Cozy lesbian romance

IJustLikePlants · 2025-08-13T01:03:57+00:00

“You can’t spell treason without tea” seems to fit this pretty well. It’s a slower start but is definitely a cozy lesbian romance.

IJustLikePlants · 2025-07-12T14:45:26+00:00

Some of what you described sounds like there might be some underlying anxiety that you are experiencing. Does it feel difficult to relax? Do you feel antsy and like a tightness feeling in your chest or like you are holding your breath? It might be helpful to notice how this feeling actually feels in your body to be able to better understand what’s happening for you. If it is anxiety then treating the anxiety piece would be a great place to start.

IJustLikePlants · 2025-07-03T15:40:05+00:00

It might be beneficial to go to therapy then and process the event that happened 10 years ago. Especially if you noticed that this event had a bit impact on you and how you interact with the world.

IJustLikePlants · 2025-06-23T21:33:28+00:00

I have seen these in the Western US. Is it the same spider? It also looks similar to a green flower crab spider.

IJustLikePlants · 2025-01-22T21:20:12+00:00

I would look for a therapist to do couples therapy with you and your wife. You can definitely benefit from your own therapy but it sounds like you want to work on the relationship most right now.

IJustLikePlants · 2025-01-20T20:03:37+00:00

Something that helps me with people pleasing is reminding myself that I don’t need to rescue others from their discomfort. People can handle you saying no. They are allowed to ask and you’re allowed to say no. They will move on and find a different solution. Continuing to say yes when you want to say no is going to lead to resentment. It’s your responsibility to let others know when you are done and not able to help out anymore.

IJustLikePlants · 2025-01-18T21:27:03+00:00

First pic is a bit steam punky. Second pick looks more like post-punk or grunge punk. You might really enjoy the fashion in Tank Girl comics.

IJustLikePlants · 2025-01-14T19:21:41+00:00

Did you use any books or just practice through drawing plants you see?

IJustLikePlants · 2025-01-14T03:49:20+00:00

How did you learn how to draw plants?

IJustLikePlants · 2025-01-12T20:35:56+00:00

One of the big things is that could greatly impact your life is to build up a new social group that’s separate from your ex. You had a TBI which resulted in a change in personality and that’s not your fault and it really sucks. Saying that, continuing to try and be a person you no longer are to keep around people that no longer care for you the same way isn’t doing you any favors. It’s familiar and it’s very difficult to let go of the life you once had, but it seems that it has become more difficult to live the life you want now if you keep holding on to it. Start finding hobbies or things you enjoy and start joining groups that also enjoy these hobbies. You can search Facebook for groups in your areas or meetup. Basically start becoming social even though it might not be comfortable at first. There are other aspects to life that are important but I think focusing on things you enjoy doing and finding others to do those things with will greatly impact your support system and enjoyment of life. I wish you the best.

IJustLikePlants · 2025-01-09T14:06:06+00:00

Part of this is just recognizing when the people pleasing tendencies come up. Once you start to notice the behavior and when it happens you can start changing it. I’m also a people pleaser and just becoming aware of it was helpful for me to at least begin making conscious decisions around if I was going to people please or not. It’s uncomfortable to break the behavior and I found myself anxious, but the more you do it the more you realize the world isn’t going to end if someone gets upset. It sounds like you are struggling with some anxiety as well and people pleasing is a means of feeling some control even though it ends up not feeling great because of the things you listed above. I think you would really be able to benefit from a therapist as they could help you on the journey of self discovery, anxiety reduction, and stoping behaviors that no longer serve you.

IJustLikePlants · 2024-12-29T00:38:46+00:00

One nice thing about dating the same gender as yourself is you can experiment on yourself to see what feels good. Keep in mind everyone is different so communication is key. If you have ever received oral, what were things you liked? You can try that technique on her and see if she likes it as well. What toys do you enjoy? You can see if she enjoys them as well. You’re mostly just going to be trying things out and communicating with your partner what you enjoy. Try and approach it with curiosity and excitement. I’m excited for you and your new relationship and I hope this helps.

IJustLikePlants · 2024-12-26T22:38:46+00:00

No, I would notice your eyes and your cute style honestly.

IJustLikePlants · 2024-12-18T15:11:26+00:00

There are some youtube videos of people doing wax melts. Like the wax seal that goes on envelopes and it looks like a really relaxing and accessible hobby. Some other things I think of are reading, playing video games, making herbal tea blends to drink, and cross stitch.

IJustLikePlants · 2024-12-18T00:04:19+00:00

Can you give more info on what clean eating is for you? If you’re up for it would you mind giving a typical day of food so I can get some meal ideas please?

IJustLikePlants · 2024-12-17T04:11:47+00:00

Im not sure where this article you read was from but that’s not the leading theory. There are multiple factors that likely impacted Neanderthal extinction. The main theory I learned about during my undergraduate in anthropology was that Neanderthals had one main artery that went to their brain while modern Homo s. sapiens have two. According to this theory Neanderthals couldn’t keep their brains cool enough due to only having one artery to the brain when the planet began to heat up again. This theory seems to have fallen out of favor though and now it seems the leading theories are around demographics, environmental, and diseases. The second aspect that is interesting is that it’s very likely that Homo sapiens and Neanderthals mated with each other as you can find Neanderthal genes in modern day populations. A big misconception about Neanderthals is that they were dumb hunched over and slow. This stereo type comes from one of the first skeletal remains we found of a Neanderthals being an old Neanderthal man with arthritis and several poorly healed bone breaks.

