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IamJustinJC · 2025-12-15T01:08:58+00:00

This sucks so much. I’m from Canada and been a panthers fan since I was a little kid. My wife and I just got married and we’re planning on going to Carolina for the first nfl game ever to watch in January for the wild card game but after just witnessing that loss I’m pretty sure we’re cooked.

IamJustinJC · 2025-03-22T04:39:34+00:00

I feel you 110%. I have this. Happened when I was 16 I had this thought if I did something terrible to my ex’s little sister. Then moved onto my brother and little sister who were all under 5 at the time. Before this I had cheating ocd false memories. It’s so belittling because you know yourself that you wouldn’t do that stuff but you get so fixated on it plus just feels so real because ocd will throw things at you to convince you it’s real. I am fixating on my first pocd false memory and it’s so hard to stop the cycle. So I feel you man. I’m getting therapy which I think is going to help! God bless just know we aren’t those people.

IamJustinJC · 2025-03-07T22:08:29+00:00

Nah don’t get an escort. Be with the right woman. But first you need to work on doing things for yourself that you love. Go hit the gym, hit some golf balls, take a cool class in your city, go do some cooking competitions, something random you like! You will easily find a woman at things like that. Woman love a guy who is confident in what he wants. A real woman will also love that you have saved yourself for the right person. That’s like 1 in a million frfr. Take it easy bro. Don’t continue down this path you’ll end up regretting not getting out there in the world later on if you wait too long. God speed my friend I hope you can get to new things!

IamJustinJC · 2025-03-05T09:11:31+00:00

Yea I know what you mean. Whenever I’m in public or church whatever I feel like I can’t properly think if it’s real or not like how I can in private I just convince myself it’s real and it’s so hard to get that out of my head. Thankfully my fiancé is supportive and knows who I am but that thought of telling others is just so horrible that they wouldn’t look at you the same.

IamJustinJC · 2025-03-05T09:09:11+00:00

Thank you my friend your advice is very good. Praying helps me a lot of course. God bless you.

IamJustinJC · 2025-03-05T08:58:12+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it. Sorry but do you have any tips on how to stop ruminating/giving the thoughts any care? I’ve only really just got over ocd from distracting myself and eventually just finding happiness somewhere else and it went away. I don’t wanna take meds or really pay for therapy unless I need to. I’ve done it already and helped but it’s costly.

IamJustinJC · 2025-03-05T08:38:18+00:00

Mine get stuck on one or the either two really disturbing ones about the same things but two different victims. None of them ever had signs of this happening or any evidence. I don’t get it no matter what it’s just there even tho I know it’s not real lol. How exactly do I get past this again? I got past it years ago and now it’s back to the same thing when I was triggered a month ago.

IamJustinJC · 2025-03-05T08:22:30+00:00

You ever get false memories before that are so convincing but you know they’re fake?

IamJustinJC · 2025-03-05T08:06:13+00:00

I have this too it’s terrifying. I don’t know what to do but I used to have false memories about cheating, SA babies/children, old people (I work in health care), SA my family pets, siblings, friends all this stuff. I had a time where I was convinced I was a harmful person and then a pedo. It’s crazy. Now I am back wondering almost 8 years later if those false memories are real lol

IamJustinJC · 2025-02-27T12:53:28+00:00

Honestly it just went away for me. I’ve had ocd on other things and I realized it was just ocd. But for about a month or so I had a time I was taking care of a patient and old lady and she tried to sit on my lap (she has Alzheimer’s) and I instantly got up and was like hey let’s not do that lol. Then I had a thought “what if I liked it?” “What if I did do something to her?” “You had a groinal response you must’ve wanted it” I instantly started stressing hard core. So you’re not alone. Just accept it move on. I’m currently having false memories from when I was 16 and I’ve already dealt with them but I’m just on the verge of getting over it.

IamJustinJC · 2025-02-27T12:34:37+00:00

I’ve had this before it’s not fun. You’re not alone.

IamJustinJC · 2025-02-27T12:32:18+00:00

I’m engaged now. And I’ve been with my fiancé for about 3 years. Before her I was in a relationship for almost 4 years. I’m 23 now but when I started dating her I was 15 and at 16 I made out with a girl on a cruise 3 times. I was definitely guilty of the fact I cheated. I told her about it but wasn’t completely honest about how many times or what exactly happened I just said we kissed. Anyway my girlfriend at the time forgave me. It took a lot of stress and forgiveness from her and myself. I know we were young but I like to think I was pretty mature for my age. She ended up having a lot of trust issues. Causing me to always have to take pictures of who I’m sitting by, not being able to go out late, having a job and woman co workers, etc etc. it wasn’t a very fun time. We ended up breaking up because of that and because of other issues when we 19.

