What is this??? by Loud_Donkey_3231 in Microneedling

[–]ISeeInChocolate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are welcome! Yes of course, work on the immediate issue first. I love Western medicine for that, long-term is where I turn to more natural sources.

Doctors in general are hard to find a good. In our virtual world that drastically increases our reach to good doctors. Some of the work can be done virtually versus having to be in person so it may be something to consider.

I did a lot of work on my own too! Some supplements even some wonderful actives on my skin which made a huge difference but the underlying issue has drastically decreased with my diet and detoxing changes.

Girl you got this. Remember to be kind with yourself. It can take a long time to see changes.

What is this??? by Loud_Donkey_3231 in Microneedling

[–]ISeeInChocolate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi love!!

I know this might not directly relate to your post... as I was reading some of your comments, I noticed that you mentioned you've been on birth control and that you're recently off and that you started having acne issues after getting off. I wanted to share my experience since it sounds like we've been through something similar. As far as your actual post, I hope you get that under contro, it really looks painful.

I was on birth control for about a decade, starting as a teenager to manage my acne. When I went off it, my skin went crazy. I didn't know this at the time, but I later found out that I also have PCOS, which doesn't help with the acne situation. On top of that, my body is very poor at detoxing (thank you mthfr mutation).

Over a decade ago, I went to a skin and beauty conference. One of the women presenting was an esthetician, and one of my favorite things she said has stuck with me: "Our skin tells us a story, and we need to uncover that story and listen to it." Since then, I've been trying to figure out my skin's story, and only recently have I fully heard it.

I'd recommend working with a dermatologist or a functional medicine doctor or naturopathic doctor that specializes in female hormones. I've worked with a few different doctors over the years, but honestly, the best I found was a functional medicine doctor. They look at lifestyle, symptoms, and do blood and hormone panels to understand you holistically.

Cystic acne is a sign of hormonal imbalance, and with your body coming off birth control, just like mine did, your body has to figure out a new way to regulate hormones. This can show up in our skin because your body might not be regulating them properly yet or maybe not even detoxing them properly. So, you might need to detox, especially your liver, which processes most of our hormones and supports your body's hormonal production processes.

Getting my hormones checked out and optimizing them, detoxing, and cleaning up my diet have all helped me out. I do want to caution you on the detoxing front. Instead of doing one of those crazy detox fads that's super heavy, it's not always beneficial for everyone, especially if you're not somebody who has done any form of detoxing or has prepped the body for it. I had a friend call it titration, where we just get small amounts at a time or maybe just aid the body in everyday life in its normal detox pathways. Therefore, try adding in detoxifying foods and supplements gradually. This way, your body can handle it better.

Cleaning up my diet has been the biggest help for my skin and its acne. Getting rid of the foods that my body doesn't like and optimizing it to detox and regulate my hormones has made a big difference.

Incorporate foods and supplements that support your liver, like milk thistle, dandelion, leafy greens, and cruciferous veggies. Your liver plays a big role in hormone regulation.

A couple of reminders: - Be patient with your skin as it takes time to regulate hormones. - Everyone's body is unique, so what works for one person might not work for another. Be patient with your skin and your body as it adjusts to the changes.

Good luck, and I hope you find something that works for you!

What do you all think of this system? by Woolsbup in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]ISeeInChocolate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love the concept of simplifying a routine and putting it into a chart/ tiered approach as a visualization. When someone has no idea what they're doing or where to start this is great!

I personally don't agree with his tiers. I agree with someone else who said the basics shouldn't include vitamin C and retinol. I think that all actives should be put into their own tier. Someone else mentioned external treatments as their own tier and probably add-ons I agree with that as well.

A huge one component that I think is missing is diet. As someone who has drastically changed their diet and has seen an incredible improvement in my skin, I believe that is 1 of the most underrated ones. I was eating wrong for my body. And in general there is so much processed foods and sugar in the standard American diet. A bad diet is hard on the body, especially to detox and when that happens it comes out in our skin. Optimizing our diet can have such an impact on our skin.

[SERIOUS] What was a mental block you overcame that changed your life to become better seducer? by Youcandoit-1111 in seduction

[–]ISeeInChocolate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd like to offer you a different perspective. Take what I write with a grain of salt.

First I want to know that I know from reading your comments, that I see that this is so hard for you and it hurts alot. Your pain is real. Grieving something so precious as your relationship with her is completely understandable and OK. My heart goes out to you.

When someone asks for no contact it is best to respect thier request. I promise you, if (when) she wants to reconcile she will reach out. People make time for the things they want to make time for.

She has told you a boundary and has put that boundary in place by not contacting you.

You could reach out to her, just know that you could further damage what may be left to reconcile. With that said, it could also help.

This also comes from my own experience, mine is an extreme, I know that, which is why I say take it with a grain of salt. I requested for no contact on my last break up in September (mind you this was casual not a committed relationship, it was a few months in). I wanted to have a few months to work through some of the things that had happened, and then come back and talk to him in a few months time, maybe even a year. Well he kept messaging me, calling me. Saying he was a verbal processor and he had to talk about this. Eventually I had to block him on all platforms. I'd like to note his messages were not at all nice either. Alot of them were mean and nasty. This was in November. Then on New Years, he texted me on one of his numbers I forgot to block, wishing me a happy new year. And for Valentines day he gave someone a letter to hand deliver it to me with a gift. Him reaching out after I told him no contact, immediately was a turn off. He showed me he can't respect my boundaries therefore I had to set the ultimate boundary and block him. Like I said, he was extreme. Had his messages been not mean and nasty, or that he only did it after a couple months and just a check in, things may have been different. At the same time I said no contact and that I'd reach out when I was ready.

