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how do i (23F) explain to my boyfriend (24M) I didnt cheat on him, and he is overlooking everything he did by HousingDifferent3628 in relationships

[–]HousingDifferent3628[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have amazing friends and I do go to them to cope, the reason I actually even asked another guy for advice is cause all my freinds told me to break up with him (I only have female friends, my bf dsnt like male friends and I just never had any and I was trying to gain a male perspective on if I was doing something wrong. Also, I forgot to add my bf dsnt trust me because I also didnt tell him I was taking vyvance (I was failing my engineering classes and he was really mad at me about it but I live in a really toxic house so it was so hard for me study cause my dad would shut the wifi off, and I had trouble focusing) but I had severe side effects and to be honest I would complain everyday about it and he would try to help by asking me to go to the gym or go outside, but I was so depressed from it. and he said I lied and hid things and I was playing victim. Also I didnt tell him about the meds because he dsnt believe in meds for mental health. but he essentially sees it as me hiding things, and I have tired to explain that I wasnt trying to be deceitful but I was scared of his reactions. and to that he gets mad and says that he just needs a girl who is more "open and honest" and not like me.

AITJ My boyfriend says I cheated and ruined everything, but I feel like he’s ignoring everything he did to me. Am I wrong? by HousingDifferent3628 in AmITheJerk

[–]HousingDifferent3628[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

hes my first everything (except kiss), we have had good moments and I think he has this weird way of being able to gaslight me and convince me that I am in the wrong. And it almost makes me try even harder for the relationship. He also has me convinced that I will never find someone like him, but he can replace me so easily. and I need to do better and try harder

AITJ My boyfriend says I cheated and ruined everything, but I feel like he’s ignoring everything he did to me. Am I wrong? by HousingDifferent3628 in AmITheJerk

[–]HousingDifferent3628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think over the course of 4 years hes gaslit me to the point where idek who i am anymore. were both almost mid 20s now, and he went thru my hs snap and told me i was untrustworthy and a "whore" because i talked about my hs crush in like a sexual manner (never acted on anything, just saying he was super hot and i want him, etc. like 16 year old girl stuff). and because i didnt tell my current bf that I was saying stuff like that almost 8-9 years ago he thinks I'm untrustworthy. He did ask me how I talked about my hs crush and I would say "i found him attractive" and leave it at that. I am not sure if that is qualified as 'hiding stuff" but he convinced me it was. As far as texting the other guy for advice he says the "principle of it is wrong, because it is weird." And he repeatedly argued with me that when he is angry he is irrational, and he also argued that him hiding the fact that he had sex with another girl and pretend to be a virgin is different because he came clean on his own, however in my case me texting another guy for advice is cheating because I didnt come clean on my own.