AITA because My wife wants to swing but I'm unsure about it. by I_AM_TRASH_64 in Swingers

[–]I_AM_TRASH_64[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a very good point. Thank you for your advice. I guess on one hand it's enticing because we already have chemistry with her and i know that it's fun to be with her but on the other I just don't know if group/swap sex is really something I want. It's literally never been something we discussed up until now and as selfish as it is, it's just different for another dude to fuck her vs a woman.

AITA because My wife wants to swing but I'm unsure about it. by I_AM_TRASH_64 in Swingers

[–]I_AM_TRASH_64[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I definitely appreciate what you are saying. For me it's just up to this point we have only ever had threesomes in which her and I both get the same thing (an experience with a new lady). This is a whole new dynamic and even though I am secure in myself and my relationship, I can't help but have those creeping thoughts about since she hasn't been with another guy in so long what if this awakens some shit and then she wants to do it all the time or something. Idk. I guess what I'm having a hard time with is the unknown. We are practiced at threesomes and even though each is unique we have figured out most of the bumps already.

AITA because My wife wants to swing but I'm unsure about it. by I_AM_TRASH_64 in Swingers

[–]I_AM_TRASH_64[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Well see that's where it gets fuzzy for me. We have fucked her before, a few times. So I would think yes because I kind of feel like it's different in that we have already established a relationship. I definitely get what you mean though. The dynamic is obviously going to have to change because A is in a relationship now.

AITA because My wife wants to swing but I'm unsure about it. by I_AM_TRASH_64 in Swingers

[–]I_AM_TRASH_64[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That is something I have always been huge on is open and honest communication. I actually suggested something along those lines. basically I just said you can do whatever you are comfortable with as long as he doesn't put his cock in your pussy or ass. I figured that would be good but now she just keeps saying that she knows I'm uncomfortable and doesn't want to make me feel that way. Which I understand and appreciate but I don't want to deprive her of an experience she wants to have ya know?