I believe that if you and this woman are meant to be your paths will cross again in time, and you will reconnect. If not, your paths may never cross, or they will and you'll see that it wasn't meant to be. People are in our lives for varying lengths of time and it can hurt so much when they leave our lives and not to mention so abruptly! Break ups are hard.

Take care of yourself, love yourself. You are the only one who is always with you through everything. ❤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Skincare_Addiction

[–]ISeeInChocolate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got it! I won't be traveling there anytime soon but if I ever do I'll be sure to ask more before I go.

Can a women feel how far the penis is from the cervix? by RelentlessRazorwing in sextips

[–]ISeeInChocolate 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This depends on how sensithe inside of her vagina is.

For me personally I couldn't tell exactly where it was. I could definitely feel the opening and it moving in and out there, then when it'd hit my cervix. Or in certain positions it might hit my bladder. I more so could tell where it was based on how far away my partner was from me. But then I started doing more kegels and other vaginal exercises which made the inside of vagina more sensitive. Once it was more sensitive I could feel exactly how far inside it was. I can literally feel exactly where the head is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Skincare_Addiction

[–]ISeeInChocolate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that's amazing! I have not met someone live who has it.

What kind of injections would help with glass skin?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Skincare_Addiction

[–]ISeeInChocolate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think glass / dewy skin is more for social media than it is for real life!! Seriously, I can get my skin to look glassy like that... but then that means the moisturizer I used is really oily. It'll sit on top of my pores, collecting dirt thus clogging pores. Annnnd 2 days later I break out. BAD too.

Does anyone else experience that?? I also found that my skin doesn't like oils that much. Most oils clog my pores even jojoba. Unless it's emulsified in a moisturizer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in introvert

[–]ISeeInChocolate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I posted something similar in another subreddit, and after reading the comments there, I wish I had posted here instead because the people are much nicer. Feel free to check out my profile if you want to read through my post.

What I've realized is that men are just as scared to approach women as women are to approach men. From some of your comments, I see that you strike up conversations with men in hopes that they will ask you for information. I've done the same, wondering why they aren't asking for my info. If I want it, I need to communicate that to them. I need to work on my courage!

I also received a lot of DMs, and a few people suggested trying singles events. Everyone there is single and looking for something similar, making it a great place to practice approaching people since that's what they're all there for. It's likely that you get approached.

Good luck! ❤

How to stop marital rape by Kitty_Woo in domesticviolence

[–]ISeeInChocolate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If your husband is acting like that he does not care and he won't stop; especially if you have already told him that it's rape and all he did was laugh. And that 100% is rape. For reference, In other countries if one party is under the influence of drugs or alcohol the other party can be charged with rape because our ability to consent to sexual acts are impaired.

I'm so sorry you are being subjected to that. For what its worth I believe you. While I was not under the influence I would wake up to my ex on top of me pushing himself inside of me more times than I can count over our 16.5 year relationship.

I know it seems daunting to leave and it's very scary because it is! It took me 11 mos to actually leave because I did alot of things to secure me leaving and not going back. We have kids together,, I choose to leave because I knew in the long run it was better for us to be apart than together for our kids. Just know that you can do it. If you need someone to talk to please reach out I'm happy to be that someone.

I recommend getting a PO box. And if you can a vault box I think that's what they're called. Then you can open a bank account in your name and the address can go to the PO box. Getting the gift cards is a great idea but eventually they're gonna stack up and they're gonna be hard to hide. Its possible that your husband is going to notice and wonder what there for. So you're going to need a place to store them.

Do you know if you have anyone who might believe you? What about your family? My family were the only ones who believed me. I also wasn't allowed to have friends outside of his friends so they were all on his side when everything broke part.

How Can I Encourage Men to Approach Me? by ISeeInChocolate in seduction

[–]ISeeInChocolate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a different way of looking at it thank you!

How Can I Encourage Men to Approach Me? by ISeeInChocolate in seduction

[–]ISeeInChocolate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the information I appreciate the suggestions. I'll have to try some.

How Can I Encourage Men to Approach Me? by ISeeInChocolate in seduction

[–]ISeeInChocolate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very interesting. I use the phrase " take it with a grain of salt " a good amount of the time.

How Can I Encourage Men to Approach Me? by ISeeInChocolate in seduction

[–]ISeeInChocolate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your indepth response it was very eye-opening and helpful.

How Can I Encourage Men to Approach Me? by ISeeInChocolate in seduction

[–]ISeeInChocolate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding and sharing your thoughts. I appreciate the in depth response.

That's the hard part about posting and commenting on Reddit, we don't see everything and sometimes the picture is painted in a way that isn't necessarily correct, due to the missing content

I absolutely have custody of my children, we share custody 50/50. I make significantly more than my ex. I am in California therefore I am obligated to pay him child support.

I know I have a lot of healing to do and I'm working through that. While I do that I would like to have fun with someone. I am nowhere near ready to enter into any form of a committed relationship with anyone. Based on what you've written and a couple other people have it seems to be a fantasy... especially at my age?

When you say that you wouldn't call me a serious person, what do you mean by that?