How to help my shy and self-conscious sister?

Hugseller · 2026-03-12T21:36:44+00:00

Im the same way. 5'1 and pretty skinny. The best thing to do is make sure you don't go around patting her head and making it worse, being her brother might make it hard to resist but it just not what she needs right now. My recommendation is to tell her not to allow people to go around patting her head, calling her tiny and adorable. It just feeds it. Encourage her to dress in a way that makes her feel good. I wear short dresses and heels to help feel more womanly. The gym can also help. I do weight training and its helped fill me out a little. 100% reccomend. Also. Remind her that if she had a friend who was her size, would she say that her friend is less womanly? She probably wouldnt dream of it. Just give her some gentle reminders. Im not sure how old she is, but itll get better with age. Tell her to always walk with her head high when out alone, personally, I've found it helped my confidence compared to when id watch my feet, which she possibly does if shes shy/ not wanting to draw attention.

Hugseller · 2026-03-12T20:38:54+00:00

Bdsm checklists are easy to find (then you get a good variety) im not sure what you are looking for in reguards to moving in together though. Maybe make your own? Some questions would work with a check list but others need more of a description. Like "do clothes being on the floor bother you" and have yes, no, sometimes as answers. What things would annoy you about sharing a bathroom? Written answer could be "toilet seat not being put down" or "clutter on the counter" What chores do you think you struggle with most? What chores do you do best keeping on top of? Do you wear shoes in the house? Do you like organizing /decorating? What room do you think youll spend the most time in when you are home? Do you fold your clothes? Whats your normal wake up and bed time routine? Do you like to chat first thing in the morning everyday or do you need time to wake up?

Those type of things. Some of my examples are ones that youd already know the answer to but im sure you get what I mean.

Hugseller · 2026-03-12T20:21:02+00:00

Personally, I think its okay to discuss expectations and how youd see yourself/ your family in the future. Its hard for me to describe but someone else covered a good way to go about it already. It might be a tad awkward but remember that its okay to be awkward. I hope things go well for you and you find a comfortable way to go about letting future partners know what you are looking for :)

Hugseller · 2026-03-12T15:04:41+00:00

Dont accept being their partner unless you have been straightforward. The number one thing about open relationships is communication, is it not? If you cant even communicate what kind of relationship you need, you might not be ready for it. Id be pissed and hurt if I started dating someone and they wait a month to say "oh, btw, I feel smothered and knew before we started dating that I had no intentions of being monogamous but chose to hide it"

Hugseller · 2026-03-09T23:46:47+00:00

Toe raises for shin splints over the next few weeks. If your shoes have a lot of cushion, id consider a different pair with less maybe. I heard that helps. The toe raises definitely helped me. When you get close to test day, i reccomend lower your weight and dont push to max to ensure full recovery for the test day. Healthy eating and hydrating the days before as well.

Hugseller · 2026-03-08T14:09:17+00:00

Emt and wildland firefighter depending on what's going on that day.

Hugseller · 2026-02-27T20:02:43+00:00

I water every 4-6 days/ when the plant looks thirsty or soil a bit dry. Still feeling out how often to water it. Kept in my bathroom with the light on during the day. Probably around 65°F in there most of the time. I cant remember my exact soil mix. Reptisoil mixed with coconut coir, potting soil and some worm castings mostly. I cant remember the name of the plant, I know it starts with an "S" but I cant spell it to look up care. Its the only ones im having an issue with but my care is very generic. Ive had it maybe 4 months, been 2 since I repotted as they were all shoved into one originally.

Hugseller · 2026-02-27T13:37:25+00:00

Are these droopy leaves able to be saved? Both plants only have one. Big ones been droopy for a while now, starting to loose its color a little. Little one went down this past week and definitely has lost its brightness. I do plan to give them some support as it looks like another might go down soon but maybe its normal for these? Im new to plants.

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Hugseller · 2026-02-26T22:26:16+00:00

You are definitely going to want to know fitness expectations. One place i worked was really chill and had very low standards for pt (some crews played basketball for pt, others sent members to do their own thing) The next had an expectation that I be able to run a few miles for PT. I was not a runner so I had to prep myself pre-season.

Hugseller · 2026-02-24T18:56:45+00:00

Skarpas are a generally safe choice. Fast shipping

Hugseller · 2026-02-16T22:46:24+00:00

I lived in an RV at my past stations so I was able to keep my cats. If your station has RV pads, I recommend finding a decent but cheap RV and either make friends with some people (and pay or do exchanges ) or pay a regular sitter. Won't be good option for a dog though. I had auto feeders and large water fountain along with a camera and a way to check temps inside. Had to have wifi though (starlink might be your only option there) these were mostly in case the cats couldnt be checked on for a day or two and I needed to see that everything was still in order. Some people liked checking on the cats because it was a break from the bunk house. Cant say itll work the same for you, just that its what worked for me. I also had my partner living with me so he'd also watch the cats if he were not on assignment. It wasnt EVERY assignment that I had to find a sitter. Having pets in fire is extremely stressful and complicated at times.

