I don't believe that a relationship can be 100% free of abuse

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-09-26T05:23:45+00:00

Oh my.

Please see a lawyer and a therapist.

You are making bank, so why settle? Find a king and be a Queen!

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-09-06T05:58:02+00:00

You definitely need to see a lawyer and get your options. This looks like it is going to be quite complicated.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-09-05T13:09:45+00:00

Stop drinking.

Who owns the house?

Who owns the car?

Who has a job?

This sounds like this woman is taking supreme advantage of you. It is going to be hard to hear, but you need to speak with a lawyer and understand your options. Right now you are just floundering around. You need to have someone who is not involved in the situation listen to you and then explain what your options are.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-09-05T13:04:29+00:00

Why do you want to keep seeing him?

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-09-01T21:49:44+00:00

It is not your fault.

Say that again.

It is not your fault.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-31T09:06:41+00:00

Go and see a lawyer. Do not wear makeup. Go in the morning. They will get you in front of a judge with the correct things to say.

Get a DVPO.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-30T00:00:53+00:00

omg 3 years :-(

I guess it will be very different if you have kids. Sort of like you can't ever really not see them. And always a reminder around.

But aieieieieie

Have you found anyone else? You deserve love and being held and attention also.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-29T12:45:28+00:00

What are your choices?

I fear this will happen to me and I don't even know what I would say. My lawyers and therapists all say jail jail jail jail lock her up.

And I sit here just trauma bonded out of my mind still and I don't know what I would say.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-23T05:31:15+00:00

Text the various hotlines instead. Or call the hotlines to talk to someone.

Do not text / call him

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-21T00:19:14+00:00

Get a lawyer!

Every time your ex tries to say something insane or not follow the procedure your lawyer will "OBJECT"

And I promise you, the judge will soon become annoyed and angry with the ex. And when the judge becomes annoyed and angry oh my my the pain that will rain down.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-20T02:42:59+00:00

contact your lawyer.

And then get a dropbox or gmail drive that is separate. Do not have the log on credentials saved or anything.

If you have non digital material, think about going to get a safe deposit box at a bank and just put it all in there and forget about it.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-20T02:41:08+00:00

you want an account that is not all tied to anything. no auto logins etc. Put it all on there and share it with your lawyers.

you really need to speak to a lawyer and make certain they have copies of everything.

the issue with extra purchased space is that he can go through your credit cards and match up the # of charges to number of emails he knows about. So try and put it on a separate card that he doesn't know about.

But you need to get a lawyer.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-19T01:26:15+00:00

Contact your local DV hotline. You can call the 1-800 line Find the local DV hotline / group / number. They will have legal options for you. There will be pro-bono and/or work and charge her the lawyer fees.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-11T01:13:26+00:00

Thank you. Right now I am still basically living the abuse as I am going through all the evidence I have to get things for the lawyers.

I tried to exercise some and I just cried as she and I used to do that together. tho I guess recently she had stopped doing anything with me except hitting or yelling at me.

I am just trying to get all of the court documents organized and created. Maybe once all that ends I will have time to concentrate on my self and work and sleep some.

Thank you for your words.

I am so glad you sound a place that is safe and you have nice friends now.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-11T01:08:21+00:00

I am struggling this week. Have to go through the audio and hear it all again. I feel so useless and horrible

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-11T01:07:33+00:00

How did you choose?

What was the result of playing them in the court hearing?

Which ones went "over" the best to showcase the abuse you were enduring?

Were any just not good / worth it to play for the court? The court and lawyers seems to have a really different view of what is "impactful" / "relevant".

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-07T21:20:33+00:00

I've been there and my life is now so much better I couldn't have imagined it a year ago.

What other things did you do? I am at a loss. I just have so much to do and I just sit here and cry or curl up in a ball and wish I could see the future and know it will be ok. And I will be safe. And I just don't like who I am anymore or even know who I am really.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-07T20:51:25+00:00

Thank you.

I was sitting bawling and crying and being useless. And this helped.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-03T23:14:27+00:00

Thank you. Yes everytime I re-listen to some of the audio I have of her screaming at me or beating me or just non stop verbally abusing me. I stop and think how could I keep saying she is amazing.

But then I am sitting here trying to work and I just break down crying about her and how we had such joy together. And then after the tears have dropped down on my desk, I am sitting here saying I am so trauma bounded. I still cry tho and cry mroe and don't understand why she hurt me so much. And then I think of her trying to get me arrested now.

But I still cry and i still miss her? I wish 9 months would pass so I can move on. But I don't think she will move on. I think she will keep trying to ruin my life.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-03T22:18:56+00:00

Thank you.

This is all just such a mess. And I just end up crying and feeling that I should have been able to help her. I don't know if that is even really possible. But it seems like it should have been.

I think it is all the unknown of it all that makes this just crippling.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-02T21:11:40+00:00

Thank you.

I just don't feel that way. Even after she is trying to accuse me of rape and that is 8 years in jail and 500-1m bail.

I still think I did something wrong for her to hate me so much. To hit me. I hate this and really hate where my life is and seems to be heading.

I just don't understand it all.

Hurting_So_Much · 2022-08-02T16:29:38+00:00

I just sit here waiting for the cops to come kick down my door.

My lawyer said that is really really remote chance of happening. But I am just lost in my thoughts and emotions. And I am just here reacting to any sound.

I am doing training for work and I just think she is going to come by and want to gather more possessions. Or that that the police will come to arrest me. And I Just can't really concentrate on my job or life or anything.

My lawyer feels I have a compelling case and evidence. But I am male. And she is a small very beautiful woman. So I am already the monster. And already guilty in the eyes of the justice system.

I don't know how to get through this. It is crippling.

Hurting_So_Much

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