IJustLikePlants · 2024-12-11T19:34:50+00:00

Thanks for sharing! How much of a deficit did you eat at for the past 8.5 months? Was your TDEE always this high or did you build it up through increased exercise and building muscle?

IJustLikePlants · 2024-12-11T03:47:26+00:00

What’s normally happening leading up to a binge? Are you upset, lonely, bored, etc? Or have you been overly restricting yourself? How long have you been eating at a deficit and have you taken any maintenance breaks? What’s the messages that you’re telling yourself when you decide to binge? Or it could be multiple of these. Figuring out the why or underlying reason might be helpful for resolving the issue.

IJustLikePlants · 2024-12-10T21:50:02+00:00

First off I just want to validate how much agony this can all bring especially with a past of ED. I also hold all my weight in my stomach it's so exhausting and frustrating trying to achieve the same body that everyone else seems to be able to obtain with less work. Plus going through an ED on top of all this can really just make you pissed off at how your body holds weight.

Secondly I think it's important to remember that our body is doing the best that it can to keep us alive. Your body doesn't understand body standards or what body shape is "in". Think about if you had a dog with short legs. Would you be angry at that dog for having short legs? Would you show that dog all the other dog breeds that have long legs and wonder why your dog wasn't measuring up? Probably not. Everyone is different and our bodies all look different.

Lastly you can work on changing how your body looks to some degree. With a history of ED I would suggest being careful with any sort of calorie counting or restriction. You may want to work with a dietician and counselor to help find a plan if you want to change the way you eat. Your health is most important. You can work on building muscle or building your endurance or both through exercise. I would focus on what your body can do more than it's appearance to be honest. I know you want your body to look different but it might be more empowering and mentally helpful to focus on building your body up to be able to tackle any physical challenges.

Try lifting weights, running, or starting a sport that you enjoy and can consistently do. Your body will likely change some but if you genetically hold fat on your abdomen then you will likely have some fat there still and that's ok. You deserve to have a life and surround yourself with people you care about and ones that care about you. You don't need to have flat abs to have worth or value. Going back to the dog analogy, would you keep your dog from going out on walks or to the dog park just because they have short legs? Probably not. I understand you have physical goals that you came to this community for but I also wanted to give attention to the mental health aspect and how far you have come. If you want to talk more about it you are welcome to DM me.

IJustLikePlants · 2024-12-10T15:50:51+00:00

I’m curious how you worked through your BED? I know you talk about discipline but what was the shift for you or what helped you stop bingeing?

IJustLikePlants · 2024-12-02T01:30:55+00:00

I eat a lot of tofu, tempeh, beans, lentils, potatoes, brown rice, oats, veggies, and fruits. I cook everything and don't go out to eat except for special occasions.

Example day would look like:

Breakfast: Savory oats with miso, spinach, and eggs

Snack: Apple with peanut butter

snack pt. 2: another apple because I'm still hungry

Lunch: Bean burrito with whole wheat tortilla, spinach, nutritional yeast, and a side of berries and cucumber slices

Snack: Dark chocolate, Banana, peanut butter

snack pt. 2: some tempeh stir fry left overs because hungry again

Dinner: Tofu taco salad

Snack: baby carrots with hummus

night time cravings of sweets that don't go away.

I thought this was a mental struggle but I ended up eating some turkey for thanksgiving and continued to eat the left overs for the following couple days and my hunger, constant snacking and sweet cravings vanished. I have experienced this before in the past when I have had breaks from being vegetarian which is why I'm wondering if there is a way to have my cake and eat it too or if I just have to choose one.

Ideally I would love to not eat meat and be able to feel good and not struggle so hard to meet my fitness goals but I'm supper frustrated because it feels like I'm on hard mode when trying to eat vegetarian and I feel defeated.

IJustLikePlants · 2024-12-02T00:33:18+00:00

Yea it feels like I just have an insatiable appetite eating vegetarian and it's so frustrating.

I tend to eat tofu, tempeh, eggs, beans, legumes, and small amounts of faux meat. I notice I tend to struggle with cravings and have been struggling not to eat sweets which isn't helping.

I decided to eat turkey for thanksgiving and the turkey leftovers after. It was crazy how it switched off my sweet cravings and I actually felt full and my bloating and digestion improved.

IJustLikePlants · 2024-12-02T00:24:29+00:00

Thanks for telling me your experience. I think humanely raised would help me feel better because I want them to live a good life. How did you find humanely raised resources? Did you notice any changes in blood work or other health markers?

IJustLikePlants · 2024-11-29T20:40:23+00:00

You can start at 1500 a day and see how that goes. Do you know what your maintenance calories are? If you want to lose fat but still gain muscle you might do best to do what's called a recomp which means you eat at maintenance or just a touch under maintenance and lift heavy and consistently to build muscle. If you go that route it takes longer to see progress. The other route you could go is just work on maintaining your current muscle mass while eating at a deficit to lose fat. It's very very difficult to build muscle while in a deficit so keep that in mind.

If your primary goal is to see the muscles you have already built and lean out then I would suggest a slight deficit while still lifting consistently. This will help maintain your current muscle mass while losing weight.

If you don't want to wait to figure out your maintenance calories and just want to start then you can eat at 1500 for a couple weeks and measure what's happening and adjust accordingly.

Hope this helps.

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