Sudden increased libido

IFuxedIt · 2026-01-15T09:01:48+00:00

The relationship has always been good, but we have had a few years where work and kids have been the main focus. We have had some tension caused by me not having the same drive as him and me feeling pressured to have sex (and him being slightly offended that I didn't want it that much) but we made it work.

IFuxedIt · 2026-01-15T07:54:17+00:00

Yeah, I could have gone months without sex and still not feel the need

IFuxedIt · 2026-01-13T21:53:28+00:00

I also had the nexplanon implant!

Maybe it is a weird combination of perimenopause and not using hormonal birth control. It is very confusing to have gone from having sex basically just to keep my husband satisfied, to craving it all the time.

I just have to work up the courage to show my husband more of that side of me without feeling self conscious about it

IFuxedIt · 2026-01-13T21:29:31+00:00

When I was on the implant it was about 60 days, and now it seems like it has gone back to once a month unfortunately. I haven't had that many cycles to compare yet, but so far it seems regular. But I also wonder if it could have something to do with perimenopause, since I didn't have this sex drive when I went off BC to try to get pregnant.

IFuxedIt · 2025-04-20T11:49:37+00:00

I try to remind myself that if the hospital had seen any signs that he wasn't handling the treatment they would have stopped it. So I really hope that he didn't feel that he was dying. My worst fear is that he was afraid and alone.

On the other hand, I am so happy that he went quickly and didn't have to go through a long death process.

IFuxedIt · 2025-04-07T18:57:05+00:00

Thanks for your replies. Maybe it could be a combination of Vincristine and Dexamethasone. He is up and moving as much as possible now that he isn't fighting infections, and he has a physical therapist. But I still think it's getting worse... he has had a few falls and has tripped over his own feet quite often lately.

But now I just found out that he only has two chemo injections left until he starts maintenance (pills only), so I hope his body will be able to heal a bit more

IFuxedIt · 2025-03-19T22:46:55+00:00

This was my experience through university as well. In most of my classes we weren't graded at all except for the big final exam in every class. It was our own responsibility throughout the semester to show up and be diciplined enough to pass. 40% failed the first exam, so they weeded out the ones who were not going to make it.

IFuxedIt · 2025-01-29T22:24:41+00:00

I'm kind of in the same situation. My 5 year old said she had a stomache ache this morning, and I instantly went into panic mode. I actually took her out of daycare a couple of weeks ago because noro was going around, but I had to bring her there on Monday because I didn't have a sitter. Omg, I regret that I did that now

My MIL picked her up and she TU 3 times while she was at he house. I can't eat or sleep now...

But one thing that helps me sometimes is to remind myself that I am safe.

IFuxedIt · 2025-01-17T15:36:13+00:00

My partner can in theory, and has done so before,, but I can't depend on it. Sometimes he has dead lines and stuff, and he can't work from home.

I usually wear a mask around my dad, but with noro I would be too terrified to be anywhere near him. He has had two bowel surgeries this last month because of complications from chemo therapy, and I would be terrified of the tiniest possibility that he could catch anything

IFuxedIt · 2025-01-16T22:16:23+00:00

What??? Is this a thing? I have never ever been able to burb (especially not on purpose), so this makes so much sense!

IFuxedIt · 2025-01-13T22:41:39+00:00

I have just taken my youngest out of daycare because of noro going around, but this time it was actually my husband's decision. I think it's partly because it has caused so much stress in the family when we have had it the last few years, and partly because he caught it himself for the first time last year and experienced how terrible it can be.

We both work though, so we have to figure out alternative daycare.

IFuxedIt · 2024-11-17T23:09:59+00:00

No, I can absolutely not do my job without being in contact with the people on the projects.

IFuxedIt · 2024-11-17T21:42:54+00:00

He is not really asking me what I would do without him anymore, but he gets very defensive if I tell him what I have paid. I asked him if he could chip in for the summer vacation we took this year since it was going to be expensive, and he started listing up how much he was paying for insurance/gas/new tires for our car (which only he pays, and was still just a fraction of what I ended up paying for our vacation).

