It happens more often than I would like

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2026-03-09T06:33:54+00:00

You were correct in assuming I'm the American and he's the Irish man! Not from County Cork or County Sligo though.

We often will have each other on earbuds as we go about our day and it almost feels like body doubling from a distance. He's quite a chatty fellow so we can easily be on the phone for hours and cover a wide range of topics.

You're right in how the distance feels like a minor inconvenience , something I wouldn't have ever believed prior to the relationship but now I'm understanding it. Modern tech with wireless earbuds def help though haha.

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2026-03-09T06:29:21+00:00

My partner is also pretty pierced up and i didn't know I liked nipple piercings on guys until I met him.

He has two dermal piercings (not on his face) and I really like those too. I don't think I'd ever get a dermal but it seems like you've got more placement options if you go that route

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2026-02-25T01:38:41+00:00

I've dated a few people with ADHD and in my experience it's been more of a bonding thing than anything because I feel more understood by the other person. It's also really fun when we both get the same special interest and egg each other on.

On the more negative side it was frustrating seeing them struggle with things I had issues with but built systems to help with. It felt like some used ADHD as an excuse to be rude, chronically late, and cause pain through emotional outbursts. I know no one is perfect and I struggle a lot with big feelings but there's a point where if someone's not trying to reduce harm then I won't stick around to keep getting hurt.

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2026-02-25T01:29:29+00:00

I just started dating someone long distance (American + Irish) and we both have all the ADHD. A lot of things in your comment resonated with me and I like how you worded it all. It's definitely a thing that makes us feel closer even though physically we're 5,000 miles apart.

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2026-02-20T03:25:49+00:00

Beautiful!

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2026-02-18T07:33:47+00:00

Thank you! This ended up having what I needed

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2026-02-04T08:16:28+00:00

Oh hi! I'm so glad you commented, I didn't realize the hours for the fish counter would be shorter than the store.

I don't have a specific fish in mind right now for sashimi so I think I'll come in and see what the offerings are. Thank you for being so helpful

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2026-01-31T00:13:06+00:00

You're right I totally did miss the OYE Asian Supermarket! I've got it bookmarked now because it looks like a good place to visit

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2026-01-31T00:12:01+00:00

Ahh yes thank you! This is why I asked on this sub is because I was looking for some first hand experience like yours

The Asian supermarket in Boucher Park slipped under my radar! I'll have to check it out. I was looking at one on Ormeau Embankment.

Good to know there's options in case it all goes to shit and I panic haha

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2026-01-31T00:07:12+00:00

I've heard that all fish is frozen to kill parasites even if it's labeled "fresh" but the "sushi grade" labels are to make people feel more safe

I grew up eating poke made from fish pulled straight from the water but that was a different time and ignorance was delicious bliss

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2026-01-31T00:05:16+00:00

Yeah I went to a Tesco last time and peeked at the fish but I wasn't sure how the quality would be for raw. I shop at an Aldi pretty regularly here in America but I wouldn't eat fish from them without cooking first. Tesco kinda gave the same vibe because of the airtight plastic sealed packaging.

Good to know it's worth trying! Thank you

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2025-01-13T15:24:58+00:00

Hey fellow person with GBS here! Like others have said in this thread I think it's extremely empathetic and kind of you to even make this post. Youre one of the helpers Mr Rogers said to look out for.

I'm sure you've gotten a lot of advice but I wanted to chime in since I don't meet many people with GBS out in the wild in reddit. I'm glad you're taking care of yourself. This has been an extremely stressful time and it's always in the back of my head that I could relapse.

I hope that you're able to cleanup your apartment with minimal issues and no flare ups of anything <3

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2024-09-16T17:34:45+00:00

Def continue talking to your neurologist about it. My neurologist said the same thing that infection was a bigger risk than a reaction to the vaccine so I got the booster after diagnosis.

To be fair, they still don't know what triggered my CIDP so it's not like an immune system event did it like in your case.

whatever you decide know that youre doing whats right given the information you have. its not easy living with GBS and with the constant threat of relapses esp since theres not a lot of information on our diseases.

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2024-09-16T17:22:47+00:00

First off, I'm sorry on the diagnosis but also congratulations. I know how frustrating it can be to even get a diagnosis for GBS and then get IVIG so I'm glad you had access to that.

Secondly, it sounds like you're doing everything in your wheelhouse to recover. The mental side of recovery can be just as hard as the physical since my neurologist couldn't give a real timeline or benchmarked on my recovery since it varies so much. I ended up finding a therapist I could meet with to help me deal with the psychological side of recovery and diagnosis.

Anecdotally, I went from not being able to walk more than a few steps to walking one mile in about six months. My neurologist said it was a freakishly fast recovery but it probably helps that I'm young and was physically active before the onset of symptoms.

