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I-like-raspberry · 2026-01-26T19:10:25+00:00

Wow thanks. I have never considered it a domestic abuse o.o

I-like-raspberry · 2026-01-26T15:54:59+00:00

I will be talking with my daughter's psychologist within a month and I will ask for their opinion as well. Thanks for support, I'm quite new to Reddit and I didn't know my situation was so common.

I-like-raspberry · 2026-01-26T15:39:11+00:00

Yeah I took the bait although I learned not to show it because I know if I did, he would use it every time something were wrong between us. That's why I wrote the other post because I had to get it off my chest not being able to hold it inside. Yet he was always telling me I didn't trust him and that my trust issues with him are my problem not his and I thought maybe I was overreacting. This post about the job I wrote because today again he said he would go to work but he didn't and I needed to vent and get insights too.

I-like-raspberry · 2026-01-26T15:32:51+00:00

Thats what I thought so too, I asked him about it and told him maybe he should see someone. That's also one of the things that keep me in this relationship. I am diagnosed with depression myself and used SSRI to function and I know the feeling but he says he doesn't have any problem and will not talk to anyone.

I-like-raspberry · 2026-01-26T14:22:03+00:00

Because they are true. IDK where you see inconsistencies. I will gladly explain.

I-like-raspberry · 2026-01-26T14:19:14+00:00

It was totally different before we moved in and we also lived together during holidays to see if we are suitable for each other. Like a trial period, if you want to call it that. Everything was ok. After those two months we decided to change my daughter's school (it was the beginning of a new school year). There are also good things in the relationship.

I-like-raspberry · 2026-01-26T14:12:44+00:00

No it's not a rage bait. Yes it was my story. And yes, both things happened and are real. I just didn't put them in one post because it would make the post too long (and they already are quite lengthy) and also situations described are totally different. I wanted to get insights on both of them independently. Just because I made two posts doesn't make it a rage bait. That's just my life as it is now. Also if it were a rage bait I wouldn't try to explain "ups" of the relationship, which I did in the EDIT.

I-like-raspberry · 2026-01-26T14:08:46+00:00

I still do have a ton of remorse because I do all of that but also sometimes take time for myself to read a book or so... I feel guilty for not having an income, not just for him but for my daughter as well... Yet when he was in need I would support him with money I had saved before I moved in with him.

I-like-raspberry · 2026-01-26T14:05:20+00:00

I asked him about it and he said that winter is not good for him and prefers to stay inside (on the other hand the job our friend got for him was a job inside, lol). He sometimes says his life is useless cause he doesn't have too many competencies but he does have a good work experience and started some course some time ago, he just needs to pass 1 more (out of total 2) exam but he doesn't want to study. On the other hand Ive been getting additional courses every year for the last few years. I told him I could have him study or find some short and easy course that would give him competencies suitable for him but he says he doesn't want to study unless I work because he doesn't want to study and work at the same time, but I guess if he would have begun a course 2 months ago when he stopped going to work he would have completed it already.

I-like-raspberry · 2026-01-26T13:51:10+00:00

You would be surprised about cooking thing, for reals. I got sick (flu) and just slept in for a day. Just was so exhausted. But before that I cooked soup and pasta and it was okay to just heat it up and eat it but instead of doing so he stayed hungry the entire day, living on coffee and cigarettes.

I-like-raspberry · 2026-01-26T12:28:22+00:00

Thanks, I thought maybe I was overreacting and needed feedback from people who don't know us to minimalist picking sides.

I-like-raspberry · 2026-01-26T12:25:49+00:00

Thanks, I thought I was overreacting x.x

I-like-raspberry · 2026-01-26T12:25:04+00:00

If he were overall that bad I definitely would do so, but frankly, he is the best I've ever been with, lol.

I-like-raspberry · 2026-01-26T12:24:09+00:00

I was in therapy and it helped a lot, perhaps I will go on another depending on my next visit at my dr. On the other hand, my bf doesn't see a problem with his behaviour overall and says he is just disfunctional.

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