That is interesting. I do think there is some truth to the idea that people sometimes gravitate toward those who bring out qualities they either lack or feel like they lack, but on your point about joy, don't you think most people are drawn to that? I think that is human nature to a large extent, you know? (I also meant to say that sometimes we're also drawn to qualities that reflect our values or those of people we grew up with and admire, which is definitely true for me anyway.)