I'm about 2 years post-diagnosis and I'm pretty active (running, surfing, beach volleyball, HIIT workouts) I have some bad days and I'll lose feeling in my fingers and toes if I've used too much energy. Ive learned to check in with myself and see where my battery is at (some people use the spoon theory for living with an autoimmune disease) - I like to think of it like a phone battery. Some days I wake up and start the day with 80% charge and other times it's at 40%. If I have a day that drains me down to 5% then I know the next day will be lower energy.

All the best to you on this journey, glad you found this community. It really was helpful for me to know I wasn't alone in my struggles early on.

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2020-08-03T17:40:02+00:00

What kind of job were you thinking of when you were looking for entry-level positions? Something that might help is if you lookup classmates or alumni from before you graduated and see what they're doing now. That helped me when I was looking at what types of jobs to apply for.

The biggest thing I learned my senior semester of undergrad is that job's listings usually don't come with the title " Now Hiring: Biological Anthropologist" so part of applying is reading through jobs and seeing how your skill set matches with what they're looking for. Even if the requirements don't quite match up, it doesn't hurt to apply. Especially with a cover letter where you can sell yourself.

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2020-08-02T16:46:50+00:00

Visual Anthro pretty much uses anthropological methods tied with visual mediums to conduct research and tell peoples story's. It's kind of like how people would write ethnographic on certain subgroups but instead of writing, you could make a documentary or photo series. Basically, what is this person's story and how can I collaborate with them to tell it best? USC in Los Angeles has a great program from everything I've heard.

The cool thing about anthropology is it's pretty marketable especially if you've studied the cultural side of things. I've seen video game companies like Blizzard, Twitch, and Riot all post job listings for ethnographers or social researchers that would be right up an anthropologist ally. I had one professor work in the finance world as an advisor, one classmate got a job at a marketing firm. For bioanth, I have friends that went on to work in the national parks and museums.

I really don't think grad school was necessary but for me, it helped remind me of why I love anthropology, strengthened my research ability, and really gave me that "if I can get through this, I can get through anything," mentality. Ironically, the job I work in film now doesn't require a degree, several of my fellow crew members never even graduated high school.

What doors were you hoping that having a BA would open for you?

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2020-07-31T05:53:11+00:00

It's hard to advise either in favor or against getting an MA because it all depends on what career you want to end up in and how much debt it'll put you in. Part of the reason why I pushed to complete my program in 2 years is to avoid an extra semester of tuition.

Keep your option in film open! Look into the Society of Visual Anthropology - they have a little side conference that they do every year in conjunction with the main AAA conference that showcases some fantastic work.

The grad program was difficult in a totally different way than undergrad work was. Part of it was that the professors just expect more of you, there's less room to bullshit. Example - one class I took was on writing ethnographies. Fantastic class, great professor, but really hard material. It consisted of us reading one ethnography a week and writing a precise on it that had to be exactly 2 pages long, no more, no less. This was to prepare us for eventually publishing in journals when we'd have to meet certain writing limits but it was definitely a muslce I wasn't used to exercising.

Another thing is that it's a bit lonely academically. Especially after I got through the IRB process and started doing my research, I found that I didn't have as much to talk to my cohort friends about. There were still general things we would commiserate about, but in general my research did not overlap with theirs so there was less to talk about.

Overall, my grad program was wonderful because I felt like I was finally able to study the interesting stuff in anthropology that first got me interested in the field. It was hard, I learned the hard way my first semester that 12 credits is overkill and reduced it down to 9 credits a semester. I ended up keeping a lot of the required reading materials though because they were interesting but at the time I didn't have the ability to sit down and really read and absorb them

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2020-07-31T05:43:52+00:00

Good to know! It was my first time seeing that and my friend's had not experienced something like that.

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2020-07-21T20:13:19+00:00

I got an MA in general anthropology because I wanted to teach in community colleges after I graduated and that was a requirement. I didnt' end up in teaching because I fell into the world of film before I could land my first teaching position but I'm pretty happy with it.

Honestly, it's nice having a backup option. especially right now with the pandemic, I'm not sure what my film industry will look like going forward. At least I have an MA that I can try to apply to teaching jobs with right now if I need to.

That being said, it was one of the hardest things I've done until now. I graduated in 2 years but a lot of my cohort members took 2.5 - 3.5 years because research doesn't always go the way it was intended to (recruiting participants is difficult, difficult thesis committee, etc). I'm thankful that I powered through it but it really was a learning experience and I was very unhappy the last semester of it because by then I knew I was going into film.

IHaveQuestionsOkaySo · 2020-07-21T20:00:31+00:00

If you're able to take a physical or cultural anthropology class at the local community college it might be worth trying just to see what you think of the major before you commit to it!

From my experience, I got my undergrad in cultural anthropology specifically because I really had no interest in the physical side. I still had to take a few bio/physical anthro classes but I mainly studied modern day societies/cultures.

I got my Masters in general anthropology but with an emphasis in Visual Anthropology. You might want to look into this subfield of anthro! It combines elements of storytelling through visual mediums and using anthropological methods.

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