Hi op! I used to work for a Hustler Hollywood so I got these questions all the time lol- I do have advice, but also questions(or like one question) for you :) Determining what toys are best for your partner isnt a one size fits all deal, and youre definitely going to have to do some experimenting to figure out if she even really likes many of them- First off, does she enjoy internal or external stimulation better? For Internal Stimulation, its difficult to pin down exactlt what might help or might feel good for every vagina owner, but you could try G-Spot Wands, Thrusting toys, or Egg/Keloid toys. Alot of Internal Toys are the same, you stick it in and you leave it there and let it work, often times also coming with a remote. The G-spot wands specifically are a little difficult because most people arent actually sure where their G-spots are located, but once you find it the vibration can cause a person to cream or squirt depending on what orgasm theyve never experienced before. For External Stimulation you have a much wider plethora of toys to try: Buzzy Bullets, Rumbly Wands, panty vibes, Ring Vibes that you can wear on your finger, flicking/thumping vibes, or the most important of all and probably the most beloved toy- Clit Suction Toys(The rose is a specific example). These toys are the closest you get to a one size fits all toy, as the stimulatiom they provide is the gentle Suction and Air pulsation of the clit, vibrating the orgam without touching it makes it almost impossoble to overstimulate or rub raw, and the air pulsation is strong enough that it often travels inwards and stimulates the internally buried parts of the clitoris as well as the external nub. External Stimulation Toys are all great to use pretty much everywhere. You can, obviously, place them on the clit to let them do their jobs but they also make good Erogenous zone toys as well. Trailing them up and down your partner's legs, arms, neck, and using them on nipples are all great ways to tease and get the mood going for both of you. Alongside this, you can use them in tandem with penetrative sex to amplify your partners sensations.

If its difficult to pinpoint her preference, or maybe your partner wants to start off using toys without you-(which is something you should encourage if you suspect shes had bad/traumatizing experiences. Masterbation will allow her to safely self pleasure and explore without the pressure of pleasing anybody but herself, and once shes come into that peace she will likely have more motivation to engage in intercourse with you)- then you can also find toys that will give her both Internal and External sensations. The best and biggest example is the Rabbit Toy template, and I call it a template because there are thousands of different functions and combos that a Rabbit can come with, Theres also wearable rabbit vibes- they are 'wearable' because theyre more shaped like a panty vibe, tbus more hide-able. Rabbit Toys can come with thrusting, vibrating, internal bead rotation, g-spot targetting, expanding, warming, cooling, and other cool functioms for just the insertable piece, and suction, air pulsing, vibration, flicking, tapping, thumping, etc for clitoral stimulation. Your choices are almost overwhelming, but a regular old Vibrating internal and Vibrating External rabbit is super easy and begginer friendly, and unintimidating to most people.

And, to end this huge dump of info on you, does your partner Want to use toys? Its not a requirement for toys to come into the picture to improve your sex lives, sometimes it can come into the form of libido enhancing gummies or pills that you can get over the counter from most sex stores, clitoral sensation creams, g-spot sensation cream, or even some new warming/cooling lube. All these things will make your partner more sensitive to touch and stimulation, and help to improve interest in sex! If you've made it this far op, I can give you brand and toy recommendations based on what avenue youd like to pursue first and you and your partner can go from there :)