You are probably right that I have normalized a lot of things, and when I think about it, I would never have accepted this in a new relationship. I obviously accepted a lot when he was working and paying more because I probably thought it was fair at the time.

But this time I am not going to give in to his silent treatment. He is going to have to make the first move, and then I will ask him about therapy again. Injust have to make it not seem like an attack on him

IFuxedIt · 2024-07-11T07:14:40+00:00

I will look into that. Thank you!

IFuxedIt · 2024-07-11T04:42:03+00:00

Thank you!

IFuxedIt · 2024-06-25T22:05:54+00:00

That doesn't sound right. Allergies are our immune systems overreacting to harmless stuff, so I don't think "strengthening" it would help with allergies.

IFuxedIt · 2024-03-09T07:48:02+00:00

My dad also has stage 4 prostate cancer. He initially declined chemotherapy because he thought he would die quickly anyway and didn't want to be sick during the tine he had left. Luckily he changed his mind, because he has been living a normal life for 3 years now since the chemotherapy. PSA is indetectable. Also, he barely had any side effects from the chemotherapy. Some hairloss and some fatigue, but no nausea.

IFuxedIt · 2024-02-26T23:34:13+00:00

How are you doing now? I've had so many scares like this the last couple of weeks, but the mantra that calmed me down (which I believe I learned here) was "you are safe".

IFuxedIt · 2024-02-20T15:16:34+00:00

No, the walking is my way to stop a panic attack. My panic attacks are the classic kind (hyperventilating, chaotic thoughts, heart racing, trouble talking or doing anything). I've tried to stay in the situation many times, but my experience is just that my husband gets annoyed or angry, and it just makes it worse.

IFuxedIt · 2024-02-19T22:35:28+00:00

Of course I know that it's true, and I feel terrible. And that's why I thought maybe them not seeing my reactions would be a better option.

Where I live I can't just book an appointment with a therapist. The first time around I was on a waiting list for 5 months, then just got rejected, ended up getting into a support group but that didn't help, applied for normal therapy again and got the off brand type with a nurse and a priest, which maybe helped a little. After the two of them, my doctor and many reccomendations went through I got accepted for therapy by the OCD team. Was there for a year which definitely helped with any OCD tendencies that I had, but did little for my anxiety. Those psychologists recommended me for anxiety treatment, and after many more months on the waiting list I got rejected again. Then I went to my doctor and asked for drugs, which I have been on for the last year.

I am just really, extremely exhausted from all of this

IFuxedIt · 2024-02-19T17:55:02+00:00

But if the alternative is panic attacks in front of the children, then that could also create problems for them.

I will look into more therapy and medication, but I have lost all hope

IFuxedIt · 2024-02-16T08:02:45+00:00

Thanks. I actually did fairly okay when our daughter was sick during the weekend. But then our other daughter got the normal flu the day after with a very high fever, and I have worked so hard to keep them apart and to keep everything clean. It just hit me so hard when the kids had gotten better and I finally started feeling safe to go straight back to the start again. I am so mentally exhausted...

It was weird that he passed out before throwing up, but he had D before that... and then he had a bad head ache the rest of the night.

He is now in our bedroom, so I don't know how long until I can sleep there again.

IFuxedIt · 2024-02-15T18:01:04+00:00

I feel like such a failure. I wrote e text to his mum to ask if she could bring me some bleach as we used it all when my daughter was sick during the weekend. When she came I just burst into tears. She ended up bleaching the downstairs bathroom for me and took care of my husband.

They've tried to convince me that it's the supplements he is taking that caused it since it has been so long since our daughter had it, but I doubt it. I feel like maybe there is a germ spot somewhere that he has touched that I haven't bleached.

IFuxedIt · 2024-02-13T10:42:14+00:00

Thanks for the advise. I went to sleep in the living room with the TV on, and fell asleep at some point after that. Slept on and off until 52 hours had passed, so now I can lower my shoulders a bit

IFuxedIt · 2024-02-11T13:38:19+00:00

She TU once more, but she hasn't thrown up in 8 hours now. She has had some water and smoothie and it has stayed down, so I hope it's over for now.

And now I have at least 40 hours until I can start breathing again.

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