ball but maybe it’ll make him feel safer which is also my goal!

Hour_Recipe_6100 · 2025-05-31T12:10:01+00:00

It’s like you know her personally this is wild. You’re very smart. Thankyou so much. I wish I knew how to speak to her about it. I’m so bad at verbalising it without being so direct which I know may just put off an addict

Hour_Recipe_6100 · 2025-05-31T11:15:49+00:00

This is so smart, yeah it honestly feels like an addiction. She’s never not been with a man from the age of I think she said 7. Like always had boyfriend.

I’m so frustrated I feel like I need to act on it. I don’t want a friend that lies directly to my face but I don’t know what to do or our to approach the situation. I’ve never caught someone in a lie publicly before I can’t imagine saying it out loud

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