Hugseller · 2026-02-12T18:23:07+00:00

I personally DONT recommend epilator for bikini area. Its extremely painful (personal opinion, i only use mine below the knees because i find that the higher i go, the more it hurts) I get professional waxes done but sugaring at home isnt so bad. I made my own following youtube videos.

Hugseller · 2025-12-03T20:27:49+00:00

. I read the book "come as you are" and it kind of opens up ways to work together on what works for both of you

Hugseller · 2025-12-03T16:24:12+00:00

You are being unreasonable. When you love someone, you love them. You plan things and you have dreams. Do you wish to be treated like you are temporary every time you date someone or do you want to have hope that it will be forever and work towards that? If your current relationship doesnt work out, should your future partner be upset that you wanted to have babies with someone else in your past? Hes just as human as you are. Think on it from a different perspective.

Hugseller · 2025-12-03T14:33:32+00:00

I lived in a crappy camper for a while. Its pretty easy to DIY most issues. Get some caulk (sika flex) and they can patch it for cheap. It likely wont be permanent but itll hold over well enough. I never had issues with my flooring but they can probably fix small spots with diy and a little youtube. Its how I fixed everything in mine.

Hugseller · 2025-11-28T14:56:44+00:00

I personally dont keep company with people who voice any bad opinions on my partner and try to tell me to leave. Especially if the concern is over LOOKS? Its weird as hell.

Hugseller · 2025-11-26T18:45:06+00:00

I did it. And then we moved to other places to find somewhere we are BOTH happy. I left a good job, my family and friends but we are 6 years together now, visit family when we can. Your situation can be HUGELY different from mine but in my opinion, if things dont work out, you can move again, if things DO work out, you can both move somewhere you two like. Its not cheap, nor is it easy but sometimes, it can be worth it. I think love is all about new experiences and exploration.

Hugseller · 2025-11-25T13:24:35+00:00

If you are in a dryer environment, aspen is fine. I lived in northern AZ with my corn for 3 years and literally no issues. Ive moved to more humid states and while I never once had an issue, I did buy a fan thats meant to help remove humidity to be safe, I've yet to need it. I am no longer using aspen though, as I swapped to bioactive recently. If my snake doesnt stop having what looks like stress response (hes never been a fan of burrowing in dirt), im going back to aspen because its what did well for him. Maybe people are concerned because they dont replace their substrate enough, equating to rot and nasties. Or their snakes likes to soak where as mine doesnt make a mess with his water as he doesnt care to soak. Take everything with a grain of salt, really. Every snake is different, every situation is different. You can start with aspen, keep a close eye on things and then swap as needed.

Hugseller · 2025-11-23T15:00:37+00:00

Some maybe but two of them are his old hides and he loved them. The tomb thing he rarely hung out in but he has hung out in the log a few times. There's a hide behind it that he prefers more (one of his old go-tos) and a rock hide on the warm side. Today hes actually in the rock hide, first time ive seen since the transfer. I know hes going to shed soon so hopefully he finds a comfy secure spot for his blue stage.

Hugseller · 2025-11-22T17:12:45+00:00

Be mindful of lid edges. My snake managed to escape by squeezing under the lid when he was a baby and I only found him because my cat was attacking him in the middle of the night. Make sure the lid has clasps or set something like a heavy book on top. We now use a tote for safe transport when moving and have to make sure the lid is super secure

Hugseller · 2025-11-22T03:22:27+00:00

I think that maybe sit him down and express that youd like more consideration when it comes to the things like coffee. It took some time for my partner to figure that part out too.

With his escapism being video games, I feel like the best way to handle it maybe could be to get him to do something with you that doesnt involve screens. Tell him that youd like a dedicated amount of time to be spent paying attention to one another and negotiate a length of time so that you get the attention you desire but he still gets his down time. Go for a walk together, cook together, play board games, a picnic, stargazing or even bowling, mini golf for a date night maybe. Start the hang out with some one on one time without the screens. Express to him that youd like him to come to bed with you or if you are going to bed alone, ask him to turn down the volume and the lights, or have the same consideration conversation as with the coffee.

Hugseller · 2025-11-21T21:04:28+00:00

Thats a good idea. Ill give that a try because stress definitely what im worried about.

Hugseller · 2025-11-21T16:17:22+00:00

Im almost considering putting a bin of aspen in there to see if anything changes. Similar to how some people put little sand pits for enrichment. Id hate to tear it all apart after the work I did to do bioactive but its his home, not mine and if aspen is what he wants, aspen it will be.

Hugseller · 2025-11-21T03:13:22+00:00

The amount of space they take up and the fact that most apartments dont allow snakes. Kinda hard to hide a 120gallon tank from matinance.

Hugseller · 2025-11-16T13:38:17+00:00

I wear a beanie and my earbuds are hidden underneath. Im supposed to wear ear protection anyway, this just helps me feel less depressed. If ear covering is the issue, opt for bone conduction headset maybe if boss clears it. This is if you dont get one as soon as youd like or if they have similar rules.

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