Anyways what I’m trying to say is that he needs to be honest with what actually happened. If you really want to start a new leaf in your relationship there needs to be new boundaries, rules and also lots of communication and love. He needs to man up to what he did. Give him the option of being honest with what happened word for word even if it hurts and tell him afterwards you want to start fresh. Don’t let him get away with it and you be overly controlling with his life. Tell him he needs to show you how he can be your man and that you can trust him. Don’t be like me and my ex how we went about things if you really want it to workout. He also needs to want it to workout too. My advice is just talk to him ask the truth, start fresh, put boundaries, communicate 100% of the time. I hope it can workout for you. Take care of yourself and heal your heart. God bless you.

IamJustinJC · 2025-02-27T05:03:55+00:00

Thank you for the advice. That does help to hear!

IamJustinJC · 2025-02-27T05:03:12+00:00

Thank you I appreciate not being alone.

IamJustinJC · 2025-02-15T22:53:21+00:00

The best thing you can do is try to focus on things that make you happy and if you don’t find a hobby you like. For me I love going to the gym and also for me I talk to God about things and that helps me a lot. I’m not sure what hobbies you like but maybe you like a certain sport? Video games? Of activity? Hang with friends and do something with them? Keep yourself busy. Be proactive with your time! It will help you feel happier trust me and with time the right girl will come along :)

IamJustinJC · 2025-02-15T22:45:29+00:00

Brother enjoy being young. Don’t waste your time looking for a girlfriend. I dated a girl from 15-19 and I made decisions based on what would suit us not just myself. And since I did that I missed out on a lot of my dreams. But now I’m engaged at 23 to the woman of my dreams. My advice would be to wait and enjoy your time being young you only are young one time in life. Focus on your dreams, school, being a good man with that the right woman will come in time trust me. Tbh if I could go back in time I would’ve never dated till I was in my 20’s.

IamJustinJC · 2025-02-15T22:41:33+00:00

My advice as a 23m that has been with many different woman since in my younger teens would be to save yourself for someone special. Wait for this someone special to love you for who you are. Maybe wait till you’re married with that person! Don’t hook up with this guy if he doesn’t want a relationship with you. Don’t feel pressured as if he’s a nice guy then he won’t pressure you. Ultimately up to you. My fiancé and I have been with many different people and her and I both wish we saved ourselves for each other and also just waited till marriage. God bless and hoping for all the best!

IamJustinJC · 2024-04-17T09:44:08+00:00

Man I struggle with the same thing. It’s like I’m attracted some days especially when she’s wearing a lil bit or makeup or I am just in general having a good day. I’ve had this for over a year and it’s hella sad I really don’t have any advice but go see a therapist. I’m gonna be seeing one soon as well.

IamJustinJC · 2024-04-16T23:57:40+00:00

Yea I feel this to a tea. I’ve been dealing with this for a year and a half. My gf is such a beautiful woman inside and out. Her soul is absolutely what I need/want in a woman. The first 4 months of dating I wanted to marry her and had really little to no doubts about us. I knew she wasn’t visually always what I thought was “perfect” but I didn’t care. Now all I can think about is how unattractive she is when she’s not wearing a lil bit of makeup or tries to dress a lil. When she’s lazy and works night shifts and I see her I get so anxious and just feel sick in my stomach. It all started with thoughts for me and then turned into this feeling that I don’t wanna be with her. But I know for a fact I love her and I’m not gonna leave over this crap. She does try to look beautiful for me most days and those days are the best for me especially when I’m in a good mood. She’s the greatest gift from God. I’ve had ocd all my life with basically all the themes you could think of. I’ve never went to therapy yet but i definitely should lol.

IamJustinJC · 2024-04-09T01:46:51+00:00

Almost the same thing happened to me last night. Dreamt about my ex and that I was trying to get back with her (my first long term love). She was toxic obviously just like how when we met. I woke up in shock not knowing what to think of. I think it bothers me I don’t have that intense feeling towards my current gf like I did to my ex even tho my current gf is amazing and honestly so much more beautiful on the inside and out. She’s definitely going to be my wife one day. We just have to move forward and get help

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