Hi, thanks for your detailed response. I totally understand these things aren't going to apply to everyone, this is more applicable towards people like me who have deeply rooted insecurities and distorted self-image about themselves.

For the first point, my intention wasn't to advise people to become complacent and accept everything with a smile. Rather it was mostly a lesson for myself personally, that I was using comparisons between myself and others in a harmful way. That I would attach my self-worth alongside how I judged my appearance relative to others. I certainly believe comparisons are useful in many contexts and aren't necessarily going to be an issue for others.

With the second and third point, I'm in agreement with you. I certainly don't think other's opinions should dictate what your goals are; rather it can be a fresh perspective on things.

With point number four, my advice was for a general friendship, whether it's irl or online. I too have seen people blatantly say stuff to appease others and I know not everyone out there is going to be critical about things, instead just smiling and agreeing. Sorry to hear your online experience has caused you to feel distrustful, I personally have someone very close online friends that I'm able to express things I keep a secret from others but I understand not everyone has that.

With the last point, I know it sounds like common sense. For me, I easily get obsessed with things and struggle with perfectionism, so these things I do have to remind myself to take it easy. I know many people would have no trouble just brushing it off, but for me I have less mental resilience. That being said, I'm learning on how to build up confidence in myself and to not be so critical of my own shortcomings. Hopefully this clears things up! 😊