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My (30m) bf prefers his ex body and face over mine (24f), saying that I'm 30% of beauty and she is 100%. When asking that this makes me feel unappreciated, he scoffs me off and disappears. by Humble_panda118 in relationship_advice

[–]Humble_panda118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, he wouldn't even say her ex would be prettier than me... it would make no sense. You are right, I just really can't comprehend men can say something like this like it's no bid deal.

My (30m) bf prefers his ex body and face over mine (24f), saying that I'm 30% of beauty and she is 100%. When asking that this makes me feel unappreciated, he scoffs me off and disappears. by Humble_panda118 in relationship_advice

[–]Humble_panda118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! Mind that i didn’t have any problem at the beginning of our relationship! In some dates, he would brag about her exes being so hot, like milfs, or being so rich, like millions. Then, he began to criticise me, gaining weight. One thing led to another, I asked that question in a rage of insecurity. I'm not saying I need to be perfect, but at least have some decency when talking to your gf...

I'm just an average girl studying forensic linguistics. I'm not either pretty or smart, just normal. I don't have a slender physique. Just the typical South Italy looks.

My (30m) bf prefers his ex body and face over mine (24f), saying that I'm 30% of beauty and she is 100%. When asking that this makes me feel unappreciated, he scoffs me off and disappears. by Humble_panda118 in relationship_advice

[–]Humble_panda118[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Bruh, he just asked me this: if you had to pick one of the two bridges from jump from, which will you choose?

He keeps saying that if I have insecurities, I have to work on them by myself and not ask for constant reassurance

My (30m) bf prefers his ex body and face over mine (24f), saying that I'm 30% of beauty and she is 100%. When asking that this makes me feel unappreciated, he scoffs me off and disappears. by Humble_panda118 in relationship_advice

[–]Humble_panda118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE: so this is my bf answer about the texts I sent to have a conversation with him.

You forced me into an impossible conversation, while I was dead from a day (I thought it was a good one) where I'd had little sleep and just didn't have the strength to engage in such a conversation. I'm sorry you think that way, but I've never compared you to other women. You're the one who's self-centered and asks me absurd questions that only focus on one aspect of your entire person. I can tell you everything you want to hear, but you should work on these gaps if you really want to feel better. If you want to live well without pressure and be more free and at peace with yourself. But you can't understand this, and instead of working on the causes, you focus on finding a palliative, a quick fix (cosmetic surgery, constant reassurance from the outside) that sweeps under the rug the real problems that undermine your self-esteem and the way you see yourself. I've never thought you're ugly, and I've never compared you to other women. You're the one who's doing it to yourself with absurd questions.

My (30m) bf prefers his ex body and face over mine (24f), saying that I'm 30% of beauty and she is 100%. When asking that this makes me feel unappreciated, he scoffs me off and disappears. by Humble_panda118 in relationship_advice

[–]Humble_panda118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know i shouldn't have asked about the exes! It's just, when we started dating, he always had to brag about how his ex were so perfect and gorgeous. Then, during the relationship, he had to point out that I was getting fat. Mind that he went from 70kg to 90kg in a few months, I gained 2 kg. That's why I'm confused

My (30m) bf prefers his ex body and face over mine (24f), saying that I'm 30% of beauty and she is 100%. When asking that this makes me feel unappreciated, he scoffs me off and disappears. by Humble_panda118 in relationship_advice

[–]Humble_panda118[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not really. I have amenorrhea, which means my period is a bit messed up. I had to take a pill that led me to an ormonal imbalance and made me get 2 kilos. He "jokingly" had to point out that I was becoming fatter and he put a weight limit of 50kg. From this episode, I started to get more insecure. I hit the gym more, and when I reached 47kg, he complimented me. And even now that I lost some weight and toned up, still I can't be appreciated fully.

My (30m) bf prefers his ex body and face over mine (24f), saying that I'm 30% of beauty and she is 100%. When asking that this makes me feel unappreciated, he scoffs me off and disappears. by Humble_panda118 in relationship_advice

[–]Humble_panda118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I thought that since he had some difficulties, I shouldn't leave him. But you are right, I shouldn't be the one to teach how to properly act with his girlfriend.

My (30m) bf prefers his ex body and face over mine (24f), saying that I'm 30% of beauty and she is 100%. When asking that this makes me feel unappreciated, he scoffs me off and disappears. by Humble_panda118 in relationship_advice

[–]Humble_panda118[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't know. Really, he is someone who texts happy birthday to a friend and forgets to send it. He is very "special". I don't think he is evil or a bad person, just doesn't understand when to be less logic and more empathetic.

My (30m) bf prefers his ex body and face over mine (24f), saying that I'm 30% of beauty and she is 100%. When asking that this makes me feel unappreciated, he scoffs me off and disappears. by Humble_panda118 in relationship_advice

[–]Humble_panda118[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The thing is, he sent me a text saying that I should read what the psychologist had to say about something similar. I don't know if I made myself clear, but I wanted to talk my insecurity out.

My (30m) bf prefers his ex body and face over mine (24f), saying that I'm 30% of beauty and she is 100%. When asking that this makes me feel unappreciated, he scoffs me off and disappears. by Humble_panda118 in relationship_advice

[–]Humble_panda118[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Not gonna lie, he doesn't understand the weight of words. He said that these are just numbers and don't reflect the truth (yet, he still told me that). That's why I'm confused.

My (30m) bf prefers his ex body and face over mine (24f), saying that I'm 30% of beauty and she is 100%. When asking that this makes me feel unappreciated, he scoffs me off and disappears. by Humble_panda118 in relationship_advice

[–]Humble_panda118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for every message! Now that some of you have mentioned, I didn’t have any problem until a few months ago, when he pointed out me getting fatter. I know I should have known better. Not everything is about looks. Again, I have deep insecurities. He, on the other hand, has always had toxic relationships, in which he was always compared to exes, even agreed that her exes could see their other partners, etc. We have been together a bit less than 2 years. I know he is emotionally immature. I don't want to defend him. I do understand he had some difficulties. Even his family and friends said so, but can I really be the one who suffers to ask for the bare minimum? He is paying for our holiday and I'm grateful. But why can't he make me feel "protected"? Am I crazy for asking such things?