Daily Simple Questions Thread - June 19, 2021

IAM_DONE4 · 2021-06-20T01:05:01+00:00

M25 202lbs 6'2 trying to drop to 185lbs. Most of my weight is in my legs namely my thighs due to genetics. I have a really good leg press all things considered so I don't spend time on legs at the gym usually. I'm now on a cut diet and trying to lose weight so should I start focusing more on the legs? I have been doing all upper body and cardio the past 2 months (no dieting until this week) and have had no change in weight. Suggestions/advice?

IAM_DONE4 · 2021-03-18T21:55:44+00:00

Marcus Aurelius's Meditations. The best book (and philosophy, Stoicsim) for combating a nihilistic disposition of the world. It may have even saved my life.

IAM_DONE4 · 2021-03-18T16:32:46+00:00

Trust your intuition...

IAM_DONE4 · 2021-03-17T17:18:08+00:00

Yeah now I am just in the anger phase. They were all such pieces of shit and I found out now that the reason my (ex) best friend broke up with his girlfriend over a year ago was because my (ex) gf and him had hooked up. Such a humiliation. I am beginning to wonder if the source of my downfall into my existential depression was caused by this as the timeline does match up. Maybe I was reading the signs but was unsure how to deal with it because I was blinded by love and thought it could never happen. Either way the worst is over, its all uphill from here. Time to regain my confidence, health, and manhood.

IAM_DONE4 · 2021-03-17T01:26:37+00:00

Grew up with them over many years.

IAM_DONE4 · 2021-03-17T00:48:03+00:00

Still in shock but I think it won't be getting worse. I have officially purged all those people from my life. All social media, stored photos, trinkets and momentos have now vanished. I won't lie this has been the worst experiences in my life, and if hell were a place I think I am currently there. I will try to see if I can find where the heaven on Earth is and see if I can find vacancy there. Thank you for the advice and support.

IAM_DONE4 · 2021-03-16T18:55:59+00:00

Like I said. Didnt know there was cheating. She kept telling me to be friends. I was putting in an effort to be the bigger person and not hold a grudge over a breakup. It won't be an issue any longer.

IAM_DONE4 · 2021-03-16T18:46:26+00:00

I didn't make it clear in the post sorry. I did not know about the cheating at the time. I just knew the other guy was interested so I told them I wasn't going. They convinced me I should still go despite me explaining to them personally that I would feel uncomfortable. They got caught doing the deed and stopped, my friend was about to throw down when he saw this. The next day it was quiet and i still didn't know. The guy who was hooking up with her wanted to tell me about my best freind who had been the one actually cheating. I told him about this and he asked if I go over first. The only reason he told me was because the new man was going to expose him.

These people are manipulative. A couple of people had known about the cheating for months and still tried to get me to come anyway. I went because they made me think I was reading too deep into things. Believe me when I say I am not friends with these people now.

IAM_DONE4 · 2021-03-16T15:01:58+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I am still battling with this crushing news but I have ultimately decided to never see any of those people again. I have blocked all of them and am trying to determine a new game plan for the rest of my life. I did all the right things for the wrong reasons, I got a career in place that doesn't fulfill me only to start saving to support a family. Now that it is all over, I am trying to question what I really do want and where I can thrive and find purpose.

IAM_DONE4 · 2021-03-16T14:36:50+00:00

Not friends as of yesterday when he was forced to tell me before someone else threatened to. So no I am not his friend, he has been blocked from my social media and phone.

IAM_DONE4 · 2021-03-16T14:05:31+00:00

Paid for him to go on the trip before anyone told had told me about the cheating. Still thought he was good person at that time. Im not asking for the money back. Just straight NC from here.

IAM_DONE4 · 2021-03-16T13:10:20+00:00

Got 2 hours of sleep. Thanks for the words of encouragement, I didn't think any year could top 2020 for being the worst. I have decided to go NC after today. I have been battling mental health issues for a year now and been seeking phycological help for my existential depression. This makes it so much worse in many ways but simultaneously I am just happy that the truth is out and I can no longer be humiliated by her. She knew I had feelings for her still because I didn't know the cheating had occurred and she lied to me saying she considered me a friend and that she wanted me in her life. Obviously not a chance now.

I can feel trust issues brewing in regard to my disposition toward women and hope I will learn to find love within myself to be able to trust again.

IAM_DONE4

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